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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: A week ago, I ended an eight-month relationship with “Matt.” We have a great connection and care deeply about one another, but I felt that Matt had very little time and effort to put into the relationship. Finally, last weekend, I took a leap of faith and didn’t make plans for us, in hopes that he would make an effort to see me. He texted me throughout the weekend to say hi, but never made a concrete plan. Sunday afternoon rolls around and I realize that…

I have been in a relationship for seven years with the same person (cohabiting for six), and I thought we were very open with each other. We have each other’s passwords and all of that jazz. I just found out (accidentally) that he has been prescribed Paxil. I wasn’t snooping to find out this information; he has his prescription information on my CVS online account, and he wondered if another prescription he needed was ready, so I checked. (I’ve ordered his prescriptions in the past, with his permission, while he was busy at work). I mentioned that his two prescriptions were ready, and he became really weird and quiet about it. I…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I had an affair with a married woman, “Kelly,” whom I dated back in high school. She left her husband — who now has a new girlfriend — and we have been dating seriously for over two years. Kids are involved on all sides but everyone pretty much knows everything minus details. I am writing because sometimes, but not often, when there is a function for the kids and Kelly knows their dad will be there she asks me to stay away. She is cordial with…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: For the past year I have been in a great relationship, I never thought I would find someone whom I would mesh with so well. However, there is a big elephant in the room that I don’t know how to deal with. About two months ago, I told my boyfriend I loved him (I don’t have the best mental filter and I kind of blurted it out in the middle of an unrelated conversation). He didn’t respond at all — just returned to what we’d be…

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I have been heavily debating getting a divorce from my wife of 13 years for some time now. There are several reasons for this, but I feel like an ass for wanting to get a divorce. Divorce is not unheard of in either of our families, but I feel like a failure for wanting to end it. I want to know if my reasons are good enough for a MOA, or I’m being selfish. Here they are: 1. Health Problems: My wife, “Cheryl,” has more health problems then my 92-year-old grandmother did before she died. Cheryl has some real legitimate problems like a minor case of Cerebral Palsy (bad enough not to…

I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for 6.5 years now. We’ve hit a couple road blocks, but we’ve gotten through everything and have a very strong relationship. Neither of us is keen on marriage in general, especially since we’re still pretty young, but we’ve been making other big steps lately, like moving in together, and we’ve talked about having a long-term future together. His parents are exceptionally well-off and are buying him a condo that we’re both going to live in. We’ve gone over this many times and we’re going to set up a system where I pay him equity into the condo, making me a part owner. Our condo search…