Yesterday Drew and I had a whole day to ourselves. Both kids were in school, Drew took the day off, and we had our babysitter pick up the kids from school and take care of them til we got home, shortly after their bedtime. We spent the day wandering around Manhattan, being spontaneous in a way you cannot be when you’re with kids, and eating really good food. It was like being on vacation, but a lot cheaper. Drew suggested we not look at our phones or follow the news, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to do that, and it was over lunch that I was holding my phone to my ear, listening to Susan Collins’ speech and her announcement that she’d vote yes on Kavanaugh, all but confirming his seat on the highest court in our land. I ordered bourbon.
Today it will be made official and my thoughts are with all my fellow Americans who feel angry, depressed, and betrayed by this vote, especially victims of sexual assault who have likely been triggered AF these last few weeks, and who have had some of their worst fears confirmed by a system that continues to dismiss them in the cruelest, most degrading ways. You are not alone. This is a monumental setback for our country and the great experiment that was our constitution and our democracy. It’s a huge battle to lose, but it’s not the last one and we have to press on. Midterms are one month from today.
In the meantime, here are 12 Self-Care Tips If You’re Struggling To Deal With Everything Today (I also suggest wandering around your city aimlessly and spontaneously with someone you love.) And Anne Lammot has a new book coming out in a few days all about “the nuggets of hope and wisdom that are buried within us that can make life sweeter than we ever imagined,” especially important in periods of national or global despair.