We went to a farm today in Queens — the oldest running farm in New York state, I think. We fed goats (and sheep and an alpaca). Now I’m tired, which has as much to do with chasing my little animal around the farm as it does with hitting the vino a little too hard last night with a friend of mine. And it wasn’t even that much wine — we split one bottle and then each had one additional glass. And that was over the course of like 3 1/2 hours. But I sure as shit was hungover this morning, which seems unnecessary, cruel world, if you ask me. This is 37, you guys.
Anyway, I will take this opportunity to wish you a Happy Easter or Passover or 4/20, if that’s your religious holiday of choice. We are participating in an Easter egg hunt tomorrow, and then on Easter Sunday our friend Mary, who is an amazing cook and an even better candy-maker (I can’t wait until she’s ready to start selling her stuff so everyone can try some), is having us over for an Easter lunch. Other than that, I hope to get some good rest this weekend. My seasonal allergies are kicking in and all I want to do at the moment is sleep, sleep, sleep. Good night.
Fabelle April 18, 2014, 4:09 pm
Wendy, I am RIGHT there with you on being hungover. God damn. (Except I had more like… let’s just say 4-5, maybe more, glasses of wine so it’s pretty understandable. My friend who I haven’t seen in forever took me out & since I haven’t seen him in forever, I was like, sure, you can’t get here ’til almost 9? That’s okay! And then I drank while I waited, & then we went out & drank more. Ow ow ow, my brain hurts.)
sarita_f April 18, 2014, 4:11 pm
I have decided to just sell all my shit, split time between my parents guest room 800 miles away and my friends guest room in my current city, build my biz until I can support myself and then build a Tiny House, plop it on homeland somewhere and just travel with the money I’ll save by not having a mortgage.
Step one is under way today – selling all of the things.
dabbler April 18, 2014, 7:52 pm
my sister is obsessed with tiny houses. i definitely see the appeal, but i don’t know that i could live in one full time. i have 350 sq. ft. right now, and i have no room for anything! granted, i still have way more “stuff” than I need, but it’s definitely a lifestyle commitment. what would you do for plumbing and water?
sarita_f April 19, 2014, 3:30 pm
Oh, most of them are fully plumbed out. Think RV.
I’d like mine to be off-grid capable so I’d probably do a holding tank and either get water trucked in or use a rain catchment system (ideally the catchment). I’d at least start with a compost toilet to see if I was OK with that. Solar panels for electric, propane for cooking and heating gas, etc.
sarita_f April 19, 2014, 6:41 pm
Some of my favorites:
kerrycontrary April 18, 2014, 4:15 pm
Well I’m about to head out for easter weekend with the in-laws, but on Sunday I get to see my chubby and glorious nephew! I cannot wait! Also, tomorrow we’re finalizing our music selections for our wedding ceremony with our string trio and I’m so excited. I’m so glad we’re splurging on having live music at the ceremony. wedding yayyyy.
Lyra April 18, 2014, 8:15 pm
I’m totally biased (music teacher here) but live music is the way to go. I already pretty much have my wedding music planned out. I just need to arrange it for brass quintet because I LOVE BRASS QUINTETS. If I get married in the church I grew up in, which is the plan, there is a great college in town that has an amazing music program. I plan to hire some college kids to save a crap ton of money. As a classically trained musician I LOVE playing at weddings. I usually gift my services to the bride and groom if it’s a friend or relative or whatever but I’ve been paid to play too and it’s just so fun!
Yikes you guys, I’m nerdy. You know how some people go all Pinterest crazy with dresses and flowers and favors and crap? I could care less. I’m THAT person with my future wedding music…
Lyra April 19, 2014, 12:48 am
Also kerry, which pieces did you choose? Did you go with the standards (Jesu Joy of Man’s Desiring, Pachelbel’s Canon, etc.) or something else? I legitimately want to know how your wedding music fits together!! 🙂
Sunshine Brite April 20, 2014, 8:17 am
I should pick your brain about what some of the standards are even called 🙂
Lyra April 20, 2014, 7:29 pm
Go right ahead, seriously! Just let me know. 🙂
kerrycontrary April 21, 2014, 9:38 am
I picked pop songs! hahahaha. So Adele “make you feel my love”, Louis Armstrong “What a wonderful world”, somewhere over the rainbow…and I’m coming down the aisle to “Just the Way You Are” by Bruno Mars….recessional to “Here comes the sun” by the beatles. We’ll play more classical music before the ceremony and during the cocktail hour. But yeh it’s not ***wedding*** music.
theattack April 21, 2014, 11:39 am
“Here Comes the Sun” was our recessional too! 🙂
iwannatalktosampson April 18, 2014, 4:17 pm
I am going to make jello shots in plastic eggs for my friends bbq on Sunday. I’m also on Day 4 of a juice cleanse, during which time I have eaten two meals. But I mean I can’t go to a networking event and be like – oh no – sorry I won’t eat breakfast and our BREAKFAST MEETING, so fine, I cheated twice. But two meals in 4 days isn’t bad.
I haven’t been this motivated to be skinny/in shape (I know, they’re different things, and I want to be both of them, I’m greedy like that) in a long time. Last time I was really skinny in shape it was on accident last year when my life sucked. It’s much harder to be in shape on purpose.
I get wicket hangover’s too. It’s awful.
No Pants April 18, 2014, 5:09 pm
Are you making your own juices or did you buy a specific brand? He Pants and I inherited a Jack LaLanne juicer last year and we were super into it for a while. I want to try it again, but then I remembered I have reasons to eat cupcakes all weekend.
iwannatalktosampson April 18, 2014, 5:38 pm
Yeah I think I have the Jack LaLanne one? Not sure I’ll check. But yeah I make my own and use celery, carrots, cucumbers, apples and pears. They’re really sweet and delicious. I am trying to get down to a weight where my favorite lululemon running shorts fit comfortably so I can wear them for my marathon. And that is anywhere from 5-10 pounds less than I weigh now… and I have one month exactly to get there. So I’ll probably be doing a few juice cleanses in the next few weeks.
Lyra April 18, 2014, 10:48 pm
Has it really been a year since your big life change?? Wow, time flies.
theattack April 18, 2014, 4:20 pm
I’m leaving work early in a few minutes and taking some alone time for a couple of hours to recharge. I have been a major cranky pants lately, like being content one minute and then completely snapping into a rage the next. Pretty sure it’s because I’ve been carpooling with my husband instead of taking some introvert time, and it’s turning me into a monster. So I’m going to try to recharge in two hours and then head down to my parents’ house for a construction project, which will probably make me finally lose my mind either way. I really just need to sit in the dark by myself for several hours.
Fabelle April 18, 2014, 4:40 pm
Commuting with a S/O is honestly the worst, haha. Fabello & I have had periods of whoops, I don’t have a car for a while (we crash our cars a lot, okay?) & needed a ride to work. And wow, we hated each other so much during those times & always pretended that wasn’t the reason (“are you angry because you’re resentful of needing to be driven?” “NO”) Then later we admitted that was totally the reason.
theattack April 18, 2014, 6:25 pm
Hahaha, It’s probably hard to admit that you don’t want to be around each other in a totally normal way.
iwannatalktosampson April 18, 2014, 6:39 pm
But I mean if both people need alone time wouldn’t it be less awkward? Does P enjoy your commutes together?
theattack April 18, 2014, 7:27 pm
Yeah, he’s alllll about them. He wants to carpool in our Prius and pay like $5 a month in gas and chat before work. Haha We’ll probably split it up half and half to compromise.
Fabelle April 18, 2014, 7:41 pm
Oh god, that’s like my nightmare. hahah
othy April 18, 2014, 4:43 pm
I commuted with Othello 3 days a week last semester, and it made me enjoy the 2 days a week a lot more. I really don’t feel like talking to anyone first thing in the morning. But, we saved a ton of money on gas. And it looks like his schedule in the fall will work out so we can commute twice a week together. And then go to the gym together (and hold each other accountable for working out).
iwannatalktosampson April 18, 2014, 6:05 pm
Colin has the day off so I had him drive me and pick me up from work. I get so ragey on my commute but if someone is with me I’m more relaxed about it and consider it like hanging out? But yeah I think I would flip if I did it everyday. Even this extrovert needs the occasional quiet/self reflecting time.
theattack April 18, 2014, 6:23 pm
That’s cute! Do you and Colin spend like every night together?
iwannatalktosampson April 18, 2014, 6:28 pm
Ha see I think it’s embarrassing. Like I wouldn’t admit that to anyone but dw folks. We do spend every night together. He bought a condo 7 blocks from my brother’s house so it’s almost hard not too. And he takes care of Sampson before I get off work most days because he gets off work earlier than I do. So yeah.
theattack April 18, 2014, 6:22 pm
The money saved is so tempting because our offices are a three minute walk apart, but like you don’t want to talk in the morning, I do not want to talk to anybody after work. I have to recover my brain first. But it’s okay now because I’m at home alone eating a Russell Stover Maple Cream Egg and Cheetos.
Addie Pray April 18, 2014, 6:57 pm
Whoa, you’re working again? Did you update us on your new job!???! You’re supposed to update us.
theattack April 18, 2014, 7:29 pm
Haha, I’ve only been talking about it constantly! But yes! I’m a domestic violence legal advocate in a nonprofit law firm. I’ve been at it for three weeks now.
Addie Pray April 18, 2014, 7:32 pm
Oh …. I missed that. That sounds like a very noble job!!
CatsMeow April 18, 2014, 9:19 pm
KEEP UP, AP. Jeez.
Addie Pray April 18, 2014, 9:34 pm
(Are we sure she mentioned it??? I really saw no mention of it)
theattack April 18, 2014, 9:51 pm
Haha, well I’m flattered that you noticed either way.
othy April 18, 2014, 4:21 pm
Half marathon tomorrow. Here’s hoping the rain stays away. There’s a 30% chance of rain in the morning, but I’m hoping it’ll be dry. It rained the whole time at this race last year, and it was just miserable. But, I’m hoping to finish 30 minutes faster this year than last year.
After spending all morning running, I’m spending the afternoon at our ComicCon. Nathan Fillion will be there, and they just announced Patrick Stewart will be too. Here’s hoping I get to meet at least one of them!
Banana April 18, 2014, 4:26 pm
YAYAYAYAY fan cons! I’m missing AwesomeCon (the DC one) this year but I kind of want to see if I can get a magazine or blog to pay to send me to cover it next time.
LlamaPajamas April 18, 2014, 4:38 pm
Yay half marathons! Happy running! 🙂
othy April 19, 2014, 11:55 pm
Beat my time from the same race last year by over 20 minutes. It did help the weather was perfect.
othy April 19, 2014, 11:58 pm
I got to wave at Nathan Fillion, see Patrick Stewart’s shiny head in its full glory, and I shook hands with Wharf and Riker. All in all, a very good day.
No Pants April 18, 2014, 4:23 pm
Today’s been pretty great. I got my crazy brows waxed and lunch with the famous LlamaPajamas.
AND a family friend just asked to interview me for a grant she’s preparing for career services at the college level for students with disabilities! 🙂
LlamaPajamas April 18, 2014, 4:37 pm
Did you get your brows waxed before or after lunch?! I feel like I should know your brows way better than this since we’ve hung out three whole times now!
No Pants April 18, 2014, 4:53 pm
Before! And I thought my eyebrows were the lights of your life! I’m so sad.
LlamaPajamas April 18, 2014, 6:09 pm
They are! They really are.
Oh, and I forgot to tell you – you know how Nathan calls this “Hello Wendy”? Well, last night Llama Guy referred to it as “Get Wendy”. I was like, she’s not a prize! Nobody gets her, she belongs to the Universe.
No Pants April 18, 2014, 9:22 pm
Haha He Pants and Llama Guy ARE soulmates!
Banana April 18, 2014, 4:24 pm
Yay sleep! I had no work today, so I went to bed determined to be very productive on personal projects, and woke up feeling determined to veg out. I ride myself kind of hard so I thought it might be nice to just chill for a day. And so far my day has been: one job application, fold laundry, write a blog post, make chimichurri for tonight’s dinner, watch five episodes of Buffy. Originally when I was listing that it was supposed to show off how little I’ve done, but then I realized it actually hasn’t been a zero day. See: riding myself hard. Also the second time I typed that, it looked really weird. Anyway, making dinner with Banano tonight, then getting some creative writing done while he does homework. Tomorrow, heading up to PA to chill with the parents!
Amanda April 18, 2014, 4:38 pm
Nothing too special here. After work I’ going to load up Norma Jeane (my chinchilla) and go out to my parents for the weekend.
LlamaPajamas April 18, 2014, 4:45 pm
Wendy, my heart totally skipped a beat when I first saw this photo because I thought they might be alpacas. Then I saw that they were sheep, but then I read that you did see an alpaca. What an emotional roller coaster. I hope Jackson had fun with the animals!
I’m super sleepy today but my weekend is already off to a great start since I had lunch with No Pants! I don’t celebrate Easter but my parents still send me Easter boxes (I mean, I’m only 33) so I have a ton of candy at Llama Guy’s place – he’s helping me with my self control around sugar. We’re hopefully going to look at a townhouse sometime this weekend but other than that my only plans are catching up on sleep and reading. I’m in the middle of two really good books right now: Stephen King’s “11/22/63” and Siddhartha Mukherjee’s “The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer”.
thewriteway April 18, 2014, 4:50 pm
I am a little disappointed that the job I really wanted went to someone younger than me and with less experience. Kind of frustrating that I’ve been working my butt off for a while now and these kids 2-3 years out of college can get jobs that I can’t. And it’s not like that I was applying for anything that was a major reach from my skills and background.
On a more positive note, Zumba was fun today! My teacher brought bunny ears for the class and we took a couple of pictures. (Those of you that have added me on Facebook can see one of them.) She told us we didn’t have to give them back so now I have two sets of bunny ears (one from a Halloween costume a few years ago) that I have no idea what to do with. LOL.
I don’t really have many plans for the holiday weekend besides Mass and going out to eat, as Easter isn’t a big to-do in my family (everyone has separate plans and has busier schedules these days) and I have to work Sunday evening anyway. I will spend some time re-reading my Zumba teaching manual and practicing perhaps. I really want to get refreshed on everything from my training and start going around to other classes so I can get familiar with teachers and maybe find some opportunities. I am considering re-taking my instructor training at some point, but I don’t have to do that, so I’m not going to be in any hurry to sign up for a course.
I’m finally going to yoga on Tuesday (things kept popping up on my to-do list), so I will report back and let all you yogis know how that goes!
othy April 18, 2014, 5:22 pm
Younger and less experience often means cheaper. Which isn’t encouraging when you’re looking, but at least it’s not personal? Job hunting sucks, but I hope you’ll find something that that works soon!
thewriteway April 18, 2014, 6:11 pm
Thanks! I am employed right now, which makes things a little easier (knowing that I don’t have to accept the first offer), but that doesn’t mean I love looking for a new job either. I also keep my eyes open for other opportunities with my employer because they are a good place to work…I’m just keeping my eyes on the outside to see if I can find some new challenges elsewhere (and, you know, not work holidays and weekends).
I don’t know why I didn’t get that particular job, as I didn’t even get an interview. Oh well. MOA and all, right?
Fabelle April 18, 2014, 7:21 pm
Wait so howwww do you know who the company picked over you?? I’m sorry that happened, but I’m picturing something like, “sorry TWW, but we decided you weren’t a good fit & went with someone who’s 23 years old & only has a 1 month internship of doing relevant work! Good luck in the future!!” haha & I know that can’t be what happened??
othy April 18, 2014, 9:46 pm
Maybe it was down to two candidates? My boss told me a little bit about the other candidate on my second round of interviews. Which I thought was a little strange, but meh?
Lyra April 19, 2014, 12:35 am
You’ve mentioned bad feelings about your job search a LOT on here. I’ll tell you I’m the queen of rejection when it comes to job searching. I can’t tell you how many rejections I’ve gotten and I’ve learned to let it go. I may be disappointed for one hot minute, but I’ve learned to always let it go pretty quickly.
Maybe someone just was a better fit for the company. Maybe the people who got the jobs actually do have the experience that the employers were looking for. And yeah, as othy mentioned, they could be cheaper too. Honestly you don’t know why they chose that other person over you and getting into those “this person is so much younger! I should have gotten that job!!” funks won’t do you any favors. Just move on from it. I know it sucks. I know job searching sucks (I’ve switched jobs every year since graduating from college). When it’s a good fit, it will work out. Be thankful that you have a job and if I remember correctly your boss agreed you wouldn’t be working 6-day weeks anymore right? That’s a plus. Just trust the process.
d2 April 18, 2014, 5:34 pm
Even though my workplace was closed today, we had meetings scheduled and they lasted until 3 PM. Not how I hoped to spend my “day off”.
If it doesn’t rain this weekend, I will go out and clean up the yard from all the winter crap that fell down. Finally, no snow on the ground and none predicted in the near future!
Tonight I will work out a bug on a new computer I am building, then load the operating system and programs over the weekend. If I don’t spend too much time out in the yard, by Sunday I will have a functioning new computer – DW at blazing speeds!
Saturday night may involve a casual encounter with some sort of alcoholic beverages.
CatsMeow April 18, 2014, 7:14 pm
Hello, DW!! I miss you and love you all!
Fabelle April 18, 2014, 7:29 pm
I’m drinking again because I’m a mess, & my life is kind of weird as fuck right now. Also I miss DW even though I still go on every day. I COULD BARELY KEEP UP WITH THE DELETED THREAD. like, that never happened at my old job, but I do like my new job now. My coworker had a baby shower today, & it was nice, & for my birthday they sprinkled my desk in confetti & gave me a card, & did cupcakes with a candle. Like, snuck around in the conference room with the lights out & then “surprised” me, & it was so nice. The small office environment kind of freaked me out at first, but now I’m like WOW so this is what it’s like having coworkers?? At my last job, it was just me, my boss, & the lady in the mailroom who could barely mask her dislike for me. And the security guards, who worked under a different boss. So yeah, I like having coworkers. I even went to a happy hour last week with two of them, like a normal person who works in a normal office with people who do shit together.
Okay oops I didn’t think I would start talking about my job. I mean to vaguely & intriguingly mention some relationship shit that I’m feeling weird about, but instead I went off on some I’m-on-ecstasy level lovefest about having coworkers, which isn’t even really that special of a thing?? But oh well, now you guys are updated on my job… ? ha
Addie Pray April 18, 2014, 7:34 pm
Spill the relationship issue, woman!
Lyra April 18, 2014, 11:44 pm
I agree! I’m way too curious.
CatsMeow April 18, 2014, 7:58 pm
I’m glad you like your co-workers, Fab! I love co-worker camaraderie. My co-workers in Vegas were THE BEST and it made me love my job more than I probably otherwise would have.
I’m also drinking. HAPPY FRIDAYYYY.
muchachaenlaventana April 19, 2014, 7:56 pm
Yeah what is the relationship issue! You’ve helped us all so much in the past we are here to help 🙂
bethany April 18, 2014, 8:07 pm
I had off work today! Hooray! It was glorious. Except not really. I spent the morning at an Urgent Care place, because I thought I had strep throat (I don’t). I’ve had a sore throat since Monday, and it was swollen and pussy (tmi?) But apparently it’s just a virus.
I didn’t really do a whole lot today other than that and grocery shopping, and it was nice.
Tomorrow morning I’m running a 5K, but it’s not a serious one, it’s a Color Run type thing. Then my in laws are coming over. Then Sunday I’m going back to Arial Yoga, then to my other in laws for Easter Dinner. I’m not religious, so Easter mean nothing other than Cadbury Eggs to me. Can’t wait till MOnday when then all go on sale.
CatsMeow April 18, 2014, 8:23 pm
No Pants April 18, 2014, 9:27 pm
Feel better! I bet Rudy will give you extra hugs!
Addie Pray April 18, 2014, 8:16 pm
I’m in a hotel again tonight. (Don’t want Moose sleeping inside freshly painted walls because the fumes can’t be good. Also I wanted a bed, so there you go. Moose spend the day at the vet having tests done because he’s been sick. $600 later I learned he’s ok but stressed. I have a very emotional and sensitive doggie. They have him meds and he perkes up. (Maybe I have an addict, that’s it). He’s sleeping now and I’m watching Dateline or whatever.
The painters are still at my place finishing up. The living room and kitchen and hallway are all a lovely faint yellow. But the pea green I picked for the master is REALLY neon green. It’s bright. Whoops. And the second bedroom is a blue but it’s more a teal blue – no gray undertones, and it is also really neon-like. Double whoops. It’ll tone down once I get furniture; I hope. The painters though are awesome. This Ukranian duo. So nice, and working so hard, and doing such a nice job. They get a big tip and all my recommendations!
Tomorrow is the big day – my furniture comes! And then the fun begins – organizing, arranging furniture, putting stuff away, hanging art. I love that shit.
No Pants April 18, 2014, 9:43 pm
This reminds me of a home decorating board on Pinterest and I love it.
AliceInDairyland April 18, 2014, 8:27 pm
I just got back inside from planting about 900 swiss chard transplants and about 500 chard transplants. And my knees hurt. Since when did I get old? The soil was hard, that will be my excuse. Tonight I’m studying and prepping for my water bath canning class I’m teaching tomorrow which I am nervous about but it should be fun! Then Sunday I’m probably going to help transplant more seedlings and then go eat way too much food at my parents house and cram some more for my eyeball exam that’s on Monday.
AliceInDairyland April 18, 2014, 8:28 pm
*500 KALE transplants, not more chard… ew…
CatsMeow April 18, 2014, 9:02 pm
Speaking of water bath canning, my saltless dilly beans were not TERRIBLE. I ate a whole jar so far. This means that next time they will be PERFECT. I also made okra which should be ready tomorrow, I think?
CatsMeow April 20, 2014, 10:50 am
UPDATE: Okra was fucking perfect. I ate the whole jar already. Oops. Soon I shall be a master pickler!
AliceInDairyland April 21, 2014, 9:56 am
YAY! Other people pickling makes me SO happy. Errbody pickle!
Regina Chapman April 19, 2014, 1:49 pm
I think you should add some workout routines and a spring cleaning to your weekend plans. It sounds like you’re slacking off.
(No but seriously, what on earth is a water bath canning class and how did it go??)
Lyra April 19, 2014, 3:40 pm
Water bath canning is when you use boiling water to seal Mason jars with canning lids. Pickles, jelly, jam, fruits, juices, etc. can all be canned. It’s cool to see that canning is coming back into style. My mom has been canning since I was a baby and it’s just so fun!
Painted_lady April 18, 2014, 9:30 pm
So….today was a really boring day. I spent most of the day watching stupid tv because of Good Friday. And you know, that’s cool, I just wish I could have motivated myself to get more done. Like, I did about half the dishes and a load of laundry, so….go me? I dunno. Three day weekends are actually not my favorite because there’s not enough time to do any major projects AND re-charge, but if I only pick one, I always end up feeling like I wasted my weekend. I’m so happy summer’s six weeks away.
Random dilemma: do you guys remember the friend I’ve mentioned on here who’s been married a bunch of times and fled the country with her kids and is basically a functional adult who cannot stop herself from turning her life into a trainwreck the second she turns everything back around?
SHE’S GETTING MARRIED AGAIN.
I mean, I have reconciled myself to, if I’m going to be in her life, I have to accept all her choices and just enjoy the friend that she really, truly is. We’re never going to be besties again, but I do enjoy her, so while I feel like it’s a bad choice to marry a man she’s known less than a year, as she has with all but her first husband, I’m keeping my mouth shut. She acknowledges it’s crazy, but she also swears up and down that THIS one is different (which she has with every single man she’s agreed to marry, two of which were broken engagements). The big issue is, it’s the same weekend as Memorial Day, and I was already committed to going on a party boat/rented lake house trip with a bunch of the derby girls. The wedding is Saturday. The trip is Friday-Monday, but we only have the lake house till Sunday morning. It’s a three hour drive from here, and my friend is getting married Saturday afternoon just a few blocks from my house.
I don’t want to miss a huge chunk of this trip, and yet part of me feels obligated to attend the wedding. Another part of me resents the fuck out of her inability to just elope like she did with the first three….I don’t know what to do. A huge part of me hopes they’ll fall apart before the actual wedding (it’s happened before) but I know I can’t bank on that.
WHAT DO I DO?????
LadyinPurpleNotRed April 18, 2014, 9:35 pm
I would skip it. You don’t support her decision AND you have an easy out. You already have plans for that weekend.
CatsMeow April 19, 2014, 12:00 am
She’s known the dude less than a year and can’t even plan a long-ish engagement? Er, maybe she’s been engaged a while and you just found out the wedding date? Either way, I’d tell her that you’re already financially obligated to the other trip (even if you’re not) and can’t get out of it, and in the meantime, cross your fingers that it falls apart.
Painted_lady April 20, 2014, 1:31 am
I wish – her third husband and she only divorced in August, I think? And she started dating 4 in October? They met online, so they didn’t know each other at all before their first date. And I know it doesn’t matter, and I know it isn’t my business, and I know if it bothers me, I need to back away….but there’s something maddeningly hypnotic about the whole trainwreck because I want to understand why. I mean, does she marry them quickly because she literally doesn’t comprehend that there’s any problem? Does she think that *everyone* would get married as fast, except they just can’t find anyone who worships them like that? Does she know she’s fucking up and insists on making this same mistake because eventually it’s going to stick and then she can say, HA! TOLD YOU! Does her only sense of worth come from having a husband? Does she think the problem is the men she marries? Can she really not see what more you can learn about a person in another year? I find it really fascinating, mostly because it’s so insane and she treats it so normally – “Hey, I know this is crazy, but I’m marrying B at the end of May. He really is the one this time!” “Crazy” the way she uses it would be getting an extreme haircut. And does she not remember HOW MANY TIMES she’s called someone “the one” before? It’s just so, so crazy, and I keep hoping I’ll figure it out. Also, who the fuck are these people who still don’t know how much of a red flag it is when someone wants to marry you before the six month mark?
CatsMeow April 20, 2014, 10:53 am
How does she even find that many guys who want to get married so quickly?! I’m kind of fascinated too.
Lyra April 19, 2014, 12:02 am
Today I spent most of the day working. I wasn’t teaching, but my boss had me putting in some work for him. More money, yay. He also mentioned that he wants to make me full time next year!! (!!!!!!!!) It would mean more money coming in and potential benefits and I wouldn’t need to have the 3 (yes THREE) part time jobs that I have right now. Plus, it would be less driving so that’s exciting. He told me that he thinks I’m a great fit for a full time position — I’d still be teaching, but in addition to that I would also do a lot of the office work and I’d be a sort of music librarian. (Though I’m a teacher I technically work through a company so that’s how this all works out. It’s weird.) He told me he knew he could trust me to get the stuff he needs to get done, which is something that the current person does NOT do. So that was really cool to hear. I have to do some number crunching to see if it would be worth it financially, but hopefully it will work out.
This weekend I’m at my parents’ house pet sitting while they go help my brother move into the house that he just bought. Navy Guy is actually coming down tomorrow too and staying here overnight so I’m excited for that. He had the idea for us to have a grill out tomorrow and he’s bringing the brats and beer! It will be fun playing house with him. 🙂 Though it kind of feels like we’re teenagers and the parents aren’t home… My parents know he’s coming and they know he’s staying overnight and they think he’s awesome so it’s not a big deal but it’s still kind of funny.
Easter, as I mentioned in the deleted thread, will be spent with Navy Guy’s parents, brothers, and niece. I will do my best to get a picture of the brothers so my Facebook friends can see the hot brother. 😉 We also will be spending some time at my relatives’ afterward and I’m really looking forward to that. It’s hard to believe it’s mid April already!!
CatsMeow April 19, 2014, 12:06 am
I’ve decided to add “make out with a DWer” to my bucket list. Who’s game?? P.S. I’m going to be in Denver in May, if that helps (cough cough IWTTS).
CatsMeow April 19, 2014, 12:08 am
Hey, guys, hey. I wasn’t around for the deleted thread. I saw NONE OF IT. But do you wanna know what I would have confessed had I been available?
Northern Mermaid April 19, 2014, 2:44 am
I’ll make out with you Cats. I think I’m supposed to be sowing some wild oats since I’m broken up(ish).
Northern Mermaid April 19, 2014, 2:44 am
And yes, we all want to know your confession!
CatsMeow April 19, 2014, 2:58 am
Broken up ish? EFFFF what did I miss? I am so out of the loop. 🙁
Northern Mermaid April 19, 2014, 3:11 am
Long story short, we got in a huge fight, it brought to the surface a lot of problems in our relationship, and I’m going to stay with my mom for a few weeks to straighten out my head and figure out what I want. We’re locked into a lease until August, and since I’m unemployed, I have no idea how I’m going to find a place to live, hence the ish.
Addie Pray April 19, 2014, 9:58 am
ruh roh, NM! how are you holding up? i think the few weeks of space and thinking will be good… i love you!
CatsMeow April 19, 2014, 11:52 am
That sucks, sorry NM. 🙁
theattack April 20, 2014, 8:34 pm
I thought you were staying in your friend’s cabin?
Sobriquet April 19, 2014, 6:34 pm
I woke up at 8:30 this morning- a SATURDAY. That never happens. My schedule has been completely thrown off and I’ve been spending my mornings at bid appointments with my fiancé while he’s on crutches. We’ve been spending so much time together, but it’s been good (so far). I’ve gotten a glimpse of what it takes to run a new business and damn, it’s a lot of work. I obviously knew that on a general level, but to SEE him interact with customers and vendors and sub-contractors and potential clients (I mean, they LOVE him) and field all the phone calls and draw up the bids… it’s incredible. It’s incredibly hot, too.
I just opened a Shiner on our wall-mounted bottle opener and it sprayed all over me. I’ve been watching NBA playoffs all day while doing some housework and wedding stuff and I’m about to cook dinner and then head over to my friend’s new place to hang out. Tomorrow I’m having a boozey mimosa-filled Easter picnic brunch to celebrate the sun and the Spring equinox and what not!
muchachaenlaventana April 19, 2014, 8:42 pm
current obsession, this is such a beautiful song and such a great back story. if you have seen the movie blue valentine you’ll be familiar. but if you want to feel happy for 3 minutes click it!! I played it and danced with my boyfriend last night and also sobbed about it being almost a year since my grandma’s death and she loved this type of music but it was cathartic and lovely. happy saturday lovahs
Addie Pray April 20, 2014, 6:57 am
Yesterday at the grocery store those packets of pepperoni slices spoke to me so I bought them and ate them. I decided then: I’m done not eating meat. I lasted over a year. Not too shabby, right?
Sunshine Brite April 20, 2014, 8:24 am
It’s like an epiphany! Lol, I’m always interested to here how people’s eating habits/choices ebb and flow and change.
Addie Pray April 20, 2014, 8:24 pm
This weekend I had 4 hotdogs, 2 pepperoni sandwiches (? – whatever, i put pepperoni slices in-between bread), 1 burger, and 1 plate of nachos with ground beef, 1 bowl of spaghetti with meat sauce. I think i’ gonna vomit.
Addie Pray April 20, 2014, 10:44 pm
Ugh fine THREE bowls of spaghetti. Diet starts Monday!
Katie April 21, 2014, 8:44 am
Vacation in Vermont is going great! Jakes family is hilarious. It’s just so funny when they talk. I drank wayyyyyy too much wine on Saturday.