Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

Keep me in your thoughts this weekend as I solo parent until Monday night. For Drew’s birthday a couple weeks ago, I gave him tickets to LA to visit his friends, and he is on his way there as we speak. This trip is well-deserved and long overdue, but damn, Imma miss him and miss having an extra set of hands to corral these kids of ours. Already, Jackson is like, “Mom! Mom! What are our plans this weekend, huh?! What do you have planned? What are we gonna do? What did you plan for us? Plans, plans, plans, plans!” And I’m like, Dude, I had a second child so you wouldn’t bug me about planning shit to do all the time. Go play with your sister while I read a book and file my nails, seriously.

I think my kids are spoiled with too many fun things all the time — yesterday, for example, Jackson played hooky and got to be on TV in the morning and then spend the afternoon in Chinatown — and when we have an unplanned weekend — because I planned Drew’s weekend, ok, or I haven’t gotten around to planning ours — they (or at least Jackson) can’t fathom unscheduled time and what to do with it.

I’m gonna be honest: I can’t really either. A whole weekend, two kids, one adult, and not a single thing planned. WHAT was I thinking?!

Send tequila.

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    floats_in_the_ocean April 27, 2018, 3:57 pm

    I love that my 9 year old is my mini me. She turned me last night and said, “mami, can we watch gilmore girls this weekend, read a book and just cuddle on the couch?”
    “yes honey, we can.”

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      carolann April 27, 2018, 4:52 pm

      That’s so sweet! I have a 3 yo mini me. She slept with me last night and this morning she said “mommy, roll over so I can see your beautiful face” aaaaaaaawwwwwwww ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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      Dear Wendy April 27, 2018, 6:46 pm

      I want a 9-year-old daughter like that some day!

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    carolann April 27, 2018, 4:58 pm

    How about popcorn and a Shirley Temple a-thon? You could also make Shirley Temples
    https://www.recipeboy.com/2011/05/how-to-make-a-shirley-temple/
    PJs all day!!!!

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    Moneypenny April 27, 2018, 5:23 pm

    Maybe Jackson could, like, organize all of your cupboards or something? (I’m just kidding, but it seems like a way to possibly harness all of that energy…?)

    I’m spending the entire weekend studying for an exam I have in a month and that I feel totally behind on studying for. And only behind because I read comments on a forum where people were like, “I studied 168 hours!” “I studied for 3 weeks/8 hours a day!” -Cue freakout from me.- I think I can make a good dent in the material, though. I hope. Ack.

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      Dear Wendy April 27, 2018, 6:47 pm

      Eek, that’s not nerve-racking at all. Good luck!

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    keyblade April 27, 2018, 5:27 pm

    Good luck, Wendy. Maybe a movie night, campout, with marshmallow popcorn?

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    Kate April 27, 2018, 6:25 pm

    Literally every time I said “I’m bored,” my mom said “why don’t you make play dough?” (the kind made of flour, water, salt, and food coloring). And then she went back to sending emails, because she worked for a computer company and they actually had email in the 70s and 80s. Or we went to the mall.

    Is anyone else following this arrest of the Golden State Killer suspect after 42 frickin years? And did you read the book “I’ll Be Gone In The Dark” by the late Michelle McNamara? What a piece of shit this guy was. Highly recommend the book, it’s fascinating.

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      Dear Wendy April 27, 2018, 6:50 pm

      I have not read the book yet but it sounds riveting!

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        Dear Wendy April 29, 2018, 7:00 am

        I’m so annoyed – the book sounds so interesting, that I decided to buy it last night to start reading (assuming it would be on hold at the library for ages and ages); it’s sold out in hard copy, so I bought a digital copy to download to my kindle app on my iPad. Except that after I purchased it, I got a message that there isn’t enough space on my iPad to download anything new (bc it is full of games for the kids). I’ll have to delete some shit, but I’m not sure what and didn’t have the patience to go through stuff, so the book will have to wait.

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        Kate April 29, 2018, 7:25 am

        Oh, that blows! I think it probably experienced a huge curiosity surge this week because of the arrest. But when you get to it, it’s worth deleting some space.

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        Kate April 29, 2018, 7:27 am

        If I had the physical book I’d send it to you, but it’s on Kindle.

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      keyblade April 27, 2018, 7:46 pm

      I heard that. It’s nice to hear about people getting closure.

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      anonymousse April 27, 2018, 8:43 pm

      I read the book! I’m normally not squeamish, but I had problems sleeping while I was reading that, he is utterly terrifying.
      I wonder if he continued additonal crimes, or more infrequently or disguised himself better.
      I’ve been so excited that they got him. I’m also pumped that genealogy sites could open a door to solve cold cases. It’s interesting the debate of privacy concerns vs. solving horrible crimes.

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        Kate April 28, 2018, 5:26 am

        I know, it was super creepy. I had issues at night too. And look at the author, it got to her so bad she had insomnia and anxiety and basically the whole thing killed her. But she was determined that this life-taking and life-ruining piece of garbage be caught.

        The book has everything – good writing, memoir, true crime, sleuthing, science, and now we apparently have a resolution. Does it get better??

        Interestingly, my male co-worker who’s reading it said it doesn’t creep him out, maybe because he’s not a woman. I don’t know how it couldn’t! I reminded him that the men were obviously really traumatized too, but yeah, it didn’t seem to get him in that visceral way it gets us.

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        Kate April 28, 2018, 5:29 am

        And yeah, I cannot wait for details of what he did between 79 and 86, for a job etc. And then why he seemed to stop the crimes, and did he really? Im also extremely interested in his wife, like, she must have known, right??

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        ktfran April 28, 2018, 7:48 am

        I was going to read the book, but I’m not sure I can handle it.

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        Kate April 28, 2018, 7:54 am

        I don’t think you could handle it.

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        ktfran April 28, 2018, 8:40 am

        Which is a total bummer, because as you said, it has everything! But yeah, I wouldn’t be able to get through it.

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        anonymousse April 28, 2018, 11:42 am

        Yeah, I’m so interested in finding out more. I love reading thrillers, real or fiction, and this one really got to me. I actually hadn’t known, or maybe dismissed that MM had OD’d until you made the comment a few weeks ago, @Kate.

        The level of detail of the reconnaissance he did, and what he did to these people was just excruciating to read. Truly sickening. I can’t believe he got caught shoplifting dog spray and a hammer during that time period, and yes, he lost his job, but that little detail never went anywhere else.

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        anonymousse April 28, 2018, 11:44 am

        Did anyone listen to the podcast Atlanta? I know these sort of true crime stories get blown up, but it really seems like the 70s and 80s were filled with serial kidnappings and killers.

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      Jd April 30, 2018, 8:44 am

      I have been following that as they have that new show on ID I believe. I also remember hearing about it in my very young years. I recall mom buying exta window locks and such. I was shocked when they found him the other day. I just wish he had more living years to rot in prison.

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    MaterialsGirl April 28, 2018, 10:48 am

    Heading home from a work trip in Switzerland.. stupid Lufthansa canceled my flight from zurich to frankfurt (so i could catch a United flight back to Chicago).. BUT the good news is that despite getting home 4 hours later, I got on a flight where I was upgraded the whole way. So win win for me.

    I bought a wooden toy and teddy bear for the impending little one. Also got one for my recently born nephew and as-yet-unborn other niece or nephew. It was so fun picking something out. Kinda made it more real.

    I also dropped about 750 bucks on clothes at Subito Kohfler.. which is my favorite, if not somewhat overpriced, women’s store in Lucerne. THe woman there was SOOO helpful and remembers me from 6 months ago when I also spent as much. I got a lot of cute clothes for this summer that aren’t “maternity” just a little more forgiving. Will be able to wear them the following summer as well!

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    MaterialsGirl April 28, 2018, 11:29 am

    my parents two favorite lines were “go pay with your sister/brother” and “learn to be bored”

    maybe you can get him a book on massage and then he can practice on you? (Win!)

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