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I’d say a realistic estimate of how often he agrees to go out with me is about 1-5% of the time I ask, and even then he acts like he’s getting a root canal. Is it his duty as half of this relationship to give into my requests about going out more often, especially if I’ve let him know it’s important to me, or should I just accept how things are?
Another recent issue I have is that my boyfriend recently became very cold with me and wouldn’t speak much to me. When I asked him what was wrong he was very quiet for a long time, and said that he felt like there was disconnect in the relationship and that I’d been shutting him out. This came as a surprise to me, and I asked him to give me some examples. He couldn’t give any.
I am upset and don’t know what I did or what I can do to fix the situation. I told him that I feel like I honestly didn’t do anything to make him feel disconnected or excluded. Now I’m not sure how to act around him and I feel angry. He is saying he’s nervous about how I’ve reacted to what he brought up. I thought everything was fine, but he’s been very cold and quiet for a week, and then he told me he felt shut out when I pushed him to say something. HELP. — Cast Out
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