Dear Wendy
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Woman Loses Home For Totally Outrageous Reason

This 30-year-old woman had to move in with her parents when she went into debt and could no longer afford her rent, which is sad. The reason she went into debt is so much sadder, and completely outrageous:

She went into debt going to her friends’ wedding and showers and bachelorette parties, what!! Georgina Childs from Essex, England, told the British TV program “This Morning” that she gave up her home after spending £9,250 ($12,885) on attending 14 weddings and their associated bachelorette parties over the course of four years. She said she resorted to credits cards to pay for clothing, accommodations, and travel expenses, and as the debt mounted, she gave up her apartment and moved back in with her parents so she could continue going to her friends’ weddings and related events.

“Childs says she now dreads the arrival of a wedding invitation. While it’s exciting and ‘an honor’ to be invited to a ceremony or a hen do, she said, she finds it difficult to turn one down for fear of coming across as rude.

‘Some people say I should start turning down invites of once-removed-type friends, but it’s not that easy to turn down a wedding invite,’ she said. ‘It’s seen as a bit of a social faux pas.'”

OMG, someone give this woman some life-changing advice: tell her that her financial and emotional health is worth more than people’s perception of whether she’s rude or not! And stop going to events you can’t afford!! Skip the bachelorette parties, stop buying new clothes for each wedding and wear what you already own, and only say yes to local events that don’t require hotel accommodations and long commutes! Childs said FOMO (fear of missing out) motivates her to keep going to these things, especially the elaborate bachelorette parties. Good lord, honey, no weekend in Vegas is worth moving back in with your parents at 30 years old though. Yikes.

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  • Northern Star April 25, 2018, 1:03 pm

    Why in the world would she admit to such stupidity publicly?

    I mean, it’s so preventable, and so utterly her very own fault… and now everyone KNOWS about it… yikes.

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    • ron April 25, 2018, 1:19 pm

      It’s a very direct way to stop the dreaded wedding invitations from coming. Now her friends will pity her, instead of seeing her as rude. I’m a bit surprised her parents are giving her free housing and that she is using this as a way to continue your addiction to attending weddings and showers she can’t afford. The headline is a bit overly dramatic. She didn’t lose her home. She had to give up her apartment, because she chose to divert the rent money elsewhere.

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      • Dear Wendy April 25, 2018, 1:33 pm

        She was so far into debt, she could no longer pay her rent. Not really an overly dramatic headline.

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      • Northern Star April 25, 2018, 1:47 pm

        I would prefer my friends think I’m kind of a tightwad rather than think I’m a total freakin’ idiot who needs to be pitied.

        This woman needs to get a second job so she can both pay her rent AND have literally no time to go on destination bachelorette parties. “Can’t. I’m working.” Done.

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  • MaterialsGirl April 25, 2018, 1:07 pm

    This was timely as it issss wedding season.

    Wendy, you should use this as the lead-in to each “Wedding Week”

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    • d2 April 25, 2018, 8:22 pm

      In the case of this woman, it would be “Wedding Weak”…

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  • Kate April 25, 2018, 1:17 pm

    A woman on my team who is 26 told me today (after I sent her this article because I know she has multiple weddings and destination bachelorette parties this year) that she’ll be spending $5k in one month on this stuff! Everyone seems to be getting more and more extravagant and one-upping each other, and they feel like they can’t say no.

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  • Autumnrose April 25, 2018, 1:27 pm

    So she spent approx. $1,000 per bride and groom’s wedding. I would never spend that amout on anyone with the exception of my future children. If you are not in the wedding and are invited as a guest, you should only spend what you can afford. If you are invited to be in the wedding make sure to set and openly discuss a budget with the bridal and groom party, that way if they go over your budget you can easily opt out of the party without drama. If you don’t have money to go out of town for a wedding then send a small congrats gift. (No hurt feelings you couldn’t show and that you had them on your mind) if you don’t have the money then either go, show love and support OR don’t go.

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    • SpaceySteph April 25, 2018, 2:08 pm

      And here I am thinking she got off on the cheap side compared to some of the crap I’ve heard. I have to travel for most friend’s weddings so 1000 would barely cover flights and hotel let alone the other stuff.

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      • Autumnrose April 26, 2018, 6:24 pm

        Well sounds like you can afford it. But the average income for a single person cannot afford to traveling for multiple friends wedding (fly), buy gifts for Xmas bdays weddings etc, take annual vacations, pay bills and etc in a year bc if they do than they are living beyond their means which means they go in debt.

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  • anonymousse April 25, 2018, 1:45 pm

    “Sorry, I’d love to but I can’t.”

    Why are these words so hard to say?

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  • TheHizzy April 25, 2018, 2:37 pm

    In the age that everyone is moving across the country and aren’t close to a home base with a good chunk of friends I can understand spending a lot of money on weddings. I’ve dropped a pretty penny on all my friends, but I planned/saved and declined when I couldn’t attend. If I had to do it over again from the start, I’d do the same route.

    Wonder if when this woman goes to get married if she’ll expect the same from her friends. I know mine won’t be, and I’m totally cool with that. Different stages of life folks!

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  • csp April 25, 2018, 3:04 pm

    My husband and I were asked to be in the same wedding. The bridesmaid dresses, shower, and bachelorette/bachelor parties were way out of hand. We had just bought a house and I called the couple and told them that we couldn’t be in the wedding because we estimated it would cost $3k and we just couldn’t afford it. It was a hard conversation but also so freeing. The couple was shocked by that number but I broke it down for them – $100 tux rental, $350 bridesmaid dress, trip to vegas, shower with alcohol at restaurant. Once we spoke up, everyone followed suit. We were no longer in the wedding but everyone jumped in and half the plans changed once we left. Sometimes you need to just speak up and everyone else feels the same way.

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  • JD April 25, 2018, 3:52 pm

    Who loses their house over $12k? I mean the reason for he debt is ridiculous but the math doesn’t add up. Making payments on a CC toward that means she was broke or something to begin with because that total amount of debt wouldn’t cause you to lose your house. Guessing there was a lot of other stupid spending all her available cash as well.

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    • Kate April 25, 2018, 4:13 pm

      I thought it was$18k. I think it’s more that she looked at her total debt, her rent and other fixed costs, vs her take-home pay, which probably wasn’t super high at her age, and figured that she wouldn’t be able to climb out of debt anytime soon unless she could axe her rent payment. So she made the choice to give up her apartment and move back home.

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  • Juliecatharine April 25, 2018, 4:19 pm

    I’m so glad I only love a few people. There’s no way I would drop that much money or even bother getting dressed up to go to a friend of a friend’s wedding. This woman is a moron.

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    • SpaceySteph April 25, 2018, 4:30 pm

      Yeah agree. In that quote she’s talking about how people think she should stop going to weddings of once-removed friends and it’s like duh! I would mayyybe go to the wedding of a once-removed friend if it was local and I could get away with a reasonable gift, a dress I already own, and the gas to get there and back.

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  • Candice Conner April 26, 2018, 7:07 pm

    I don’t think she gave up her home.She was more than not forced out by baliffs.You owe money in England it is not pretty. Baliffs can take everything you own. I agree though about the cost of weddings. I am glad my daughter opted for a courthouse wedding.She rather spend her money on a house than a one night party. Thru the years to me it seems all the people I know who spent like crazy on their wedding are divorced. I think wanting to be the center of attention where you spend and spend for one day could be some kind of disorder. Live within your means. Do not expect your friends to go into debt for a party for you.

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  • Sapphire April 28, 2018, 12:01 am

    I don’t know what’s more shocking, the fact that she thinks fomo is ruining her life or the fact she post this online.

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