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My girlfriend and I do not have any children and already her parents show up at our home unannounced. My girlfriend brought it to their attention and they have since decreased the number of unannounced visits. But now what they do is show up at our house while we are both at work without even telling us. I have come home to both of them sitting in my house watching Netflix while my partner is still at work. I don’t understand why they would even want to be at my house if no one is home. When my partner asks them why, they use our dog as an excuse, saying that they wanted to take care of him for us. She has told them many times that it is not necessary to do so, yet they continue to show up. Once I’m home they still stay two hours more. I work shifts 12-15 hours long, so I am in no mood to attend to them. What’s worse is that they are bad visitors and don’t follow the house rules. My partner feels caught in the middle and doesn’t want to hurt their feelings. She doesn’t see this behavior as abnormal or inappropriate. She doesn’t mind them showing up, even if she isn’t home, because she feels like they are doing us a favor by checking in on our dog. I hate making her feel caught in the middle between her parents and me, but I don’t want to put up with it forever either. What can I do? — Tired of Unannounced Visiting Parents