Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread


Was this the longest week for you, too? By Tuesday, I thought it was Thursday, and by Thursday morning I couldn’t believe we still had two more days to go ’til the weekend. And it’s not like anything happened to make the week feel long… it just was. And it’s not like, as a stay-at-home mom/work-at-home parent, my weekends are so much different than my weeks except that Drew is around to help out, and we aren’t usually as scheduled over the weekend with kids’ activities and appointments as we are during the week, and I’m not usually trying to squeeze in DW work in whatever spare windows of time I can carve out during the day (not that I don’t love this work — I do! It’s just hard sometimes to resist the temptation of a nap or…grocery shopping on my own… or a nap).

And man, this juggling two young kids thing is catching up with me. I know I sound like a broken record, but each month sort of surprises me in the unexpected complexities and challenges the kids’ various (and varying) scheduling/ emotional/ social needs bring. I think it would not feel so intense if we didn’t live in the city or even if we had a car, but we don’t, and so all shlepping of the kids is done on foot or via public transportation (often with a stroller or two in tow, a diaper bag, and Jackson’s backpack), which is why I’m always happy on the weekends when Drew is around more and I’m not outnumbered. I do love living in the city and most of the time I can’t imagine being anywhere else, but the constant strategizing and planning of how to get from Point A to Point B (even if the two points are only a mile apart) with two children, one of whom doesn’t walk at all (at 14 1/2 months and counting…) and another who won’t walk more than a few blocks without whining (and even then, it’s done at a turtle’s pace) gets old. Add to the that, Joanie’s nap schedule and her inability to sleep anywhere but in her crib, at home, right smack in the middle of the day for a couple of hours and, well, let’s just say as much as I love the ages the kids are right now, I will welcome the day getting out and about with them is a little easier. (If you couldn’t tell, this week involved a lot of shlepping around. And whining [not all of it mine]. In the god awful heat I’m so over. Fall, where did you go??). Also: I now understand why, biologically speaking, women are meant to have their babies earlier in life and not, say, around 40. Zzzzzz.

And now it’s almost the weekend and we have a jam-packed Saturday planned — the farmers market! the school carnival! a birthday party with bouncy houses! an adult evening out! — and nothing on the docket for Sunday except maybe an open house or two and probably some time in the park (I checked the weather and it’s supposed to be one of the three perfect weather days NYC gets all year, yay, which means maybe I can even wear my favorite ensemble of shorts and a sweater). What are you all up to?

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  • alsofreckly September 23, 2016, 3:11 pm

    Have you tried a scooter for Jackson? My kiddos (age 5 and 3) can be pains when walking but will literally go for miles on a scooter.

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    • Dear Wendy September 23, 2016, 4:05 pm

      Yeah, he has a scooter, but his limit on it is about a mile, for whatever reason.

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  • Kate September 23, 2016, 4:52 pm

    They had that stupid Healthy Measures testing at work today where if you pass, you get a discount on our crappy expensive health insurance. They weigh you, take your height and waist measurement, blood pressure, and 3 big containers of blood. My friend won’t do it because they tell him he’s fat, and someone else told me the nurse called her obese (she’s not). Thanks for the extra demoralization, employer.

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    • Kate September 23, 2016, 4:54 pm

      Now I’m drinking three glasses of wine at the same time.

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      • MaterialsGirl September 25, 2016, 11:47 am

        I thought they weren’t supposed to ‘judge’ with those, info only!? Yeesh!

        I was always just happy to take the cash with BCBS. Now that I’m back on Humana, the rewards system is private and you score points for gift cards. Still not bad, and it rewards more of your activity rather than “are you traditionally in shape.”

  • Vathena September 23, 2016, 4:59 pm

    As I said to my newlywed neighbors the other day (while I was late for work and carrying a shrieking, writhing three-year old under my arm), when you have a baby you give up your dreams of getting anywhere on time. Then I found out they’re expecting- ha! In that same vein, we’d had amazing plans tonight to go out to dinner and see Amy Schumer live. This morning the aforementioned three-year-old woke up with a raging ear infection- her first- and has been feverish and pukey all day. My husband took off to take her to the doctor, and we cancelled our babysitter and dinner reservations. Now I’m watching Mary Poppins instead of Amy Schumer. To top it off, it’s the tenth anniversary of our first date! Sigh.

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    • Dear Wendy September 23, 2016, 6:14 pm

      What a bummer!! But I’m glad you caught the ear infection before your baby burst an ear drum, like what happened to Joanie earlier this year. You and your husband will definitely have to have a 10th anniversary do-over.

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      • Vathena September 23, 2016, 6:51 pm

        Well, it helps a LOT when they can say, “My ear’s hurting, Mommy!” She’s been sleeping like crap all week too; I hope that’s the reason why and we’ll all get some decent sleep over the weekend!

  • bittergaymark September 23, 2016, 6:47 pm

    As somebody with ZERO kids, I, too, feel overwhelmed this weekend !
    Whew. Looks like I am stuck first flitting around various Art Museums all day tomorrow with an obligation to attend a dreary concert picnic at Hollywood Bowl later in the evening Oh, and I really need to start seriously plotting my next grand voyage — an adventure to South America… 😉 Hope I can somehow squeeze it all in! Oh, the horrors of be childfree. 🙂

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    • RedRoverRedRover September 23, 2016, 7:24 pm

      Where are you going Mark? I went to the Galapagos and it was amazing. Friends went to Macchu Picchu (sp?) and said it was fantastic as well.

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      • bittergaymark September 23, 2016, 11:51 pm

        Peru and Chile. Machu Picchu and Easter Island for sure. Sorting out all the trip details… Still plotting and planning it out.

      • RedRoverRedRover September 24, 2016, 6:09 am

        Holy shit, Easter Island? That’s awesome!

    • Dear Wendy September 23, 2016, 7:49 pm

      Live it up!

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  • kare September 23, 2016, 8:12 pm

    This has been a long week for me too. I’m still working right now, and will probably be working until 9 pm. Kind of regretting my decision to go out drinking until 2 last night since I’m doing a 13 hour work day. Whoops. But I got to finally meet one of my peers in person! We were partnered together for training and became good friends, but we had never met since she’s in a different state.

    I can barely handle my cats, which makes me question my parenting abilities. My parents moved and couldn’t take the family cat, so he moved to my place. He’s 16 and almost blind. This morning he fell behind the couch and got stuck. 🙁 He was physically okay but not happy.

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    • snoopy128 September 24, 2016, 11:41 am

      Your poor cat. I feel sorry for him, but I also nearly spat out my tea laughing at the image of him falling behind the couch.
      I’m sure once he’s more settled in your place, things will be easier.

      When my dog was a terrible puppy, I seriously questioned why I thought I wanted to have kids in the next 5 years. At least the puppy slept through the night.

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  • Ashley September 23, 2016, 8:54 pm

    Ha! You and my sister man both saying having young kids in your forties is tough ALMOST makes me rethink things….

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    • RedRoverRedRover September 23, 2016, 9:04 pm

      Yeah but I think in other ways it’s easier. I can’t imagine 25-year-old-me dealing well with some of this stuff. I think you’re calmer, you have a better idea of what’s important and what can slide, etc. Plus you have more confidence in yourself as a person. Not to mention that you’re at a point in your career where you’re not trying to prove yourself. You’re more senior, people know you’re good. Also you’re generally making more money. And your mom’s more likely to be retired so she can help. 🙂

      Yeah, it’s tiring. But I’m happy that I had my kids at 37 and 40 instead of 27 and 30.

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  • Kate September 24, 2016, 12:45 pm

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    • snoopy128 September 24, 2016, 2:44 pm

      That black velvet off the shoulder one is really cute. I just wish I had somewhere to wear it..

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      • Kate September 24, 2016, 2:47 pm

        You know that when you do, you won’t be able to find anything!

      • snoopy128 September 25, 2016, 11:19 am

        Kate, your wisdom is infinite!

  • MaterialsGirl September 25, 2016, 10:06 am

    I’ve been in Europe all week for work and spent the weekend in Paris and got to meet up with a really good friend of mine who lives in London (my big sis from sorority days). It was really really lovely, but I have to say that CdG airport lines are just silly, but again, I’m used to traveling in the US with TSA Pre so I’m a bit spoiled.
    Anyway, i’m over the Atlantic now and trying to punch out a few pieces of work since I have semi-decent internet for the first time in 8 days. I’m really dreading this next week+. I’m running a really big customer event that starts next Sunday evening and runs until Tuesday afternoon. Of course, the department that I support has booked me for several different meetings and customer visits the rest that week and the next.. and then at some point I head to Odessa for a week. I’m already burnt out thinking about the next month. Also, we were going to go to Italy on United Supersaver tickets, but with more work already filling up November and potential union contracts, I don’t think we’ll get it in. I’m going to need SOMETHING to look forward to once I step off this plane or I won’t be able to survive through to the holidays.

    Also, all week, i’ve been having horrible horrible night sweats. No bad dreams, just waking up in the middle of the night soaked and freezing cold. Any thoughts other than Europe’s lack of top sheet?

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    • Dear Wendy September 25, 2016, 11:40 am

      Weekend in Paris! (Sorry, I couldn’t focus on anything else after that…).

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      • MaterialsGirl September 25, 2016, 11:45 am

        I know! It was absolutely lovely. I was hesitant to go at first, I thought I should just head home after my work trip ended, but then the detour to Paris was going to save the company a pretty good chunk of money, so I decided to go for it! I loved it and I can’t wait to return

  • Kate September 25, 2016, 12:13 pm

    I just cold won the fall game on the street.

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  • Dear Wendy September 25, 2016, 5:42 pm

    So, last night Drew and I went out to dinner together at this restaurant in our neighborhood and there was this table of younger people sitting next to us and they were talking about the three fictional characters that describe them (the internet meme that’s been going around this past week) and this one woman said she chose Elaine Benus and this other woman sitting at the table said, “Who’s Elaine Benus?” And she goes: “You know, from ‘Seinfeld.'” And the other woman goes, “Oh, I’ve never seen ‘Seinfeld.'” And I suddenly felt a million years old. And then I got up to go to the bathroom and who do I see? Jerry Seinfeld, sitting with his wife and some other guy, talking about the Emmy’s.

    Sometimes life is so crazy.

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    • MaterialsGirl September 26, 2016, 9:52 am

      !!! Awesome!!!

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    • K September 26, 2016, 12:10 pm

      What a coincidence! So cool that you saw him.

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    • Anonymousse September 26, 2016, 12:32 pm

      Lol! That’s so funny.

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