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I don’t know if we’ll keep hanging out as friends. I haven’t talked to him since after the date when he wished me good night. I think he realized, same as me, that we would be good on paper but not for real. I think I’m a catch, but when people see the little things they run. Men always seem reeeaaallly interested at first, like so eager, but then they get to know me a little deeper and they aren’t so eager anymore. I’m not saying it’s my fault, but it’s just that the little details don’t match.
For instance, my date on saturday told me he goes to the gym a couple times a week. He is skinny, doesn’t look too fit though (meaning muscles). Started complaining about people who take the gym too seriously and drink protein shakes. I told him I take the gym seriously. I go to the gym 5-6x a week. I meal prep and take care of 80% of my meals. I eat clean and really look after eveything I eat- Of course I can eat cake, cookies, ice cream, but most part of my time I am eating well. I see a nutritionist, I have a trainer. etc. He seemed like he couldn’t believe it! I could tell he was thinking he wouldn’t handle something like that! Lol, it was funny because I wasn’t even trying but if it had been a real first important date to me I would have been dissapointed because this guy would not be supportive of my lifestyle.
So, at the end it was a good thing to go out and see what’s out there. And made me realize that I don’t have to present myself as someone I’m not. I’m the way I am, I like to work out and eat well, and if someone doesn’t like that too bad. Now I am 32 and don’t have the need to impress anyone.
So, date was yesterday and we talked for three hours, no kiss or anything just a hug.
At first, I could feel he was interested, asking a lot of questions. I was honest, told him this was the first time I went out since my break up six months ago. We have a lot of things in common, but I just didn’t feel it. I don’t know if he did. This guy could have been perfect for me when I first met him, but I don’t think he is good for me right now. He is a great guy though.
Afterwards asked me if I got home ok and said he had a nice time and wished me good night. No talk of going out again.Like Copa said, I want to feel out the possibility? I don’t want to miss this chance, he was always like the perfect guy on paper. Is that bad?
I liked him before, he is very funny and good looking. But he had a girlfriend then, one time I ran into him and he even introduced her to me.
I do think he’s interested, he texted me right away and asked if I was free on Saturday to grab coffee and catch up.
Let me explain how I feel, I’m not ready to date random people, but this is a guy that I knew before, so it’s kind of like I want to see what’s there, like it’s worth a shot? I haven’t freaked out yet which is a good sign. I’m not nervous about the date which is another good sign.I have a ¿date? Saturday.
The guy from Tinder that I already knew.
We were together in the same program in Grad School, maybe 4-5 years ago? Then I changed programs and we kind of lost touch, just randomly liking each other posts on Facebook.
We started talking on Tinder but then he texted me (turns out he still had my number).
He asked me out for coffee on Saturday, I don’t know if it is a “romantic” date or not. I am not anxious because I know him from before, I know what he looks like in person. Also, he always made it seem like he vas very interested in me and I remember that we used to laugh a lot in class. We even teamed up for some group projects.
So… We’ll see.And what kind of date is he planning? Maybe some activities will give you something to talk about.
I’m like ktfran. I need to warm up first. I can be really shy at first and then be the life of the party.I don’t know if I’m ready to date yet. But I do want to meet other people. I haven’t met anyone new in a long time (not talking only about potential love interests, talking in general). This thread made me curious.
I actually found an old crush of mine. I met this guy in Grad School a few years ago. I always found him so charming, and he had a girfriend of like a million years. One of those cool girlfriends. But I always sensed that he liked me. I found him on Tinder today and I swiped right and he did too.
That is true, having it on your phone really adds to the anxiety. You can donwnload it or delete it as you want. I donwloaded Tinder yesterday again lol. I’ve been swiping all day.
@thehizzy yeah or when they tell you that you’ll have another boyfriend in no time because you’re beautiful
Hearing about all the experiences people have while online dating has a plus side. I think I am picky so when I decide to start dating again, I feel like I will be able to find out faster when guys are playing games. I’ve heard enough stories. I really don’t want to be playing games with people at 32. I can’t stand thinking about being ghosted or led on. I know what I want now so I guess that’s the plus side.
Reading this, I feel doomed. I haven’t gone back to dating but I dread it hearing about all these experiences-
