If, two weeks after dumping you over some misinterpreted comment you made, your (ex) boyfriend still “maintains that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship,” all the while talking with you every day, telling you he loves you and spending Valentine’s Day with you, then what he’s really saying is he doesn’t want the commitment of a relationship, but he’s happy to reap the benefits (including, I’m guessing, sex). Girl, you need to take back your power and quit enabling this behavior. The only one who’s going to make it stop is you. As long as he’s getting what he wants from your relationship, there’s no reason for him to change anything about it. So, if you’re unhappy with the way things are, tell him. Tell him that you’re sorry for whatever it is you said that set this whole thing off, but if he can’t accept your apology and take you back as his girlfriend, you can’t continue doing what it is you’re doing, because it hurts too much to be with him without really being with him. Tell him that if he means what he says when he tells you he loves you, he’ll either commit to you fully or let you go so you can find someone who will. This limbo state is not healthy, and you need to MOA if your time in it is indefinite.
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