In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
I love my mother but we have a very strained relationship at home. I want to transfer to a school by where my grandparents live — they have a lake house that they don’t use and are willing to let me live there as long as I take care of it and pay a small monthly fee! I can live on my own while I go to the local university, which is about 20 minutes away. Sounds like a good deal, but I’ve just started a LGBT group at my school and love being part of the community, or at least talking to my counselor about who I am. I feel that if I went to this other college, I would be completely isolated and would feel forced back into the closet completely. Though I’m not out to my family, I am sort of out at my community college, and nobody really takes that much of issue with it — there are a few homophobes but this is Texas, after all!
My counselor told me about a college that is super close to where my mom and I live right now and they have one of the best LGBT groups around. I really want to go to this school, because not only do they have a good psychology program but they have a great community. But I don’t know if I can stand to live with my mom any longer (she’s said I’m welcome to keep living at home while I continue school). I lover her and all, but she drives me insane. (Dorms are pretty much out of the question because I can’t afford the cost.) I almost want to stick it out at home and go to the school closest to me, but another part wants to move out and go to the other school event though I may get gay-bashed! I’m so very confused as to what to do. Please help! — Choice of Two
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