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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

We’ve Reached Peak Wellness. Most of It Is Nonsense. Here’s what actually works.

Meet the Influencers (the agony of overexposure to the things we love)

A reader shared this link of an excerpt from a forthcoming book about growing up with an abusive, alcoholic, suicidal anti-nuclear activist who timed her showers and made her eat mold. (And you thought your family relationships were complicated).

“The Middle-Aged Woman on the Train: Commuter Rachel Watson catches daily glimpses of a seemingly perfect couple from her train window. After the conductor ignores her complaints about being subjected to a daily millennial lovefest, she makes a sign that says “it won’t last, assholes,” and holds it up every time she passes the lovebirds. The couple breaks up.” — Girl, You’re a Middle-Aged Woman Now

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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This week in the forums we’re discussing:

Am I Too Much?

Parents divorcing and I’m not sure how to move on

Boyfriend has a child I just found out about

Stay friends or let go?

Relationship Depression

Where the Crawdad sings

My boyfriend thinks I’m gaining too much weight

“I Miss Living Close to My Kids”

Should I text/message her again or count my loss?

“My Boyfriend of Seven Years Left Me”

“My husband and I see eye to eye on everything… except this”

Should I Quit my Stable Job to Pursue my Dream Job?

Friendship crisis

How to kick my boyfriend out of my parents house?

How to think positively

Am I right in putting my foot down? Please advise

Anyone going on awesome dates?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].

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updatesIt’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Not Staying in a Hotel” whose boyfriend’s friends made her uncomfortable during there twice-a-month weekend visits. She wrote: “I recently learned that one of these friends had said he didn’t want to come in this weekend unless our dog and I got a hotel room—and my boyfriend had responded with, ‘I wish I could.’ This really hurt my feelings. How can I talk to him about this?” Her update below.

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I’ve been married for five years. We were together for 13 years before that. We share two children under five years of age, and we have been separated for one year.

Our marriage was awful. He started a new business and had absolutely no time for me or the kids. He also resented that one of my younger siblings lived with us and said that was one of the reasons he didn’t want to spend time at home. He was neglectful and unsupportive, and he became so distant. I threatened to leave daily and sometimes he’d laugh. Eventually I found out that he had an online dating profile. He swore he never met anyone and said he was just talking to the girls for attention as we became strangers to each other.

I moved back home with my family and that’s where I’ve been for a year. However, everyone — my family and his — has pushed for me to try again for the kids’ sake. They said I’ll regret it if I don’t give it one more chance since he’s apparently changed and sorry and wants to be better. His business is more on track and he has more time.

My heart says it’s not worth it. I was so unhappy and honestly can’t remember anything good from those years. But my mind says try again because of the kids and because our relationship prior to marriage was good.

So confused. Please help. — Give It a Second Chance?

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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

Women candidates are constantly asked about their electability. Here’s 5 reasons that’s misguided

Women Won’t Achieve True Power Until We Start Talking Frankly About Money

I Crashed Weddings to Steal the Gifts

Jeffrey Epstein Raped Me When I Was 15 Now I’m suing his estate and accomplices.

‘Dogfishing’ is the dishonest new dating app trend no one can resist.

Women aren’t better multitaskers than men – they’re just doing more work

Insecurity Drove Me Into a Relationship

If you’re looking for a summer read to enjoy in these waning weeks on the season, the author of a beautiful viral essay, The Crane Wife, which I linked to a few Fridays ago, has a new novel out that’s getting good reviews (I haven’t read it yet, but it’s on my list!).

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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