Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Happy Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate the occasion. I wish you good health, tasty food, enough to feel thankful for and the hope that if you are hurting this year, the pain is temporary and better days arrive soon. As always, I remain thankful for this community – one that has been around almost ten years (in January)! — especially now, this year, when our virtual spaces and virtual communities have kept us connected to others when being connected in person hasn’t been as safe. Thank you all so much, and Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

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Here’s what we’re discussing this week in the forums:

Christmas Decisions

Overbearing friend

Am I a selfish new dad?

P0rn is ruining my relationship

Good friends that said we liked each other

Should this hurt?

Did he cheat??

Good friends that said we liked each other

Break-up dilemma

“My Boyfriend Wants to Stay With Me and Commute to His High Risk Job”

International Move? Mixed Signals?

To Yelp or not to Yelp – soooooo pissed off

Am I Wrong for Feeling Like This?

Anyone going on awesome dates?

Coronavirus/ Covid-19/ At-Home Support Thread

Follow along on Facebook and Instagram.

If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].

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I know I usually post links and the open thread on Fridays or over the weekend, but what is time anymore, amiright? It’s been over one year since I’ve seen my sister, over nine months since I’ve seen my parents, and ten months since I’ve seen most of my closest friends. It’s also been over eight months since my children have been in school and will likely be over nine more months before they’re back. So, fuck time right now. Here are a few links you might find interesting:

In a word: yes! “Should women be entitled to period leave? These countries think so.”

What Happened to Those Couples Who Quarantined Together?

How to Have an Open Relationship

Most gift guides are kind of lame, but I thought this one was pretty good: 57 Presents That Actually Won’t Get Re-Gifted

What a national treasure she is! Dolly Parton is also surprised she helped fund Moderna’s COVID-19 vaccine

Don’t Travel For Thanksgiving, CDC Warns (and if you’re going to do it anyway, consider maybe not posting pics on social media)

Related: How to Tell Your Family You’re Not Coming Home for the Holidays

I needed to hear this: You have permission to not be thankful this Thanksgiving

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How Are You Feeling?

How is everyone feeling this week? How is your mental health, your physical health, and your stress level lately? What are your plans for Thanksgiving next week? We’re staying home, just the four of us, and I’m in the process of figuring out what I want to cook and what I’d prefer outsourcing to small businesses in the neighborhood who could definitely use some extra love over the coming weeks and months. (This herb and apple pudding sounds good! And Joanie has her heart set on baking a pumpkin pie.) Otherwise, I’m feeling pretty fine. I need to exercise more and snack less and do better at keeping my blood pressure under control. I’m on medication for it but it’s been alarmingly high when I check it, so I need to avoid online drama (like the “keep schools open debate” which, if you follow me on Instagram, you know has taken up a lot of mental space for me as I’ve been aggressively advocating to close the damn schools and save countless lives [I’m not interested in debating this here, so if you feel differently, I respect that but ask that you take your thoughts elsewhere, please.]).
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Here’s what we’re discussing this week in the forums:

Friend advice?

He cheated and humiliated me

“My Boyfriend Wants to Stay With Me and Commute to His High Risk Job”

Feeling miserable at work

My long-distance partner won’t move forward with our relationship…

Anyone going on awesome dates?

Coronavirus/ Covid-19/ At-Home Support Thread

Follow along on Facebook and Instagram.

If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].

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