In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
My boyfriend told me I shouldn’t worry and I trust him, but she’s always teasing him, trying all sorts of things to get his attention. He mostly tries to not show interest, but eventually he will look. I know it’s normal to find other people attractive and I won’t complain to him beacuse he’s not doing anything wrong, but I feel bothered that she shows no respect for our relationship. I’m also afraid that, I don’t know, they hang out together a lot, and what if someday he gets really drunk and ends up sleeping with her? Will it be ‘just a mistake,’ like I’ve heard from another friend of theirs who cheated on his girlfriend with her?
She’s in his close social circle and I don’t know how to deal with her. I’ve talked about it with my best friend and she told me I should leave it this way because there will always be women who want male attention and the men will always give it to them in some degree (why do guys do that?). The problem is that she makes me feel envious, bitter, jealous, insecure and unattractive. Maybe I just really am. I’ll never be as hot and pretty as she is. I know my boyfriend doesn’t care (he’s my boyfriend, after all) but I feel like I’m not enough. What should I do? — Jealous of His hot Friend