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Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

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  • in reply to: Was I the problem with our failed relationship? #1099250
    twindragon
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    That was a great response. Thanks! I’ll bounce back. I always do. Sometimes it takes a while of being sad but I’ve loved and lost before.

    in reply to: Was I the problem with our failed relationship? #1099244
    twindragon
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    Thanks for the replies guys. I take breakups hard. I lack a bit of self esteem already so my ego gets bruised and I have trouble letting go. I can’t just turn my feelings off like a flick of a switch so when someone you love easily moves on it kinda hurts. Maybe she isn’t narcissistic and maybe I’m just trying to find reasons for the breakup. But ruminating and wondering why is probably not best.

    Perhaps she doesn’t know what narcissism is and doesn’t understand the definition lol. I have an ex who I share a daughter with and I’ve known her for almost 18 years and when I asked her if I was narcissistic she said def not. Absent minded sometimes. But def not narcissistic.

    in reply to: Was I the problem with our failed relationship? #1099237
    twindragon
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    I’m just having a hard time understanding the things I supposedly did wrong. Calling me a narcissist when I’m clearly not a narcissist. I get that breakups happen and you’ve got to move on but she made it sound like there were tons of problems caused by me and started to play the blame game and didn’t account for her own issues. It’s for the best really because why would I want to be with someone who can’t even communicate their issues in a relationship and try to fix them. Never apologizing for things that they did. Like one night she wanted to go out drinking and I felt sick and had a headache. Instead of understanding this when she got drunk she called me berating me saying mean things to me. Thinking I was partying. Instead of apologizing she said “but you said you were going to come out” I said maybe if I feel better. That’s no excuse to act that way. Or saying my twin brother is a total loser and thinking that In the future he will need to live with us because he might not have a job. Then me asking her to stop calling him a loser because he’s my brother and I love him. But she didn’t even care about that. She’d smoke when I told her my mom died of lung cancer. Things like that.

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