In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Currently, we haven’t had sex in almost two months. I know why – his dad was given less than two years to live, and his job is laying people off left and right, so the man is undeniably stressed beyond anything I’ve ever experienced. In the past when he would get stressed out, I would just take care of myself and enjoy a glass of wine (at my own home) if I needed a little sleep aide. I don’t drink around him because he’s a recovering alcoholic which has never been an issue because I don’t drink much. Lately, he’s been wanting to sleep at each other’s places pretty much nightly which shouldn’t be an issue except I’m beyond sexually frustrated and his constantly wanting to be around me is preventing me from indulging in my usual ways of coping with lack of sex.
I haven’t gone more than a month without sex since I lost my virginity probably and I’m starting to go a little crazy. Last night, I woke up with my hands down my pants going at it with myself while we were spooning at his place. My ultimate questions are: how long do I let this go on before I say something, should I even say anything, and how do I even begin to bring this up with everything else going on in his life? Oh yeah, he also has started going to therapy and has been taking antidepressants, anti-anxiety, and sleeping meds which are doing wonders for him but absolutely nothing for my situation. — Not Getting Any