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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
When we first moved in together, we had sex every day, and good sex at that. Now, it is only once a week, which upsets me. He used to drool over me naked, but now I can walk around the house naked with him not even looking at me. It makes me really sad and self-conscious. Also, we are on a budget since we are both students. We don’t go out much, which I understand, but every time we do we split the bill. I’m fine with that, but the other night was special to me since we haven’t had an outing recently. I didn’t even bring my phone with me.
We were at the restaurant and he got aggravated at me for some reason and then looked down at his phone the rest of dinner. This made me feel like he didn’t want to take me out or is not interested in treating me like I should be treated. Also, lately — and this REALLY bothers me — he gets so fucking aggravated and snappy when I don’t understand something. He seems annoyed by me. Whether it be about measuring something or cooking, he talks to me like an idiot. He rarely ever asks me anymore about how my day was, about my family, about how I’m feeling, or any of the things I ask him.
He tells me how much he loves me, but he doesn’t show it anymore. I understand that we are far past the honeymoon stage, but a man can never stop treating his woman, well, like a woman. That night at the restaurant made me feel like shit because all these other men were checking me out, but my boyfriend who “loves me” was looking at his phone and didn’t care to ask how my day was. Any other guy would like to treat me like a lady. Has he lost interest? Is he not attracted anymore? Am I doing something wrong? Is he cheating?
Please give me some advice because I have no close lady friends anymore because I moved. — Like a Lady
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