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I’m taking a day off today to enjoy some down time with Drew, so I present this “Your Turn,” without commentary from me:
Adding another two years apart to the two years we have already been long-distance is not ideal for me. Also, moving out to a cold state across the country was not exactly in my plan either. I love him and I really thought that, after he graduated next May, he would move here with me. I don’t want to move, away from my friends and family, to his hometown which is freezing! I love my sunny, warm state. And he doesn’t want to move to my state now — he is telling me that it is unrealistic, that he has no money, and that, if I loved him, I’d move to where he is. He says he doesn’t want to move to where I am because it’s away from his family and friends.
My boyfriend seems more worried about making money and focusing on a career than on me and our relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I know that his career and goals will be good for our future in the long run. But this all seems worthless to me if he has no time to invest in our relationship. And it seems hopeless and inevitable if neither of us wants to move…
If you have any advice, I could really use it… I’m desperate. — I Hate Cold Weather
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