Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

updatesIt’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Nude to This” who wrote in last week about being upset that her boyfriend was going to a wedding that she wasn’t invited to where his recent ex would be in attendance, soon after the LW found nude photos of said ex on her boyfriend’s phone.

“Should he still go? Should I let him go and should I then get over it even though I have been anxious for weeks, am hurt that he still wants to go, and am uncomfortable with the whole idea? He doesn’t want to upset me, but he also says he doesn’t want to upset the bride and groom. (Yet he is not in the wedding party and told me that he is not that close with the couple.)”

The wedding was this past weekend. Keep reading to find out whether the boyfriend went or not.

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I found this post the other day — 12 People on the Advice That Changed Their Life — and it got me thinking about what advice changed my life. A few bits of wisdom that stand out:
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updatesIt’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “What Would Wendy Do?“, the woman who handed $100 to a close friend only to later be led to believe the money was spent on an addiction and she likely would not be re-paid.

“Becky promised to pay me back in two weeks, but it has been a month and two weeks now and I have still not been paid back. I think she could have paid me back by now but hasn’t because she is wrapped up in a substance web: either directly owing for it, borrowing from Peter to pay Paul, or just using whatever funds she can get to acquire more. At the same time, that money will not make or break me, and our friendship is worth more than $100. She hasn’t reached out though, and I don’t know where to go from here.”

Update below:

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I am a man and have been dating a woman whom I love so much, but I fear that she doesn’t respect me and never will.

I have been in a bad financial situation without steady work (I’m applying like crazy for jobs that would fix it all), whereas she is doing well financially, earning way more than I am. She owns the house we live in, and I can’t really afford to pay any cost of living right now.

So she said I could live with her rent-free but that, if I do that, I have to be the maid of the house, doing all the cleaning for her. She said as part of that I have to wear a maid’s uniform, a black and white maid’s dress and tights, so that I really understand that this will now be my role until I can be a man and pay her rent. She says if I don’t like it then this will motivate me to get a better job and do better financially.

I had to agree to do this and have been her maid for about a month now. On weekends she’ll order me to put on my maid’s dress and tights and go around cleaning everything top to bottom. She just laughs and watches me clean the whole time, giving me cleaning orders while she relaxes. I feel so humiliated, and I have lost all self-respect since I’ve done this, but I can’t afford to help her pay her rent. Is this a bad situation? — Maid to Order

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Omg, we made it to the weekend – hooray! What are you up to? Drew and I have a sitter tonight and nothing planned, which is always the best. We’re doin’ it old school – heading into the night and letting it take us where it might. (We’ve thrown around the idea of Caribbean food; this place, if you live in Brooklyn, is amazing.) The rest of the weekend will be: chilling; chores; and picnics. What are you up to?

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PPS A friend is working on a documentary series about women trying to conceive much later in life – naturally or with medical intervention. The filmmakers are looking to cast women interested in sharing their miraculous stories. If you or anyone you know fits that description, please reach out to: [email protected] booking(at) Thanks!