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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I told him to stay with her and have this family as I don’t want to be any cause for them breaking up, but he told me there was no way he was staying with her because he can’t stand her. He says he told her he’s not happy about this pregnancy and didn’t want a baby and asked her to abort as he was 40 years old. She told him she got pregnant on the pill, which I think is a lot of cod wallop. I have tried to encourage him to stay with this woman soley because of this pregnancy, but he wants me and wants to marry me as he said all along, and he is furious with this woman for keeping the baby after only knowing each other two minutes. It’s not right… I’m sure I wouldnt….! But I think she’s tried to trap him and he’s untrappable.
I don’t know how I’m going to feel about this baby malarky. He told me he will obviously be paying for it but wants nothing to do with her OR the baby. He made his feelings clear to her when she was only two weeks pregnant, telling her they haven’t been together two minutes! I think she’s nothing but a little scroat. Any advice on this would be appreciated as I’m so confused and hurt. He said this is not gonna ruin us, but I’m unsure. — Already Tired of the Baby Malarky