In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Maybe I’m imagining things, but I feel he’s gotten attached to me as well. He has invited me to his work, showed me what he does, and introduced me to his colleague. As a matter of a fact, I can see that he really enjoys my company, and he jokes and teases me all the time in a friendly manner. He has started giving me hints in his jokes lately that he’d like to be hugged or that he’d like to see me in provocative clothes or that I look good, etc. He encourages me to compliment him all the time. But he never makes a move on me, never tries to hug me or touch me, and avoids physical contact with me, though, while I’m around, he looks me in the eye and smiles at me. I’m confused with his behaviour, and I’m afraid that there might be a misunderstanding due to the difference of mentalities. I’m a Slavic girl after all. I’m a private tutor for him at the moment and I come to teach him in his apartment, so nobody sees us and he still doesn’t do anything. We talk and we watch movies, but, truth be told, it feels a little awkward being around him. I suppose he might feel insecure and doesn’t want to get involved with me because he’s not sure if he will get his visa or not. Also, previously, when I taught him at the language school, he would be opposed to the idea of dating a teacher.
His sister came to visit him a couple of days ago and he took her to the seaside, but he was texting me every day and he wrote me that he accidentally met an acquaintance of his (whom he called a stalker) at the seaside and that I have to improve if I want to keep up with her. That’s the way he likes to joke.
So I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid that, if I make a move on him, I might look stupid and he might not see me as a girlfriend but rather as a friend/teacher. He’s single and I could give it a try, but I’m afraid. I also have a male friend who told me that he wants a relationship with me, but I never gave him the answer though he’s kind of nice and we really have a lot in common.
So I’m just asking for a piece of advice. Could you tell me what I should do in this situation? — Teacher Teacher