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  • in reply to: Never cheated. Never will. #876831
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    I agree it’s normal, don’t act on the fantasies and it’s just mental masterbation. No harm unless it affects your real life.

    in reply to: What should do with this guy? #876830
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    Did you send nudes with the “hey”? That’s the only way I can see you caring so much about messaging some random…. PS don’t send nudes to ransoms.

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    Ugh you made a poor choice just gotta move forward and learn from it.

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    I vote cut em off, don’t feel bad about it either.

    in reply to: I still miss him after all of this! #865770
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    It was a bit different 25-30 years ago. My bad.

    in reply to: Santa problems #865745
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    I am still in counseling, I go to the VA hospital psychiatrist every two weeks. I don’t promise my daughter to do things like seeing Santa because for me avoiding places that are likely to set off an anxiety attack is something I think about a lot before we go out. The whole Santa visit was something her mom has been talking to her about for the past few weeks and my daughter is really looking forward to going. She’s 4 years old and I really hate to disappoint her. My closest family lives a couple hours drive away, but we’re not very close. Maybe I can ask my sister if we could visit when she takes her kids?

    I do take her to see the lights, they have a couple blocks that are all lit up and you drive through in your car. Costs a little but no worry about attacks. I make her a hot chocolate and she seems to really enjoy it. We have that planned for this Saturday.

    I wish I had a friend who could come over dressed as Santa for her. I don’t actually know anyone or have friends. When I do go out of the house I have exactly where I am going and what I am doing there planned out. Ie grocery store pick up milk. I stay on mission and don’t deviate to interact with people as it can lead to problems. I guess it is not very conductive to meeting new friends but it lets me manage risk for the most part.

    I will call my sister and see if she is up for taking my daughter to the mall in Dallas when she takes her kids. I think that may be the way to go.

    Thanks for the advice, I don’t think of other options very often.

    in reply to: I still miss him after all of this! #865742
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    Probably bad advice on my part. I apologize.

    in reply to: I still miss him after all of this! #865702
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    Quick question but is this high school stuff? I’m pretty sure this is some old school stuff but if someone was doing what you describe to my sister when we were back in highschool, I would have had a “talk” with him and he wouldn’t have bothered her again. If you don’t have a brother, a cousin or even a friend could work this guy over so he would never bother you again. Some people deserve an ass whipping. Give them what they deserve.

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    Just tell him, don’t try and sugar coat it.

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    Focus on schoolwork, way more important than a relationship.

    in reply to: Blindsided by new job: over time hours #865357
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    I’ve always taken the position that I have things at work I am unwilling to negotiate on. I am a smoker and one of the non negotiable things for me is a smoke break. This came up as an issue at a security job where I was told I couldn’t smoke on my breaks even in my car or in the smoking area. Apparently they didn’t want their security guards to be seen smoking during their shift. I told them this was not going to work for me and asked if they would like me to finish the shift or leave immediately. They decided to have me finish my shift and I got a new job the next day.

    Point being is you should decide if this is a negotiable issue for you or not and make a decision accordingly.

    in reply to: My husband hates my dogs #865355
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    I hated my ex wife’s dogs. Not so much the dogs themselves but that they weren’t trained to stay off the couch and not jump on people. I also hated that she wouldn’t clean up the mud they tracked in the house. Every day I had to mop the floor and she always said she would do it “later”. Later never came and I just did it myself. Every time I tried to keep them off the couch she would say they were allowed on the couch, even with muddy feet. I guess I fall into the group that doesn’t like the mess associated with having dogs. I guess I just hate cleaning up after them all the time. If your husband is doing a lot of the cleaning up maybe that is part of the problem?

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