This time she sent me the nastiest text blaming me for every bit of why our son smokes weed and that she wouldn’t let him see me on the following Sunday when had plans for the day. She would not reply to my message asking for details, asking what we’re going to do about it, and how we need to find out how our son is and show concern since he’s someone you would never expect to use drugs.
I had dinner with my son on a few days later to talk things through. Two days later, I realized that the reason I took him to a counselor the summer before might be connected to why he’s smoking weed now: he was never home, never wanted to come home for dinner, stayed over at friends’ homes a lot, and hung out at a small strip mall where he ate at this chicken joint regularly instead of going home when he and his mom fought. Not a good scene.
Anyway, so I asked him if he was smoking weed because he was mad at his mom for letting her boyfriend move in and no longer comfortable in his own house, and his answer was yes and yes.
I told him I’d take him back to the counselor again to talk things through and he agreed and asked me not to tell his mom what he told me. In confidence, I did tell his mom what he told me and I told her that I was taking him to the counselor and that she should go afterwards in hopes that things may get addressed.
Unbelievably, she told him what he said to me and got mad at him. In turn, he got mad at me. But because he and I have a tight bond we took an hour apart, calmed down, and were back good again.
So any suggestions what should or should not be done going forward?? It’s going to be another two weeks before we can get into to see the counselor so I wondered if maybe you had some productive suggestions in the meantime.
Thoughts? — Concerned for Son