I’m crushed; I can’t believe that this meant absolutely NOTHING to him. If he knew that he could never fall for me, why would he treat me like his girlfriend and not like a standard booty-call? Is there any chance that he has feelings for me but, for some reason, does not want to commit? How stupid am I for wanting him to come back and change his mind? Should I just go up to him and tell him that I’m feeling so fucking miserable? — Confused Booty-call
Wait, you’re mad at a guy from deigning to treat you like a human being instead of a booty call by spending time with you outside of the sack? You think that just because he doesn’t see a future with you that you mean nothing to him? In between booty calls and potential lifelong partnerships are an array of casual relationships that may include everything you mention — dates, meeting each other’s friends, and good sex — that can indeed, mean something without necessarily meaning something.
Do not go up to your former flame/ co-worker and tell him that you’re fucking miserable. Accept that you two were looking for different things and that you developed deeper feelings than he did. This does not make him an asshole or you an idiot. This is just how dating works sometimes. It’s awesome when two people find exactly what they want in each other, whether they know what they’re looking for or not. It’s not so awesome when expectations aren’t met, messages are misunderstood, and feelings are hurt. But that’s the way it goes. Better luck next time. And since this relationship was on the heels of a longterm relationship that had just ended, maybe your “next time” should be after a break and re-group.