Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

Happy Friday! The winner of the happiest story in four words contest is LisforLeslie with “DeVos killed by bear” (I loved your others, too). Leslie, please email me an address where I can send the book, Shade, or if you prefer, I will make a $20 donation to your democratic candidate of choice. And runner up is Anonymousse with “Millennials vote record numbers!” (Let’s hope!!) I made a $10 donation to Amy McGrath in Kentucky, the democratic candidate of Anonymousse’s choice. Thanks, everyone, for playing!

It’s a beautiful fall morning here as I write this and I’m about to head into Manhattan for the afternoon to see my friend Matty, in town from Chicago for the annual New York musical improv fest this weekend. I’ve saved all my drinking calories for the week to enjoy today, so I’m looking forward to a bourbon cocktail after lunch if I can find one, and hopefully a walk in Central Park.

Tomorrow we’re going to Coney Island to celebrate a friend’s birthday and enjoy the rides with a little less crowd and airless humidity than at the height of August, so that should be fun.

Hope you all have a great weekend!


Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

I don’t know a single woman who has permitted herself to be as openly furious about being sexually assaulted as Kavanaugh allowed himself to be, in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee, when speaking about being accused of sexual assault. Like Ford, we have had to be painfully careful about how we speak. […]

It will be said that Kavanaugh was confirmed despite the #MeToo movement. It would be at least as accurate to say that he was confirmed because of it. Women’s speech—and the fact that we are now listening to it—has enraged men in a way that makes them determined to reëstablish the longstanding hierarchy of power in America. By imagining that they are threatened, men like Kavanaugh have found the motivation to demonstrate, at great cost to the rest of us, that they are still the ones who have the ability to threaten others.

One Year of #MeToo: What Women’s Speech Is Still Not Allowed to Do

Dreaming About an Ex? An Expert Explores 10 Reasons Why

Eeeee! Judy Blume’s ‘Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret’ To Become A Movie

The smartphone app that can tell you’re depressed before you know it yourself

“If multiple women run, no one Democrat could monopolize the vision of breaking a glass ceiling, as Hillary Clinton did in 2016. And any Democratic woman might face anxiety, expressed quietly by some concerned party members, about the ferocity with which Mr. Trump has savaged his female critics.

But some Democrats say electing a woman is even more important now than in 2016. And many Democratic leaders believe the political mood in the party could quickly catapult one or more women to front-runner status.”

— In 2020, Democrats Expect a Female Front-Runner. Or Three

Eight Stories of Men’s Regret

Gorillas that are great with kids are also luckier in love

Aw, thank you for the memories, Mr. Spinney! Original Big Bird, Caroll Spinney, Leaves ‘Sesame Street’ After Nearly 50 Years

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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From the forums:

My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. We met junior year of college, and we both graduated in 2016. Our marriage is happy and full of love and laughter. A mutual best friend of ours, Jacob, has been my closest guy friend for years. He and my husband were freshman roommates, and the three of us lived together our senior year (with one other guy friend of ours). We always have fun together, make each other laugh, and know a lot about one another.

I’ve had romantic feelings for Jacob for a while now, but I have never acted on them or told anyone, fearful of jeopardizing my relationship with my husband. I always just push them deep down and ignore them. I’m not sure if Jacob has the same feelings towards me, but we flirt with each other often. That’s just kind of how our friendship has always been, and our relationship dynamic has never bothered my husband.

I love my husband so dearly and don’t want to hurt him. I’ve always been honest with him, but if I tell him or Jacob about how I feel, I know our friendship will never be the same. I just want these romantic feelings to go away. Help! — Three’s a Crowd

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After my grandmother passed away last month, my cousin uploaded a video to YouTube of an interview she did with our grandma about ten years ago as part of a video editing class. I loved watching the video for several reasons: hearing my grandmother’s voice again; seeing and remembering how she was a decade ago before the ravages of multiple strokes, a heart attack, and the heartbreak of losing her husband took their toll; and learning how she and my grandfather met — a story I guess I never thought to ask for for some reason, and either never knew or maybe once heard but forgot.
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