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Happy Friday! What do you have planned for the weekend? I want to take the kids to a family-friendly performance by a Zimbabwe hip-hop band tomorrow and to family day at the Guggenheim on Sunday but they are already complaining about both things, so we’ll see. I got a migraine last weekend that knocked me on my ass for 36 hours, so if I can remain pain-free this weekend, I’ll come out ahead regardless what we end up doing.
Hope you all have a great weekend, and here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:
The Worst Dating Advice People Have Gotten From Their Married Friends
Can Marriage Counseling Save America? (TBH, I think it’s time for a divorce…)
Related:
“Many parents no longer want their children marrying people from a different political party — 35% of Republicans and 45% of Democrats, to be precise. Workers, like Richard, feel politics simply has no place in the office. And Americans at large dread the idea of Thanksgiving dinners with family members who might bring up President Donald Trump. Some on the right are even concerned we are on the verge of a new Civil War.”
— Welcome to the Fractured States of America
FYI: What Is the Best Pre-Sex Meal?
What I Wish I Knew About Finding Love Again After My Marriage Ended
Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!
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My colleague, “Maria,” and I are both married to different people. There was a spark between us and I found her very attractive. She made a move on me by inviting me to her place while her husband and kids were away. Even though I am very attracted to her, I did not take her up on it. Since then, she has made several advances which I have not pursued as I worried about the potential consequences of an affair. Her advancements went on and off over a 15-month period until she eventually stopped. All the time, deep down, I wanted to be with her and my mind was going crazy thinking about her, but somehow I resisted the temptation. She and I mostly work from home, but every so often we’re both in the office together, and I feel the spark again and my feelings reignite. Now I look back with regret that I did not take her up on offers. I finally spoke to her and told her I had feelings for her. She backed off, telling me she is happy where her life is right now. She also sounded angry when she rejected me. I kind of knew in my heart that she would turn me down as time had passed by. Now I feel embarrassed as I feel our friendship is over. Even though I look back at the opportunities I passed up, at the time I was happy with my decision. Why, all this time later, do I regret it? — Missed an Opportunity for an Affair
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It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “The ‘Feelings Talk‘” who had been seeing a guy for a few months but was still unsure about their status. While they were apart over the summer, he’d text and call her but make no effort to see her (even when he was in her town!). She wondered how best to initiate a conversation about what his feelings for her were. Her update below.
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