Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Weekend Open Thread

I hope everyone who celebrates had a merry Christmas. And if it the day was difficult for you, I hope you are finding relief that it’s over and comfort that 2020 will be history soon, too. After three months of managing my kids’ remote learning full-time, I am really looking forward to a week of chilling out and not doing much. We have new puzzles and new games, lots of leftovers in the freezer I can pull out for quick and delicious meals, and some sunny days in the forecast to make long walks in the park especially enjoyable. There is a lot I am missing this season/ this year, but still so much to be grateful for, including all of you who continue making this a community I am proud to be part of and contribute to. Thank you for your loyalty and your participation – for all your comments, forum topic threads, emails, donations, and sharing the site with others. I haven’t been able to devote the time here than I normally would pre-pandemic/ full-time remote schooling, so I am especially thankful that you’ve continued to make DW a regular destination in your web surfing, whether it’s daily, weekly, or just occasionally, and whether you are a prolific contributor or a quiet lurker (though we’d be happy to hear from you any time!). Thank you so much.

Here are a few links from around the web that may interest you:

I’m reading this crazy story, which is blowing up social media this week, about a journalist who blew up her “perfect Brooklyn life” for a source she fell in love with: The Journalist and the Pharma Bro

Related: 7 People on Blowing Up Their Lives for Love

Also related (and maybe relatable?): All the Time I Wasted Trying to Please Indifferent Men

In the Pandemic: Feminism Has Failed Women

The Relationship Advice Real Women Swear By

This is fun: 2020 Was Wild. These Pop Culture Obsessions Got Us Through

After the pandemic: Let’s Start Over

Happy Holidays From the Texts of Exes Past

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Here’s what we’re discussing this week in the forums:

Work colleague suddenly nice-not sure how to react

I’m losing my mind, and feel stupid

I feel like my parents favor my sibling

Neighbors that are hypocrites

Anyone going on awesome dates?

Coronavirus/ Covid-19/ At-Home Support Thread

Follow along on Facebook and Instagram.

If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].

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Marc Rosenthal for the NYTimes.

Yesterday, I posted in my Instagram stories that I’d read only seven books to completion in 2020 and they were all read before April. Since then, I’ve only read parts of books – half a book here, a few chapters there. Even books I know are good, I find too hard to get through — I can’t focus, I don’t really enjoy the reading. I used to love reading books! A few people sent DMs saying they, too, weren’t able to read books since the pandemic began, including a friend of mine who is a NYTimes bestselling novelist currently editing her newest novel. I feel better knowing it’s not just me, but it’s still a bummer.

Earlier in the day, I read this essay about the challenge one extrovert was feeling in socializing now, saying his skills were rusty. While I was turned off that a couple examples he used were recent dinner parties – um, why are people hosting/ going to dinner parties right now? – I understood the premise of his dilemma and even related to it a little bit. The comment section was full of people saying that they, too, felt rusty in their social skills after many months of near-isolation. This got me thinking: What else are people feeling challenged by that once brought them joy? Besides reading books, here are a few other things I’m struggling to feel motivated to do, let alone enjoy: [continue reading…]

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Weekend Open Thread

Here we are on the second to last Friday of 2020, so that’s something, right? I hope you all are hanging in there, and that those of you who have been sick with Covid are feeling better and that your families and loved ones are safe. I’m pretty hunkered down here in Brooklyn these days. I go out for walks/jogs in the park most days, and go grocery shopping once a week, but other than that, I’m mostly home. We did take the kids ice skating last weekend and it was too crowded and I felt panic-y the whole time so I guess we don’t do that again any time soon. It’s hard to find the balance between getting the kids out for fresh air and exercise and maybe a teeny bit of socialization and protecting everyone’s safety. I foresee many movies and hot chocolate over the next few weeks (mine will be spiked with bourbon). Anyhoo, here are some links you might find interesting:

I thought, especially after this week’s discussion in the forums, that a lot of you might relate to this one: The pandemic has destroyed friendships and divided families

A year like no other: 2020 in pictures

There’s something for everyone on this crazy list of last-minute Christmas gifts. (I like the hydration bangle, myself).

I feel like this might be one of the more depressing headlines of the year in a year full of depressing headlines: “22 holiday Zoom backgrounds for your virtual office party and seasonal gatherings”

Related: Your Office Doesn’t Need a Virtual Holiday Party

The 20 Phrases That Defined 2020

The Best Things About the Worst Year Ever

ER doctor Cleavon Gilman, a veteran of the Iraq War, says it’s still hard to communicate the brutality of a disease that kills people in the privacy of a hospital wing, not on the streets.

“That 300,000 Americans would be dead and life would go on and people would not have empathy for their fellow Americans,” he says. “I can tell you this is worse than being in war.”

Throughout the pandemic, Gilman has shared photos and stories of people who’ve died from COVID-19 each day on social media. He wishes someone in every city or town of America would do the same.

“All the people that you’re not going to see a big article about and you’re not going to hear about them anywhere else,” he says. “It’s really important to honor them.”

— How Do We Grieve 300,000 Lives Lost?

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Here’s what we’re discussing this week in the forums:

I’m losing my mind, and feel stupid

Am I catching feels again for my best friend who is also my ex?

Dating a Guy in the Army

I feel like my parents favor my sibling

Neighbors that are hypocrites

Ex’s Belongings

Coronavirus/ Covid-19/ At-Home Support Thread

Follow along on Facebook and Instagram.

If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].

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