In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I did not know these Marines personally, but my boyfriend did; he is also currently working closely with the families to get their things in order. I want so very much to be supportive to the families, but I am worried I just don’t know how to do it correctly. I know that may sound silly, but this is the first time something like this has hit so close to home, and I know it sadly won’t be the last. I would love to help in any way possible, but I also don’t want to be a creepy outsider/intruder on what is such a personal matter. But I feel like my boyfriend could have easily been in their place, so I really feel for the families. Of course, I am taking all my cues from my boyfriend, so I won’t do anything outrageous, but would still like to do something. I also want to be supportive of my boyfriend through this difficult time, but he tends to clam up in these situations so it feels hard sometimes.
What can I do? Is letting him know I’m there for him enough? And, I have tried asking my boyfriend, but I’m not getting the feedback I need. I thought not being LD anymore would make this easier, but I just feel so clueless in supporting loved ones through times of loss. — Military Girlfriend