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I moved in to my partner’s spacious apartment over a year ago. He is a sentimental collector and keeper of things (all things); he is an artist who enjoys and appreciates most everything and prefers the joy of an item leaving little interest in how a room flows or if its cohesive. He is also extremely passionate about his belongings and decor sense and takes great offense when they are not supported or understood. When the time came for us to move to a new place — one he would buy — I was thrilled because I assumed we would begin to compromise about decor. As the house hunt began we looked…

“I’m 31 and have never had a guy say “I love you” to me.”

“We recently had a fight about the upcoming holidays and since we fought more than usual last year about the holidays, I’m worried we’re heading for a couple months of frayed nerves and emotional outbursts.”

I am a 27-year-old East Coast woman in a very long distance relationship with a 34-year-old German man. We email back and forth at least twice a day, and talk for a long time on the phone or FaceTime at least five times as week. Prior to him, I had casually dated a handful of guys, and at one point had my heart broken by a close friend who ultimately decided he didn’t want me the way I wanted him. But other than that, I’ve pretty much always been genuinely happy flying solo. My boyfriend and I met within the last few months of him living in the US, and dated very…

“I’m super self-conscious around his friends because my job sounds pretty pathetic. Do you have any tricks for ways to boost my confidence a little?”

“Recently, a friend rather unexpectedly told me that he liked me. More than that, he proposed.”

I was casually dating a wealthy guy who loves to party. I saw him every other weekend or so, and our visits were usually booze-filled ones in Vegas. He really “got” me…

This Saturday is my oldest friend’s wedding. We have been best friends on and off for the past decade and seem to go through the same cycle over and over again: we will be the best of friends and then she’ll stand me up when we have plans and call me crazy when I express my disappointment. Usually, a month later, I’ll get an apology and she’ll tell me that she just didn’t feel like doing what we had planned. I then forgive her (as long as she promises to actually change this time) and begin to trust her again. Most recently when this happened, I told her I didn’t know if…