In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Last year, Leah started dating Brian. From the beginning of their relationship, she always said that she could do better than him, and was only keeping him around for “fun.” Weeks after a party with a group of friends, Leah mentioned that Brian did not like me because he thought my career choice was made me stuck-up. I’m okay with Brian not liking me. I love what I do for a living, and am in school pursuing a graduate degree in my chosen field, so his opinion means squat. Leah also mentioned that Brian did not like her other best friend from high school, Diana, who was at the party too. Diana’s party foul was saying that she didn’t like cussing.
Fast forward to Halloween last year and Leah was on the verge of breaking it off with Brian. He had been flaking on her, didn’t want to commit, and was smoking pot. I told her that Brian was jerk who was using her, and that she could do better. She agreed, but the two later reconciled. Since then, Leah and Brain have been going strong.
This year, I finish graduate school. I also found out that I’m up for my dream job (Yay!) which is 1000 miles away from home. It starts at the end of this summer, so I may only have four months to enjoy being home. Outside of work and school, my only concern is to cherish the time I have left with my family and friends. Leah is trying to make me and Brian spend more time together, but between school and working 50 hours a week, I’m exhausted. Besides, I’m pretty sure Leah told Brian what I thought of him since he barely acknowledges me when we all do get together.
I’ve accepted that Leah and I are moving in different directions, but we’ll be friends no matter what life throws at us. Even though I’m limited on time, should I make an effort to get to know Brian for Leah’s sake? — Moving Away from a Friend