Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

This song was featured on Sunday’s episode of “Girls” and I loved it. It’s not new, but I’m so out of loop as far as music goes that it’s new to me, and I’ve been listening to it on repeat all week. It makes me feel nostalgic for a life that wasn’t mine, if that makes sense.

I’m starting to get excited for spring. It’s still super cold here, but we had a couple of random warm days over the last couple of weeks and now I can see the light at the long tunnel of winter. I think I’ve gained, like, 7 or 8 pounds since Thanksgiving and I don’t feel good about myself and I’m really excited to start riding my bike again and maybe even start jogging, which I haven’t done since I was about four or five months pregnant. And maybe once it’s warm and sunny again I won’t feel so blah and if I don’t feel so blah maybe I won’t be tempted to eat chocolate and cheese and bread in an attempt to feel less blah. I’ll just go for a walk instead. I mean, I walk now. I walk a lot. But it doesn’t make me feel less blah. Well, maybe a little less blah. But not enough that I don’t still crave chocolate and bread and cheese, you know? And wine.

Last night I had two margaritas the size of my head, which was kind of fun (also a beer and a half, plus two of those little tiny shots of wine they give you at gallery openings). And I wasn’t even hungover this morning, which is totally awesome. I made sure to drink tons of water when I got home and I took an Advil and I crossed my fingers and said said some prayers and sure as shit, I woke up this morning feeling fine. I was out with my friend Katherine, who is an old friend who goes all the way back to my early Chicago days. Back maybe 8 or 9 years ago, the two of us used to go out cruising for cute boys every weekend. I’d swing by and pick Katherine up at 10 and we’d drive to Wicker Park or Logan Square or sometimes Bucktown and start making the rounds at our favorite bars, the ones with the cutest guys. (And to those worried about drinking and driving, I hardly drank anything on those nights. I’d nurse like two beers from 10 to midnight and then switch to water until 2 and then drive home, sober as a lamp post). Anyway, we didn’t go cruising for cute guys last night, although I did see one guy who looked cute from the back and I encouraged Katherine to talk to him since she’s the single one, but she didn’t. And then when we got up to leave, she was all, “Oh, he’s gone! Guess I can’t talk to him,” and I swear it was like every weekend night we ever shared from 2004-2006 all over again. Except I was home by 11.

Anyhoo, I have no point, but if you’d like to discuss your weekend plans or your vacation plans or what you ate for dinner last night, I am all ears. We were supposed to go to a karaoke party tonight but it got canceled so now Drew and I are going to take advantage of having a sitter and go out just the two of us which we haven’t done since, I don’t know, maybe early January or something. Things might get wild.

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  • kerrycontrary March 15, 2013, 4:09 pm

    I am so ready for the weekend! Only an hour and fifteenish minutes left. I’ve had such a stressful week. My grandma broke her hip. But because she’s 82, the surgery did a number on her and she was in the ICU for most of this week. And then on wednesday she got all paranoid and thought they were trying to poison/kill her (which actually brought me some laughs). Plus work was insane! Sometimes being a librarian is actually hard. Tomorrow I’m headed to PA to see said grandma and make my parents/grandfather some food that they can just heat up quickly. I get to see my sister who is pregnant and I haven’t seen her since Thanksgiving!! I’m going to touch her belly 10 times (after asking of course, because her belly is not public property!). I’m sad I’m missing St. Patties Day celebrations, but you do for family 🙂

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    • MELH March 17, 2013, 1:39 pm

      A few years ago, my grandpa was in the hospital, and when they took him off the ventilator and he could talk, he told us this elaborate story about how he escaped from the hospital with another patients, but they hunted him down and found him and chained him up and made him come back. And when he finished the story he ended with “If I had money, and I was sure, I would sue.” No idea what medication they had him on, but it must have been some pretty strong shit!!

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  • GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 4:19 pm

    I opened a beer at 3:30, despite being at work (from home) until 4:30 or so. Fiance at a potbrownie. Now we’re debating where to go for happy hour (probably taking the bus) so we can people watch. It’s 72 and the sun is shining. I am so joyful right now.

    And I picked my wedding dress up from the tailor and it fits, no more alterations needed! And we’re about 60% done addressing and assembling invitations which is great.

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    • theattack March 15, 2013, 4:24 pm

      That’s so exciting about the invitations! We sent ours out a week and a half ago, and getting RSVPs in the mail is the most exciting part of my day right now. We try to use our psychic abilities to determine how many are in the mailbox and how many yeses and nos there will be, which is always fun. Invitations are a lot of work, but getting RSVPs is awesome, and they make up for it!

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      • GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 4:32 pm

        Awe, that’s so fun!! I bet you’ll get 7 RSVPs tomorrow 🙂

      • Amanda March 15, 2013, 4:48 pm

        Getting RSVPs in the mail was my favorite part of wedding planning! For me, they trickled in until the RSVP deadline and then they arrived in vast numbers 🙂 I hope that you get a few today!

    • Fabelle March 15, 2013, 4:30 pm

      Damn GG, I hadn’t really had spring fever until just now, reading that first paragraph. Your whole daytime buzz, about-to-go-out in the nice weather description just made something click in my brain, haha

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      • GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 4:35 pm

        Love it!

    • Lianne March 15, 2013, 4:32 pm

      I just opened a bottle of wine at work! Don’t worry, I am sharing. However, I also cut my thumb on the foil. Booooo….

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    • SpaceySteph March 16, 2013, 3:02 am

      GG are you hand addressing?

      I have THE WORST handwriting and so we used labels, despite it being an etiquette faux pas.

      I bought the giant clear labels and printed the names in the same curly font our names were in the invitations and the addresses in the same font as the rest of the invitations and called it good. They actually did come out looking pretty nice, but I know some of my grandmother’s friends must have tsked a little over the death of calligraphy.

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      • GatorGirl March 16, 2013, 2:05 pm

        I am hand addressing all 115 invitations. I’ve gotten all of the return addresses on there, next project is the “to” address. It’s a pain in the butt but I couldn’t justify the cost of a caligrapher since my handwritting is pretty good.

        We considered labels, but decided my hand cramps would be worth it.

      • SpaceySteph March 17, 2013, 12:32 am

        I’m sure the hand cramps will be worth it! Good for you! I have discovered during TY notes that I can only write about 5 (actual notes, not just the envelopes) before my handwriting devolves from bad to impossible. So I have been writing those in small batches.
        I wonder if any will get returned as non-deliverable because they can’t read the address. Of course I’m handwriting the return address too, so they might be getting non-deliverable out in the universe somewhere and not making it back.

  • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 4:20 pm

    Good song, I haven’t heard it before either. Do you listen to a ton of music with Jackson? I used to love dancing around to my music (not kids music) with my daughter. Well, I still do. But it was awesome when she would know the lyrics to my songs.
    I’m ready for spring also. Those few nice days were such a tease.

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    • Fabelle March 15, 2013, 4:34 pm

      Did you used to pick her up and dance? One of my earliest memories is of my mom carrying me around the living room while she was dancing 🙂 I must have only been a baby (or maybe 1 or 2) so I’m not sure how I remember!

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      • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 4:47 pm

        Oh yea. I’m trying to remember some of the songs we used to dance to. Lots of Jim Croce, Shake Shake Senora was a favorite. Hearing those songs bring me right back to my little first apartment. Wish I could think of some of the other songs.

      • Classic March 15, 2013, 7:00 pm

        Such good memories 🙂 Bobby McFerrin Don’t Worry Be Happy with my son in my arms when he was so little.

    • ktfran March 15, 2013, 4:41 pm

      My nieces, sisters and I have dance parties when we’re all together. So much fun! And I can dance like an idiot and not care. Running man anyone?

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      • ktfran March 15, 2013, 4:55 pm

        Duh! Shopping cart? Yes. The Roger Rabbit? Of course.

      • lemongrass March 15, 2013, 6:09 pm

        I love doing that! I already kinda do with E, as much as i can dance without damaging his little brain.

    • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 5:05 pm

      Five for Fighting, 100 years to live. The song itself wasn’t anything special, but the lyrics were to me. Imagining what I’d be like at those ages, what she’d be like.

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  • theattack March 15, 2013, 4:21 pm

    I’ve had a pretty rough week. Last Thursday night I ended up in the hospital for an anaphylactic reaction, and then our dryer broke on Sunday. Tuesday my car broke down after work, and my fiance has been driving me to my commute super early in the morning and picking me up really late in the evenings, which puts him driving about 150 miles a day driving me to work and back. Then we’re too tired to do anything when we get back, and our apartment is a mess because we’ve only been in it for about an hour before we have to go to bed. And last night I ordered Chinese food and realized I was allergic to the sauce, so I had to eat it dry, which sucked. And apparently the sucky food gave me a virus because I’ve been sick all day and can’t leave work for several hours because I don’t have a car. Ugh.

    Sorry for the bitching. I’m so glad it’s the weekend, but all I’m going to get to do this weekend is try to fix all the stuff that’s broken, vomit, and do wedding planning. It’s just been one of those weeks where everything goes wrong, and I’m really glad it’s over.

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    • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 4:27 pm

      I’m happy you’re getting a weekend at least!

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      • theattack March 15, 2013, 4:31 pm

        Thanks! I figured my post would piss you off since you hate when people complain about stuff that everyone has to deal with. haha Sorry for doing that. I’m really excited to go home and sleep though. I hope you get to go shopping tonight!

      • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 4:51 pm

        Oh jeez, don’t think that! I guess I did say that, didn’t I? I think it was specific to a letter, can’t remember which. Reading yours made me feel bad about my ranty post before. At least I dont have to be in the car for 150 miles a day!

      • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 5:09 pm

        I remember now. It was the farm living lady who wanted to be in the city. Yea, I didn’t feel much sympathy for her for having to do laundry or whatever it was she was complaining about. Got me on a cranky day.

    • GatorGirl March 15, 2013, 4:34 pm

      🙁 sorry so much shitty stuff is going on!! At least you have cute little kittens to cuddle for a few more weeks!

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    • katie March 15, 2013, 4:35 pm

      is it still the red 40 that is getting to you?

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      • theattack March 15, 2013, 4:44 pm

        I’m only guessing that’s what my allergy is. I need to go to the doctor and find out for sure. But that’s another reason this week sucks: No red gatorade, no red Tootsie roll pops, Teriyaki sauce, or anything. I might have accidentally eaten some last night though instead of getting a virus…

    • beelzebarb March 15, 2013, 5:35 pm

      Ugh! I have some sort of stomach thing too. I hope you feel better! I’m all for wearing green on St. Patrick’s Day but that doesn’t extend to BEING green :/

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    • lemongrass March 15, 2013, 6:12 pm

      Aww feel better!

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  • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 4:23 pm

    Yikes. That link makes me yearn for a life where I had simply never heard that song… 😉

    My weekend is looking rather MEH at this point. I have yet another show Saturday night that I am worried about as I don’t think this new group works very well together — even though we all genuinely like one another very much. The onstage chemistry is just NOT where it should be — and, sadly, I don’t know how to fix that really. It bums me out as I was so excited about this latest opportunity. I really need to learn to stop being excited about things, I guess.

    My allergies are thoroughly kicking my ass and have been now for a week. Ugh, I am barely functioning. I wonder what it is like to just see a doctor when one is so sick. Must be nice, I guess. Oh, well. Whatever. My head feels like it’s in dirty wet cement.

    In a week I am supposed to drive to Arizona, but I worry about my car. My life is just one long series of tedious disasters lately and I’m more than ready for the big one to finally knock me into oblivion. But it seems I shall live pointlessly forever. Bah… Yay. Ugh.

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    • Astronomer March 15, 2013, 5:47 pm

      Okay, so when I went through my poor years (er, decade), I used to buy people’s prescriptions from them in times like these. I’m sure it wouldn’t surprise you to know that people sell prescription antibiotics and allergy pills just like the fun stuff. Other poor folks often don’t fill their prescriptions or fill their prescriptions and save the pills for a real emergency. Some will be happy to sell to you for quick cash. I used to get hooked up by asking my “partners in artistic poverty” from my neighborhood 4:00 a.m. dive. It’s awesome to beat an ear infection for $40.

      DISCLAIMER: Yeah, I know this is illegal and dangerous and blah-bitty blah blah. Po’ foks gotta live, too.

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      • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 5:55 pm

        I wouldn’t know what to take, honestly. I’ve spent so much money over the years at shitty cheapo clinics and nothing they’ve ever suggested has even vaguely worked. I always just have to ride it out until it becomes a sinus infection and then go on antibiotics. But I’m nowhere near the sinus infection stage yet. It’s probably two to three weeks out… Ugh.

    • jlyfsh March 15, 2013, 5:55 pm

      I don’t know if you’ve ever tried it but Chlorotromiton (I know that is not spelled right, sorry for the atrocious spelling!!), they’re called Chlor Tabs at CVS, Target, etc, actually work pretty well for when you’re having an attack and need to not fall asleep. I’ve been living off of them in between my normal daily zyrtec lately. Which I don’t know if you’ve tried before but otc zyrtec actually works fairly well and is one of the only ones that also doesn’t turn me in to a zombie.

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      • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 5:58 pm

        I’ve never even heard of that one… I’ll check it out. Thanks.

      • comeoneileen March 16, 2013, 10:36 am

        Mark, I’ve got chronic allergy/sinus problems too. The stuff that works best for me is either Mucinex (the kind from behind the counter you have to show your drivers license for) and Allegra. I don’t know if you’ve ever tried Nasocort nasal spray but it really helps too. Over the past year I’ve also started using a sinus irrigation set on a weekly basis and nasal saline spray once or twice a day. These have really helped me keep things under control and prevent allergies/colds from turning into a sinus infection. Sorry if you’ve heard of or tried all of these things before, sinus problems are awful!

  • ktfran March 15, 2013, 4:27 pm

    Spring needs to get here stat. I’m tired of 30’s. Can we please get some 50’s and sunshine?

    I’m sad. My favorite dinner/drink friend is leaving me. We also worked together. I saw her probably six days a week. I have other friends, but they aren’t quite the same. I need to find a new one. Stat.

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    • d2 March 16, 2013, 12:32 pm

      Ha! I am so looking forward to temperatures getting into the 30s (F). Last week we got into the 30s and the snow started to melt. But the weather reports say for the next week we are back to highs in the 20s.

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  • katie March 15, 2013, 4:32 pm

    i had an awesome, busy and crazy week! i was in PA with a bunch of my team and we kicked a ton of ass and had a bunch of fun.. there are so many stories- finally meeting my coworker who is a came out late in life gay man who is making up for lost time and cracks me up, talking about “red wings”, drinking a ton, creating a buffet spread that everyone loved, potentially getting hit on by a marketing exec, possibly being “poached” into a corporate chef position (!), my boss’s boss telling me that my job is secure, one on one time with the fucking CEO before we got on the plane, being asked back for next week…. it was just all around awesome.

    im TIRED though. hard work, bar time, sleep, get up, repeat- that was my week. lol

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    • katie March 15, 2013, 4:40 pm

      OH and making a cake for cake boss! i wish i could post a picture!!

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  • bethany March 15, 2013, 4:32 pm

    I’m ready to be done with this 30 degree nonsense!! I can’t wait until I don’t have to wear my winter coat while I’m on my scooter! Plus, the cold has been really rough on her engine… Scoot needs some warmth and sunshine, and so do I!

    This weekend we’re going to pick up one of our wedding pictures that we had professionally framed. I was put in charge of picking out the frame (we had a Groupon that was about to expire, so I had to go by myself), and I’m afraid Dave won’t like it. I showed him pictures of it, but I think he was just pretending that he liked it… Oh well.

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    • Lianne March 15, 2013, 4:36 pm

      Where is your 30 degree weather?? I am soooo over it too 🙁 Wine helps warm me, but I would prefer a warm breeze and the sun. 🙂

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      • bethany March 15, 2013, 4:43 pm

        Philly. Truthfully, it’s been mostly in the low 40s, but it still sucks. 50 and sunshine sounds so nice right now! Last weekend it was in the 60s and it was amazing… I thought that was it, we were done with winter, then this week happened 🙁

      • Lianne March 15, 2013, 4:45 pm

        I’m in Boston and feel. your. pain. It was in the 50’s on Tues and Weds, then dipped back down to the 20’s and 30’s 🙁 So. over. winter.

        ANNNNND they’re saying we’re getting hit with another storm Mon and Tues. Super sad.

  • Lianne March 15, 2013, 4:34 pm

    I am excited for the weekend. Seeing friends I haven’t seen in a while and then Sunday is the Southie St. Patty’s Day parade. For those of you who have never been, it’s a sight to be seen. I’ve lived in Southie for 8 years and this is my last year here, so I’m doing it up. I am having friends over and making corned beef and cabbage. We’ll also be doing lots of Irish Car Bombs…mmmmm.

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  • peppers87 March 15, 2013, 4:40 pm

    My week wasn’t so bad! My boyfriend met my parents for the first time (think it was a success!!), I found out that a paper I wrote was accepted for journal publication (I’m a grad student in the sciences doin’ research 24/7) and my dog only peed in the house ONCE (knock on wood). Hopefully this weekend I can catch up on some cleaning and I might go see a play about vibrators (?) tonight!

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  • iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 4:47 pm

    Sampson finally reached his limit for my half marathon training. So now I’m going to have to take him with me and then drop him off at home half way through my runs, which sucks but I love him and I love it when he’s so tired he just sleeps the rest of the day and doesn’t stress me out.

    I am going wedding dress shopping tonight – and I don’t care how you sugar coat it that shit is boring. I have zero desire to watch someone try on clothes. I might fake an illness to get out of it.

    Other than that I need to run this weekend. And maybe do some spring cleaning since it’s 70 out right now!!! I’m meeting my brother for lunch on Sunday (and by lunch I mean green booze) so that should be fun.

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    • bethany March 15, 2013, 4:57 pm

      When’s your half marathon?
      I wish I had a dog I could run with. My neighbors have a puppy with a ton of energy. Would it be weird if I asked them if I could take it on a run? I was thinking of working it into a converstaion casually, like “hey, if you ever want to tire her out, let me know and I’d be happy to take her running with me”. They know I love the dog, and they know I run… Is that weird??

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      • iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 5:01 pm

        No it’s not weird at all. My friend just had a baby and her neighbor takes her dog on a walk every single day. She LOVES it. And I would word it exactly that way, “Hey if you ever want me to take her on a run with me to tire her out let me know – I usually run around X time at night – I’m serious – I would love to”

        The half is May 19th. I have no idea what I’m doing with my life that I think I can run 13 miles – but whatever. I’m sure it won’t kill me.

    • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 5:41 pm

      My potential SIL invited me to go wedding dress shopping with her a few months back and I got out of it. Anything wedding related sounds like the worst way to spend my time. Maybe if it’s my BEST friend. Maybe. But anyone else? No thank you. Is that a thing that real people actually enjoy? Watching someone else try on wedding dresses? When she invited me, she acted like I would be excited about it, so I’m curious.

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      • iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 5:53 pm

        I don’t know – I feel really guilty for backing out – but it sounds awful. Tell me I’m allowed to back out.

      • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 6:56 pm

        She was really just reaching out to you as a sisterinlaw and you, um, kinda slammed the door in her face, don’t you think?

      • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 8:40 pm

        Um, before we go and make assumptions now, her “reaching out” was all about her which was a big problem back then. We’ve talked, she’s apologized and changed and things are pretty good now, but back then every conversation was about her with no reciprocation, everything she invited me to do was about her, so no, I had no desire to feed into that. When I told her I couldn’t go, I offered something else to do in return like drinks or yoga- things we BOTH enjoy- so I didn’t just reject her and slam the door in her face, jeez.

      • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 8:46 pm

        I dunno. It’s odd times when asking someone to help you pick out a wedding dress leaves you all but branded narcissistic bitch…

      • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 8:57 pm

        I dunno. I think it’s odd that you’ve decided to dismiss everything I just wrote and have decided that the one and only time she asked me to do something with her I slammed the door in her face and branded her a narcissistic bitch. That’s not what went down whatsoever.

      • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 9:12 pm

        It could just be that you aren’t painting a very clear picture of things here. I mean, you don’t offer up any other concrete examples of the offending behavior. And truth be told, as this person was marrying — your brother, I assume — it just struck me odd that such an invite to go look at wedding dresses would be something you’d feel the need to get out of. I mean, she probably genuinely wanted your opinion — but how nice to be asked?

        Does everybody nowadays really only accept invitations if they are mutually beneficial? Are we that selfish as a society? Maybe. I don’t know.

        It also could be that I — believe it or not — often go out of my way to get along with people in real life.

      • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 9:59 pm

        Yes, that must be it. I must be lying and making her out to be selfish just because I LOVE DRAMAZ and hate getting along with people. I’ve written about her in the past so I’m not going to reiterate. We’ve talked and she’s apologized and things are better now and I’m still glad I did not spend an evening wedding dress shopping with her!

      • bittergaymark March 15, 2013, 10:16 pm

        Actually, what I meant was that you weren’t clear about her here. In this freaking thread. I know NOTHING of your sister in law — perhaps I once did, who knows. I don’t make charts about what everybody here has posted about of DW.

        At any rate, I am happy that you are clearly so fond of one another. I trust the feeling at this point is more than mutual.

  • Fabelle March 15, 2013, 4:47 pm

    I’m kind of sad today… my boyfriend is on a school trip in Philly & won’t be back until like 9, which sucks because I’ve been visualizing having a nice dinner or whatnot with him and totally forgot that wasn’t gonna be able to happen? (I know, I have no reason to complain, but for some reason I’m bummed)

    Anyway, I don’t feel like slothing around on a Friday night, so trying to make plans—but it seems most of my friends are busy/working, so that is adding to my bummed-outness.

    ALSO I’m supposed to go on a casting call tomorrow morning for a swimsuit issue of this local magazine (I model sometimes, but only when the opportunity is like leaping at my face. Otherwise, it’s not a thing I pursue) Anywayyy I agreed to go about a month back, but now I don’t feel like it? My body is not as in-shape as I’d like 🙁

    Sorry guys, this is all so, so First World Problems—but my mind is getting all twisted about everything (as it tends to)! The one good thing is St. Patrick’s Day…I’ll either be drinking all day with my friend in our local bar town, or being with family, depending on what I decide to do. Hope everyone enjoys their weekend 🙂

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    • Fabelle March 15, 2013, 4:53 pm

      (Actually, I shouldn’t be so final with the “bye everyone, enjoy your weekend” thing 😉 As I will probably be drunk DWing later..)

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  • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 4:53 pm

    I have been feeling pretty great the last 2 weeks. I am back to Bikram yoga hard core (but limiting myself to just 5 classes a week), I’m drinking less (only 3 days a week), I’m sleeping more (7 full hours!), and I’m taking care of all that shit that builds up on my “to do” list that causes me to have anxiety attacks at, like, 4 am. (e.g., paying bills, getting tags for car, call about insurance, call about property taxes thing, etc. – shit that I wish I had a stay-at-home husband to do). And all of this is making me feel so happy, so positive, so goddamn gooooood! ….

    *BUT* this morning I did not feel good. Want to know why? I went on a date last night with funny, cute, interesting guy who’s a dentist. I was excited about the date, so excited that I made a point to use some Crest teeth whitening strips the morning of our date – I dunno, I felt like I needed to impress him with white teeth. And you know what? It just made me think about my ex-boyfriend. All night and all today my ex-boyfriend been on my mind, which makes me feel sad and confused and lonely. But, when I do yoga and do NOT go on dates? I feel on top of the world!

    So, because you are dying to know, here is my new plan: no dating for me, for awile. Just yoga. I’ll reassess in 3 months.

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    • bethany March 15, 2013, 4:55 pm

      I skipped yoga this week because my back was jacked up and I feel like crap now. Uugh. I’m proud of you for going back 🙂

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      • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 5:00 pm

        Thanks, bethany! My Japenese ham sandwich is *almost* closed. 😉 I signed up for unlimited Bikram at the studio around the corner from my new place. I love it.

        Doesn’t Bikram *help* your back?

    • iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 4:57 pm

      FACK. I needed new tags in DECEMBER and haven’t gotten them yet. FACK.

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      • iwannatalktosampson March 15, 2013, 4:59 pm

        Okay but yeah if you’re not ready to date – don’t. Yoga solves everything. Specifically cheese addictions.

      • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 5:05 pm

        I’m not ready at all. I’ve also gone on 5 dates with another very nice guy — not interested at all. And we are supposed to spend all day together tomorrow. I am going to tell him tomorrow that I am not ready to do date. … Wish me luck. Because, really, *all( I want to do right now is: Bikram, watch TV, see my friends, plan my upcoming trips, clean, and listen to Taylor Swift’s Trouble on repeat. …. oh damnit all to hell I admit it I fucking love that song of hers. Judge away!

      • Anna March 17, 2013, 11:06 am

        No judgments here. I love that Taylor Swift song.

      • MissD March 17, 2013, 4:44 pm

        Honestly, I just love Taylor Swift. I am about 13 years too old to love Taylor Swift, and I don’t care. I feel like I’m catching up on all the typical teenage stuff I missed when I listen to her music. 🙂

    • katie March 15, 2013, 5:08 pm

      i am going to start doing yoga again too. maybe you can be my motivator…? like, HEY KATIE DO THE YOGA NOW motivator. i just need to find a good youtube video or something…

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      • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 10:19 pm

        Katie, get your lazy fat ass to yoga you stupid mothafucka! (<— It's a form of motivation that may or may not work, you let me know, sweetheart!)

    • lemongrass March 15, 2013, 6:19 pm

      I could never date a dentist. I would always think he’s judging me because I don’t floss!

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  • beelzebarb March 15, 2013, 5:05 pm

    I was supposed to go to Sebring for the 12 Hour but I have the sickies so I’m going to stay home and suction myself to the sofa and watch whatever baseball games are on. And the Melbourne GP. Any other sports nerds out there?

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  • Megan_A_Mess March 15, 2013, 5:05 pm

    First off, I love Girls! My friend introduced me to it on Monday night and I watched all 19 episodes on her HBO-GO account. I think my favorite episode has to be where they go to the warehouse party, and Shoshanna accidentally smokes crack. PS – Is that what it’s really like living in NYC?

    This last week has been so fabulous, I don’t know where to begin. I left a comment last Friday (or was it Thursday? I think Friday …) about all the things going wrong in my life, but things are really starting to look up;

    – Mom got a job. It’s temp to hire, but still, it’s something.
    – My aunt who had a bone marrow transplant in January was cleared to go home, and has been home for two days.
    – I got a new job, that pays well for what it is (line cook, >$10 an hour, SCORE) and I’ll be working at my local ballpark for our MLB team, so that’s super awesome. (No more midnights!)
    – One of my boyfriend’s cases is going to settle out of court, so we won’t have to deal with a trial and everything. The lady who hit him with her car was trying to fight it, but now she’s not. He still has something going on with the insurance company, but at least we have a figure.
    – We’ve also been doing a little wedding planning as well! We’re having a tiny, tiny, tiny wedding/lunch deal thing in July, and we’re so excited. (I won’t bore you all with the details.)

    As far as this weekend goes, we’re celebrating my fiance’s birthday with some friends, drinks, and pizza tonight, since his real birthday is on Sunday (yes, St. Patrick’s Day) but I have to work midnights still (c’mon opening day!) So I’ll be sleeping most of that day, and then working late at night. Saturday night, I am going out to a local bar for a Deaf night, to socialize, and hopefully make some friends. (I’m going to school for interpreting, so I need this.) Plus it’ll be good to get out of the house. Then I work on Sunday (boo) but these last few days have been so great, I really don’t care about all that now.

    Happy St. Patrick’s Day everyone! Be safe and have fun!

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    • lets_be_honest March 15, 2013, 5:15 pm

      Glad the tides are turning…I remember that comment last week.

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      • Megan_A_Mess March 17, 2013, 2:08 pm

        Thank you! I am too, can finally breathe a little easier!

    • Kerrycontrary March 15, 2013, 7:43 pm

      I died over Shoshona on crack. Definitely the best moment.

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      • *HmC* March 15, 2013, 9:49 pm

        Ditto! Omg and Ray telling her that she vibrates on a really strong frequency. Love the writing on that show.

  • Copa March 15, 2013, 5:16 pm

    One of my co-workers passed away suddenly (had a heart attack at work) recently and his funeral was today. We’re a fairly small office (50-something full-time employees, plus seasonal hires that come and go) and even though I didn’t know this guy terribly well aside from small talk over coffee in the kitchen in the morning, I knew he was gentle-mannered, good-natured, and funny. Kind. Too young for this to happen to him, in my opinion (48). I was sad and shocked when this happened, but I was so much more overcome by emotion than I thought I’d be today. He was the single dad of a 16 year old girl and I kinda lost it when she got up to speak about her dad — in some ways so incredibly mature for her age, while in others still obviously so young. I keep randomly bursting into tears thinking about his daughter’s stories and how unfair life can be and am heading to the gym soon for some quality treadmill weeping therapy (my specialty haha).

    Weekend plans: Too many people (okay, only 3) invited me to join in their St. Patty’s Day plans and I may stay home to do my taxes because I don’t know who to pick and don’t know that I feel like driving 30-40 minutes in any direction tomorrow (nothing is nearby and I’d have a little bit of a drive no matter which I choose). I’m also not really in a celebratory mood.

    I’m crabby. Thanks for listening, Internet!

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    • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 10:16 pm

      Aw this made me sad. That poor man. And his poor daughter. I teared up reading about it. I too need to do my taxes this weekend, and I do not really feel in the mood to SPD it tomorrow. Sigh.

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  • Pamplemousse Rose March 15, 2013, 5:30 pm

    I’ve had an excellent week! I was offered a new job in my field, doing what I love (I left a contract job that I loved for this permanent job in a related but not as interesting field a little over a year ago). I gave notice today, which gives me two weeks of saying “what are they gonna do? Fire me?” I don’t start the new job until I’m back from my honeymoon in mid-april. Last night I made salsa and guacamole to take to my fun aunt’s birthday party tonight.

    AND we discovered that our favourite neighbourhood spot does 1/2 price bottles of wine on Wednesday nights!!

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    • LuckySeven March 15, 2013, 8:13 pm

      Congrats on the new job! Two weeks of “What are they gonna do? Fire me?” sounds awesome, esp with bottles of wine : )

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      • Pamplemousse Rose March 16, 2013, 1:03 pm

        Thanks LS!! and when you add 3 weeks of FUNemployment before starting the new gig, it makes it even better 🙂

  • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 5:31 pm

    This week has been pretty terrible. :/ And it’s my week off! I’ve had a bladder infection for going on 5 days now and it SUCKS. It was incredibly painful at first and now it’s just annoying. I’ve been chugging water and cranberry juice while taking antibiotics for 5 days and it’s still here. No coffee. No wine. No beer. No sex. Just water water water. I’m a glass-of-wine-a-day kinda gal, so it’s been rough. And the lack of sex mixed with my boyfriend working incredibly long, exhausting hours as he starts his business has been surprisingly hard (probably because I’m a big baby when I’m sick). Plus, my friends have been texting me their SXSW plans all week long and I’ve wanted to be there so, so bad.

    But there have been some positives! I’m feeling the slightest bit normal today, though, so there’s hope! I went to lunch with my mom on Wednesday and that was really nice. My sister-in-law (the real one, not my potential SIL) is on the front page of the Houston Chronicle today and I’m really proud of her. I’m also incredibly proud of my boyfriend for the work he’s put into his business.

    I have high hopes for my weekend, too. It’s going to be in the 80’s and perfect outside (and I’m NOT going to feel like I have to pee every single second of the day (please god!)). My boyfriend and I have decided to do a weekly “date night” type thing now that his schedule is so busy, but we don’t want to call it “date night”. I feel like I’ll go on “date nights” when I’m 40 with children, you know? (I know it’s ridiculous, I just really hate that phrase.) Last weekend we went to see Silver Linings Playbook and subsequently, I got a bladder infection, so here’s to hoping that tomorrow has a better outcome. On Sunday, SPD, I plan on going to the very last day of SXSW and having a green beer, dammit!

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    • TaraMonster March 15, 2013, 6:27 pm

      Have you ever tried D-Mannosse? Can be found in health food stores. It’s the only thing that gets rid of my UTIs- they go away in a day or two and I used to have chronic UTIs and bladder infections (it suuuuuccked!). Not sure how bad your infection is, but it’s worth a shot!

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      • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 8:23 pm

        I’ve actually never heard of it until now. I just looked it up and plan to go buy some TONIGHT. Thanks! Do you use the powder or the capsule?

        This infection is the worst I’ve had. I had the chills and shakes and everything. I used to get UTI’s all the time when I was 19-21 and then I had a stint of about 4 years without one. Then I met my boyfriend, started having lots of sex and now it seems I can’t STOP getting them. It’s never taken me 5 days to get over one- even without antibiotics in the past. Thanks for the tip, though!

      • Ginger87 March 16, 2013, 10:06 am

        Chronic UTI sufferer here. I apologize if I’m giving unsolicited advice/if you already know this, but here are some tips … 1) Have you told your doctor that you’re still having symptoms? You may need a different antibiotic, depending on the bacteria that’s causing the infection. It takes a few days for the lab to determine this. Usually, the doctor will call you and let you know they need to switch your meds, but sometimes they don’t. I had a particularly nasty UTI a few years ago and had to take 4 different antibiotics to get it cleared up. 2) Make sure drinking the natural cranberry juice. The sugar in brands like Ocean Spray can actually make it worse. 3) I second TaraMonster’s D-Mannose suggestion! I use the powder. If I even feel a little “off” I just take that for a day or two. No more UTI’s!

        Hope you start feeling better!!

      • sobriquet March 16, 2013, 2:08 pm

        Thanks! I’m actually feeling better today, FINALLY. I guess I just had to let the meds do their thing. My cup of coffee this morning was GLORIOUS. 😀

        This was a pretty bad infection… I had the chills and shakes early on (I was shaking so bad while driving to the doctor that I opted to just go to a 24-hr med clinic a mile away). My last UTI was 6 months ago and I had lower back/kidney pain and dizziness, so these are no joke! It would probably do me some good to visit a urologist, but alas, that’s not something a college student can afford. I’m gonna start a daily regimen because it is clear that this is just going to be a problem for me. I already drink a shit ton of water every day and do all the other suggested tips to avoid UTI’s and it’s not enough. I’m so happy to learn about D-Mannose!

      • TaraMonster March 19, 2013, 11:58 am

        Yay! I’m glad you’re feeling better!

        I use the capsules, but that’s just because it’s convenient since it’s really the same thing. I keep them in my desk at work and at home. And just like Ginger87, if I even get a tiny twinge of pain, I take a couple pills with a huge glass of water. Since I’ve been doing that I haven’t had a UTI in… wow more than a year! Holy crap, I didn’t even realize it was so long! And it was baaaad before; I used to get them constantly.

      • GatorGirl March 16, 2013, 2:09 pm

        I definitely second the suggestion to seek out a different antibiotic. They don’t always get it right on the first try.

        They make all natural cranberry suppliments that you take daily that are supposed to help ward off UTI’s, might be worth looking into.

  • L March 15, 2013, 5:49 pm

    I had a decent week but a CRAPPY day today. I received my second formal evaluation of the school year. The first one a couple months ago was really good. The second one was absolutely dreadful. Basically according to it I need to revamp the majority of my teaching. They were all things I needed to hear…but it was a really hard pill to swallow. And what really really really really (REALLY) sucks is that this is all stuff I should have heard in like, October. We’re headed into fourth quarter already next week and I get this feedback that I need to revise things for every single class that I teach. I feel incredibly inadequate as a teacher right now.

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    • L March 15, 2013, 5:53 pm

      I just devoured a massive piece of pie and feel marginally better…still…blaahhh…

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      • MissD March 17, 2013, 4:50 pm

        I have been eating chocolate. It helps a little. I feel your pain-I had a sort of similar experience at the beginning of the year…long story. Hang in there, though! Only one quarter left!

  • TaraMonster March 15, 2013, 5:04 pm

    I met the new guy I’ve been seeing at a karaoke bar. He was like “Sing with me!” And I was like, “No, I’m good. I’ll just sit here with my drink thanks.” And then he dragged me on stage. It’s like Wendy waved a karaoke love wand over me or something.

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  • lemongrass March 15, 2013, 6:30 pm

    I have an update from the last deleted thread- breastfeeding has become MUCH easier! Turns out I was overfeeding E and that was giving him a tummy ache and making my nipples sore. I’ve figured out when he’s hungry now and my nipples have “toughened up” so the tugging sensation doesn’t bother me at all. I feel like I’m bonding with E while I feed him now and I’m really glad I stuck it out.

    Other than that, I wish I could start exercising but E won’t nap properly unless he’s held or in the car so thats just going to have to wait another month or so when he starts napping less. I also really want to get busy but E makes snorting/grunting noises while he falls asleep and by the time he stops we’ve fallen asleep too. Oh well! I’ve found that MADtv plays during the daytime so now I’ve broken my ‘no daytime tv’ thing. Price is Right still kicks ass too!

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    • sobriquet March 15, 2013, 8:26 pm

      I LOVE the Price is Right! I don’t know why, but I get really excited when I have a morning at home and get to watch it. Especially when it’s a morning while my boyfriend and I are cooking a big breakfast together.

      Did you watch it yesterday? The old lady who tap danced and then won $100,000? I teared up! That’s how emotional I am when I’m sick, haha.

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      • lemongrass March 16, 2013, 2:57 pm

        I didn’t, it’s actually a rare day now when I’m up and able to watch tv before 10 am, which is when it plays in my area. But when I do….

  • canefan March 15, 2013, 10:20 pm

    I ran straight into the corner of my kitchen counter (because I’m cool like that) so not only do I not have plans tonight, I get to be in pain. YAY. I’m on spring break right now visiting my parents in Orlando, and I’m kinda bored. There’s not really much to do here, other than the touristy stuff. So I’m just sitting in the house doing schoolwork and dreading my return to the frigid north 🙁 On the upside, my younger brother is coming down for his spring break (his flight lands in an hour!) and this will be the first time everyone in my immediate family has been together since probably sometime last summer. So, at least I have that to look forward to!

    And just out of curiosity, does anyone use punctuation after using an emoticon, or do you just start a new sentence with a capital letter and everything? I just noticed that I did that haha and I was wondering if I was the only one…

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    • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 10:22 pm

      I personally use a punctuation before using an emotion. 😉 <— like that. But I don't know, ask GG the rule. 🙂

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      • canefan March 15, 2013, 10:26 pm

        I swear, I’ve learned so much about etiquette from the people on this site! 🙂 <- OH HAI

      • Addie Pray March 15, 2013, 10:30 pm

        Well I am the queen of etiquette! (GG, the attack, MaterialsGirl, etc. are probably out on dates and blah blah blah – and too busy to read DW – so I can get away with saying that.)

  • the attack March 16, 2013, 12:35 am

    You guys, I think the universe wants me dead. It’s piecing together now. I almost fell asleep at the wheel for about an hour every day the week before last no matter how much sleep I got. Then the anaphylactic reaction for something that’s really hard to avoid, then my car leaking gas TWICE in a two week period, so my car could have exploded every day for the past three weeks. Then my dryer broke, and it’s a good thing it did because there was a huge fire hazard we didn’t know about. My dad fixed my car today, and it broke again tonight. Then he fixed my dryer, and I rejoiced and started the washer. The washer started smoking and had a small fire. Then I opened the windows to let the smoke out, and the blinds broke and fell on me. And a mysterious illness. I’m flirting with death right now it seems.

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    • d2 March 16, 2013, 12:54 pm

      Now my broken plumbing and flooded kitchen don’t seem so bad… I hope things get better for you fast!

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  • bittergaymark March 16, 2013, 1:09 am

    Yikes. Mysterious fires! Exploding cars! Falling blinds of doom!

    Watch your back… I mean, yeah… it’s all very FINAL DESTINATION!! 😉

    Yowsa. And I thought MY week was bad. Hang in there, the_attack!

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  • SpaceySteph March 16, 2013, 3:27 am

    I just started the night shift tonight, so my “weekend” if you could call it that was the 30-or-so hours I didn’t have to be at work between Thursday afternoon and Friday at 11pm when my shift started. I did laundry and watched a crap ton of DVR’d junk. I actually DVR shows on purpose that I don’t really want to watch but that I think will keep me awake while I sleep shift. This time it was Zero Hour which, while pretty terrible, was enough action to keep me awake. I’m bummed it was cancelled after only 3 episodes, but only for it’s sleep shift value.

    Now I’m on a stint of 7 night shifts. I get off next Friday at 8am, and then my parents come to town at noon Friday. Then I have to cook and clean and prepare for Passover. Passover is SO stressful. Every year I feel like it sneaks up on me and I have to struggle to get the house ready.

    Last year my then-fiance’s parents- who are Catholic- were in town for Easter and they came to my Passover seder, along with some of my coworkers… his dad called me compulsive for my checklist of “what goes in the oven when and at what temperature” and my insistence on doing the dishes before going to bed… but his mom said she was impressed that I could cook a multi-course holiday dinner for so many people all by myself. So I guess that’s breaking even?
    This year our house hasn’t even recovered from the piles of wedding crap (not calling gifts “crap,” I’m talking like the extra programs… what should I do with those? Toss? Keep? Make a scrapbook in my “spare” time?) that doesn’t really have a home, add to that the honeymoon unpacking which is incomplete (We got back Saturday), and the piles of my husband’s stuff that he moved in (we are in the 30% that didn’t live together, primarily because we each owned a house) but that we don’t really have a designated place for yet. I told my parents that they’ll have to find the guest bed before they can sleep in it. At least last night while I was trying to stay up all night, I cleaned out the freezer and the pantry. Step 1 of de-chametzifying the house.

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    • jlyfsh March 16, 2013, 12:50 pm

      I heard they might bring Zero Hour back in the summer since they’re already taped a full season’s worth of episodes. It is pretty terrible but I watched the first three and want to at least know where the rest of the season went, haha.

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      • SpaceySteph March 17, 2013, 5:41 am

        Yeah I heard that too. But I wonder if that might make it worse… imagine if Lost had been cancelled in the first season and the last thing you ever saw was the light coming on in the hatch. Way more questions than answers at that point (ok, Lost had way more questions than answers for it’s entire run) and it would only drive us more crazy that we’ll never find out.
        But I’m sure my DVR will pick them up and then I’ll have another overnight shift and will need something to watch.

  • quixoticbeatnik March 16, 2013, 11:34 am

    I just got home yesterday from visiting my parents for my spring break. It was nice, but I should have done something different because it was a lot of the same as what I do at home already. Which is, nothing. Sigh. It’s hard to have full-time classes only two days a week and not have a part-time job to occupy the rest of my job. I am lucky and blessed that my parents are financially supporting me, but I just want a full-time job and an adult life already! Plus nobody is calling me back for any of my job applications and it’s almost enough to make me think that maybe I should do a background check. Just to make sure that there isn’t something on there that’s making people reject me right off the bat…..

    However, I’m trying to be positive! I just got a new computer (yay) and I am about to go to a networking thing at a nearby bar with my friend for St. Patrick’s Day. It’s a Young Energy Professionals group and I’m hoping to get a job in the oil/gas field so maybe I’ll get the hookup today?? A girl can dream. My bff and I are joining a whole bunch of networking groups to try and get jobs and also to meet people. I’ll keep applying to jobs. I’ll keep trying to network. I’ll try to tweak my resume and my online profiles.

    But seriously….I’m just feeling so down these days. I know I don’t have it as bad as other people, but it’s still hard. I just have to believe that it will all work out.

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    • mandalee March 16, 2013, 1:26 pm

      I’m sorry to hear you’re having a hard time job searching. I would guess from your post that it is your first “adult” job you’re searching for? If it is, it’s hard out there, but it’s not terrible! I graduated in 2008, right into the recession and moved to chicken farm land and still managed to land a job somewhat related to my major.

      Don’t worry about the background check. Unless maybe you are applying to government jobs that require clearance, employers are not going to waste time/money/resources on running background checks on people who just send in their application. I would guess either there’s a ton of applications they are receiving, or maybe you need to re-vamp your cover letter and resume to sell yourself better. AskAManager is an excellent resource! By following her advice and changing around some things, I went from nothing to a bunch of interviews and job offers.

      Also, as you said networking is so important! Network and work your alumni association! If you have LinkedIn, trying searching for some alumni that work in your field, and sending them a message asking them how they got started out in the field and any pointers they can give. I wouldn’t start off the conversation with a job request, but alumni love to take care of their own, so they are a great resource! I got two jobs by reaching out to alumni about jobs searching.

      No matter how hopeless it seems, it does get better I promise!!

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      • quixoticbeatnik March 17, 2013, 1:17 am

        Thank you so much! Yes, my first “adult” job. Luckily, I’m still taking classes for a certificate so it’s not like I’m totally unemployed doing nothing. Thanks for the advice, I will check out that website! I probably do need to tweak my resume and LinkedIn profile. And I will try to contact some alumni! It does make me feel better to know that you were able to get a job!

    • L March 16, 2013, 7:07 pm

      If you’re looking for gas/oil jobs and if you’re willing to move, they are still hiring like crazy up here in North Dakota. It’s not an ideal place to live, but they snatch people up who have a college degree. There are plenty of management positions available and since there are so many who just move here right after high school for jobs, people with education are really valuable.

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      • bittergaymark March 16, 2013, 8:00 pm

        You live in ND? I grew up in Fargo…

      • L March 16, 2013, 8:52 pm

        Yeah, I’m a Minnesota transplant. Honestly I’m not a big fan and I plan to move back to Minnesota as soon as possible. I live near Bismarck.

      • Bittergaymark March 16, 2013, 10:32 pm

        Ah, yes. I love Minnesota. We have a lake home there. My family, I mean. Its such a marvelous place in the spring, summer, and fall…

      • L March 17, 2013, 12:30 pm

        Agreed, Mark. I went from the Twin Cities metro area to a rural, middle of nowhere, Hicksville, USA town. I feel like a black sheep because of my political views and the fact that I’m not a farmer…

      • quixoticbeatnik March 17, 2013, 1:20 am

        That’s a good tip. If in a few months I still don’t have a job I will consider moving up there. Right now, I don’t want to move because I have a boyfriend and life here, but I am widening my search to include other cities nearby. However, I am actually in a good city for oil/gas jobs doing GIS because there are a ton of energy companies available. However, I will try to stay open-minded to moving. Thanks!

    • canefan March 17, 2013, 2:20 pm

      Wow I could have written this exact post. I’m in the same situation! It definitely sucks sometimes but you just have to keep your chin up, as hard as it is. Good luck, though!!

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  • lets_be_honest March 16, 2013, 3:02 pm

    If any of you are watching the St. Patrick’s Day parade in NYC on TV, you might’ve just seen my daughter marching!

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