I’ve been seeing this guy for about five months. We met at work and started talking about a month after. In the beginning he told me that he was looking for someone to marry and have children with (within a year or so) which was the same thing I wanted. Now all of a sudden he doesn’t want that, and when I ask him about it he just changes the subject.
My birthday came around and we went out and he told me that my gift was at his mother’s house and he would bring it to me. It’s been approximately two months and I still haven’t received anything.
He asked me to buy him some shoes. The first time I thought he was joking and laughed it off, but the second and third time it wasn’t funny. He knows my budget and I can’t afford to buy him shoes. He asked me for gas money, too — he asked if he could pick me up from work I agreed, and then when he got to my office he told me that he didn’t have any gas. He was my only ride at that moment so I gave him some money.
We rarely go out. The last time we went out was two months ago which was on my birthday, and actually we’ve only really had two dates in total. The funny thing is that a couple days ago he called me and asked if I wanted to go out. He named everything were going to do and I’m like “ok,” and then all of a sudden he hits me with: “I want you to take me out — you’re paying.” I told my friend what happened and she said that he is too forceful and that I shouldn’t pay his way for anything.
We don’t have sex regularly — maybe once or twice every two weeks; he actually made and excuses to leave my house one time because I tried to cuddle with him.
On top of all this I haven’t met his family. (He’s met mine though). He’s admitted to being hesitant with that, I asked him why and he doesn’t know. I’ve also never been to his place which he says he shares with roommates but I don’tknow. I also noticed that he says he’s going to do something and doesn’t follow through, which is really annoying.
Is he trying to use me? Am I stupid for putting up with this? — Tired of His Crap