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In a new feature I’m calling “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
My ex-boyfriend and I dated for six months and it was a very bad relationship. I hadn’t seen him for three months when he texted me asking if I still had some of things. I replied that I did, and asked when he would like to pick them up. He then proceeded to tell me all about his new girlfriend he’s living and working with in a town an hour away (I knew he had moved a few months ago for a job) and how he wants her around all the time and he is so happy. I am trying to be happy for him, but I can’t help being a little jealous that he wants to spend all his time with her and wants to marry her. I had to practically beg him to spend time with me instead of his friends when we were dating. Is it normal to be jealous that an ex is treating his new partner better? I don’t want to date him again, but part of me wonders where this nice, attentive guy was when we were dating. He hardly ever let me spend the night (he couldn’t stay at my place due to pet allergies) and he’s already moved in with this girl! They’ve only been dating at most 2-3 months, so is this just new relationship excitement on his part? Is his attachment to her because he is in a new town with no friends to compete for his attention?
There’s also one other odd thing about the relationship. His girlfriend is black, and the entire time we dated, we always fought about how racist he was. He would say things like “I don’t believe in mixed race babies,” and that he thought we should restore segregation. He even ordered white power items from websites. This really has me scratching my head. Any thoughts? — Confused Ex