Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread and Links


Alix Strauss for The New York Times

A few links you might find interesting:

I know some of you can relate to this: The Anxiety of Being a Wedding Guest

Related, and relevant to a recent forum discussion: Wedding Canceled or Postponed? Here’s How to Get a Refund

This poem about the raising of racist children is so very powerful.

This was validating for me: Your ‘Surge Capacity’ Is Depleted — It’s Why You Feel Awful

The pandemic threatens how we naturally grow and benefit from relationships

I thought this was a helpful comment from the post, “Why I’m Living in Fear,” and wanted to draw attention to it. In it, Sara mentions a few actions she’s taking to help get Biden elected and avoid another catastrophic four years with Trump in the White House. She has signed up for:

Mom Rising, an organization that will “take on the most critical issues facing women, mothers, and families by educating the public and mobilizing massive grassroots to affect policy change.”
Vote Forward, an organization that “empowers grassroots volunteers to help register voters from under-represented demographics and encourage them to vote.”
– Texting drives (she says it’s “very easy and you are not using your personal number”), and sending postcards for candidate-specific campaign drives. (She uses the votedem subreddit for these targeted efforts.)

What efforts have you taken to help get out the vote for Democratic candidates this election cycle? I’ve been making donations, making a voting plan, and informing others what some voting options are where they live, Drew and I have joined Adopt a State (which allows you to help influence votes in battleground states even if you don’t like in one), and I plan to send lots of postcards over the coming weeks (which will also help support the USPS!).

5 comments… add one
  • MaterialsGirl August 28, 2020, 1:18 pm

    The Surge article was really really good, thanks Wendy. I’ve certainly experienced before the pandemic when getting ready for big work events (and the adrenaline loss/complete exhaustion after it’s all over). The pandemic felt like being on the roller coaster everyday even when nothing was really happening (at least in the beginning). Now that I’ve adjusted somewhat and cobbled together a bit of a routine, it’s easier to deal with.
    in the “living in fear” post, someone also mentioned the prediction that Biden will win, which gives me hope, but you’re right, we can’t just ‘bank’ on it without doing what we can

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  • anonymousse August 28, 2020, 1:26 pm

    Great links, Wendy. The surge piece was spot on. I feel like we’ve been in a marathon of doom for much too long. Loved the poem. Love the spur into action with Sara’s comment/links.

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  • ktfran August 28, 2020, 2:31 pm

    Ugh. Weddings.

    I went to my hairstylist today. I feel safe there. It’s basically empty. There was my stylist and two others with their clients spread out over, IDK, at least 18 ft. While my color was processing, I eavesdropped on the other stylist and her client. They talked about weddings. And how they’re both going to large, 150+ people weddings in the next month. I’m fairly sure my jaw dropped.

    And then after the color was washed out of my hair, I asked my stylist about her family. Her mom is having a hard time right now because one of her best friend’s is mad at her for declining to attend her daughters 250 person wedding. Apparently they need 190 people to attend to reach the minimum. They haven’t reached the minimum. UGH!!!

    Anyway, if I were invited to a wedding at this time, I would politely decline. Because. No. I truly don’t think I’ll be comfortable going to a large event until, IDK, 2022. Maybe sooner. I doubt it.

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    • Fyodor August 28, 2020, 8:17 pm

      Yeah, I don’t know when I’ll be fully up for that kind of stuff again. I could see a scenario where some combination of antivirals/therapies/at home testing makes things somewhat better by January and we get a very good vaccine by winter/spring and I’m kind of back to normal by the summer. I could also see a scenario where things get very bad during the winter, no vaccine until the summer and the vaccine is only so so, where it’s a long time before I’m doing big gatherings again.

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  • allathian August 31, 2020, 12:58 am

    That Surge article was really good, thanks!

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