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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I’ve been patient and have encouraged him, and we are onto baby steps. However, I was promoted and now work a lot more than he does and at a higher pay. So I find myself splitting the tab with him all the time, which I guess is my own fault because I offer to pay half, but sometimes a girl just wants a guy to refuse, you know? On top of that, I pay for gas and buy him small little gifts every once in a while because it makes me happy surprising him. But on Valentines Day last week, I told myself not to spend much because I overspent on our first Christmas together, so I made him brownies and a card. He was so happy, but I didn’t even get a card, which is all I really wanted.
I know he loves me, and I have no intention of leaving him, but I’m sick of getting stressed out over my own money and the Valentines Day situation just kind of left me feeling a little down. And as close as we are, I don’t know how to address this to him without seeming unappreciative for the daily things that he does do for me. — Tired of the Driver’s Seat
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