TGIF! Jackson’s babysitter, who usually watches him two mornings a week, took the last ten days off and I was reminded how exhausting it is to not get a break from baby-wrangling, even if I spend that break working. Remember how depressed I was back in February? And I thought I had delayed PPD? And then it turned out I just needed a higher dose of thyroid meds and a nap. And a babysitter. Seriously, if there’s one piece of advice I have for new mothers — and let’s face it, I always have more than one piece of advice — it’s not to be ashamed to ask for help. Even if it’s just hiring a babysitter one morning a week so you can go for a walk or sleep or go to the grocery store without carrying a baby.
Anyhow, I’m grateful to have help now, but I sure did miss it this week and am glad it’s Friday and I’ll have an extra pair of hands to help with J. He’s teething hard core and I’m not sure who’s more ready for the relief of tooth #1 — him or me.
Speaking of relief, let’s talk about dodged bullets. As in, who in your past, romantically-speaking, are you grateful is no longer in your life? Maybe it’s someone who broke your heart and it took you eons to get over, but now that you’re in a better place you can see how wrong he was for you and how miserable you would have made each other. Or maybe it was someone you crushed on for a long time and never had a chance with and now you see him on Facebook and you’re like, “Ew.” I have a few dodged bullets, myself, probably the biggest of which was my first serious boyfriend in college. At first, he wanted to marry me, but I wasn’t anywhere near ready. Then he broke up with me and I was devastated for (what seemed like) a long time. Now, I look back and know that had I stayed with him, my life would be very, very different than it is now. Not bad, necessarily, but certainly not the life I would want for myself. And I’m quite happy with the life I have now and would not trade it for what could have been in a million years (wish I could have had a crystal ball back when, though; it maybe would have saved a few thousand tears).
What about you? Is there anyone you came close to marrying or settling down with for a long time that you’re now glad you lost your chance with?