Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Happy Memorial Day weekend to those of you in the U.S.! Do you have any plans for the holiday weekend? Unfortunately, as I mentioned earlier, we have lots of rain in the forecast, but maybe we’ll get lucky and Monday will be dry, if not sunny. If so, I’m sure Jackson will be itching to get outside on his bike, which he just learned to ride without training wheels last weekend. We also plan to meet up with friends for picnics and dinners and such and so on. I’m so excited for summer I can hardly stand it. This year, we have it all figured out for making the most of summer in NYC: We bought a home with central air and a deck, and we’re skipping town for two weeks in August. If that’s not a recipe for a great summer in New York, then I don’t know what.

If you’re in a shopping mood, there are tons of sales this weekend. I’m going to check out these online sales:

Nordstrom: Save up to 40% at their half-yearly sale
Nordstrom Rack: Save an extra 25% off clearance
Anthropologie: Save an extra 40% off clearance
Bloomingdale’s: Save up to 50% off select regular priced and on almost all already-reduced items
Macy’s: Extra 20% off + free shipping with code MEMDAY
Ulta: Save 20% on any one qualifying item with code 650805

Have a great one!


Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

‘Orbiting’ Is The New Dating Trend That’s Even More Frustrating Than Ghosting

Time’s up for Harvey Weinstein: Harvey Weinstein is charged with rape and sex abuse in cases involving 2 women

7 Activities To Do Alone To Stay Independent In Your Relationship

“It feels like a blessing, not an insult, to be told that I’m not the No. 1 person in their life. I would never want to date someone who would want to put me before their children, and establishing this boundary helps keep myself in check and not allow my relationship to define me. When there is a mutual understanding that we are not each other’s first priority, I can focus my energy on my friends, career, family, hobbies, and, most importantly, myself — all things that usually fall by the wayside when I start dating someone new.

And it’s easy with DDs to know where you stand. They’re protective of their free time because they have so little of it. They know how to budget their time and don’t flake (mostly because they’ve already had to hire and pay a babysitter in order to show up to the date). They’re there because they’ve jumped through some hoops and want to be there, which is flattering. If you’ve made it past a first date and are on to the next, you can trust that they actually like you; otherwise, they wouldn’t have made the necessary arrangements in order to show up.”

— The case for dating recently divorced dads

These Are the 5 Qualities Every Good Leader Shares (some overlap in the qualities that are most important to many in a significant other…)

Parents Sue 30-Year-Old Adult Son Who Refuses to Move Out: He won’t do chores, he won’t move his car, and now—after his parents gave him five written notices—he’s being evicted

Good news for those of you who like to spend the weekend catching up on the winks you lost during the week: Weekend lie-ins could help you avoid an early death, study says

Why More and More Married Couples Are Opening Up Their Relationships

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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It’s the Friday before Memorial Day, which means it’s time to get loosey-goosey. Here’s a fun little video from my Instagram Stories (made a couple weeks ago during a big storm in Brooklyn). Currently, we have lots of rain in the forecast for Brooklyn this weekend, but since I’m a little witchy when it comes to weather (as you can see in the video), I’m going to do a sun dance outside and bring on some rays for our summer kick-off holiday weekend.


I’ve met this wonderful woman online. We have talked for several months now, feeling the waters. I had been wanting to make it official, until she dropped the fact she is bisexual. I was quite upset with her because she told me right in the middle of making things work. It felt like a bomb, with a lot of information to process and with numerous emotions, too. I have been honest with her since the beginning — that I date straight women, and I felt lied to when her online profile stated she was straight. I’m struggling with accepting her bisexuality.

She wants to be monogamous, which is fantastic. She says she won’t cheat on me either. The thing is, there is a logic I follow. My brain processes and accepts heterosexual relationships only. The difference is, in my head I understand that homosexuality is a thing, that it happens. I’ve come to accept people engage in it. I just don’t agree with it or see the need to agree with it, and if I accept her bisexuality, I feel it’s like saying I agree with it, which I don’t.

I like this woman a lot, but I feel hurt that she lied to me and blindsided me. But now we’ve invested time, effort, emotions, and feelings in each other, and I don’t know what to do. — Blindsided

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This week in the forums we’re discussing:

“Did I Make a Mistake Giving Him the Key Back?”

Husband would rather watch porn than to have sex with me! What to do?

My mother skipped my daughter’s law school graduation

Does he still have feelings for his ex-wife?

Newlyweds in trouble, an emotional start to our marriage

Break-up after no communication for 10 days

Need Help with Sister-In-Law Issues

Vacation or Dream Job? I’m confused, Help!!

Anyone going on awesome dates?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].