Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

I hope everyone who celebrates had a merry Christmas. And if it the day was difficult for you, I hope you are finding relief that it’s over and comfort that 2020 will be history soon, too. After three months of managing my kids’ remote learning full-time, I am really looking forward to a week of chilling out and not doing much. We have new puzzles and new games, lots of leftovers in the freezer I can pull out for quick and delicious meals, and some sunny days in the forecast to make long walks in the park especially enjoyable. There is a lot I am missing this season/ this year, but still so much to be grateful for, including all of you who continue making this a community I am proud to be part of and contribute to. Thank you for your loyalty and your participation – for all your comments, forum topic threads, emails, donations, and sharing the site with others. I haven’t been able to devote the time here than I normally would pre-pandemic/ full-time remote schooling, so I am especially thankful that you’ve continued to make DW a regular destination in your web surfing, whether it’s daily, weekly, or just occasionally, and whether you are a prolific contributor or a quiet lurker (though we’d be happy to hear from you any time!). Thank you so much.

Here are a few links from around the web that may interest you:

I’m reading this crazy story, which is blowing up social media this week, about a journalist who blew up her “perfect Brooklyn life” for a source she fell in love with: The Journalist and the Pharma Bro

Related: 7 People on Blowing Up Their Lives for Love

Also related (and maybe relatable?): All the Time I Wasted Trying to Please Indifferent Men

In the Pandemic: Feminism Has Failed Women

The Relationship Advice Real Women Swear By

This is fun: 2020 Was Wild. These Pop Culture Obsessions Got Us Through

After the pandemic: Let’s Start Over

Happy Holidays From the Texts of Exes Past

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    Kate December 26, 2020, 7:35 pm

    Last Wednesday my husband had to drop off a stool sample at the doctor (he’s fine, it was just a physical) and I came along because I had literally nothing else to do. Driving by Elizabeth Warren’s house we saw her and Bruce out front taking a pic of their dog Bailey. I saw today that she posted the pic as her holiday message on Instagram. I also just want to repeat that she said “What a cutie!” to my dog when I ran into her on a pandemic walk. She’s my President.

    Also, unrelated, sometimes I sit down to pee and just don’t get up. I sit around and drink wine and do stuff on my phone and listen to music.

    12 days off work is quite something in these times.

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    Kate December 27, 2020, 7:55 am

    Another thing, I’ve had the Dyson Airwrap for a month now, and I LOVE it.

    I will say there’s nothing like the Revlon brush to give you a fast, idiot-proof straight blowout. That’s true. So you shouldn’t throw out your Revlon if you get this. But omg, the curling barrels on this thing. I use them to blow out my hair after drying it part way with the dryer attachment, and just following the basic instructions I get an extremely volumized, smooth blowout with what looks like beautifully brush-curled ends. And the curls hold up all day (and after that) for me.

    I do use the brushes a bit too, and one day I dried my hair straight with the flat brush and it worked well. I like them for smoothing out some pieces before curling them. I need to try them more for a full blow-dry.

    Anyway, like I said before, this probably isn’t for you if you’re happy with what you’re doing and it’s not damaging your hair. But I definitely think it’s for you if you have my kind of wavy, frizzy hair and you want a lot of versatility and to avoid too much heat. Also keep in mind the curling barrels can be used different ways. They can grab your hair toward the ends and wrap it around the barrel OR you can wrap your own hair around, starting at the root, and hold the ends out for a beach wave.

    There’s definitely a learning curve and some experimentation needed, and I watched a lot of videos, but once you get it it’s game-changing. If you’re on the fence, I say buy it. I think you can return it if you don’t like it. (Yes, i know it’s a lot of money, but there are other categories I spend little on, like makeup, clothes, and home goods. I am willing to spend money on hair).

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      TheLadyE December 27, 2020, 10:34 pm

      I’m so glad you like the Dyson! It sounds epic and well worth the money. If I straightened my hair more, I would possibly have gotten it. Would love to see a before/after pic!

      My hair is naturally curly and I pretty much always style it curly, with the exception of my bangs which I straighten/blow out. To keep my Ulta Diamond status, I ended up getting a new CHI straightener. It was about $120 and is next level up from the one I have now. Plus, my straightener, is 4 years old and I use it every day so it’s about time. This new one also has an automatic timer and turns itself off after an hour, which my anxiety-filled self really appreciates.

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        Kate December 28, 2020, 7:38 am

        Do you air dry or diffuse or what?

        I have like a 2B or 2C wave that can look really nice when air dried or partially diffused and then air dried, then touched up a little with a curling wand, IF I just sit indoors and do nothing. It just doesn’t hold up for any kind of outdoor activity unless i use a strong product and there’s no wind. It’s not practical for day to day. But I did used to get a lot of compliments when I went out like that. People really like natural curls.

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        TheLadyE December 28, 2020, 4:30 pm

        I do a combination: air dry for about 20-30 minutes (as long as it takes me to get dressed and put makeup on) and then diffuse/blow dry. I need to figure out which category my curls are. I’ve been compared to Debra Messing even though my curls aren’t as tight as hers were in the early Will & Grace years. I’ve tried to straighten it many times but it always wants to go back to some kind of wave so 99.9% of the time I don’t bother. Plus, I live in NC so the humidity is awful many months out of the year. If I lived in someplace drier I might try more frequently. I’m definitely jealous of women who can achieve that salon blowout look! The grass is always greener, I guess.

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    Ange December 27, 2020, 8:24 pm

    I was so excited I got to share the article about exes texting during the holidays with a girl in one of my groups, she’d been hit with one from a guy that had ghosted her a few months ago before they even got to meet. That was my good deed for the day, she’s steering clear now lol.

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