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@Veritek if you feel like that then it’s actually healthy to just delete the apps. I’ve wanted to delete Facebook too. But you’re strong, you are very strong. It actually takes strength to leave situations that may trigger you.

One thing that always helps for me and used to help me during my first awful breakup (and it’s going to sound awfully selfish but it helps), was to think that many many people have it way worse. This friend I was talking to told me about a friend of his whose fiance told her that he didn’t want to get married in the middle of the cake tasting, in front of everybody. They were actually getting married in June and she is the one who has had to face everyone since this guy just dropped off the face of the Earth. She is having a way worse time than I am. I felt really really sorry for her, her situation is awful, and then I thought wow, my situation is nowhere near that and here I am making it like it’s the end of the world.

And yeah, Veritek, I think it’s healthy to delete apps like Facebook but do think that social media only shows the best parts of relationships. During the first breakup I posted something on Facebook about feeling sad for that and a friend of mine who was married at the time and posted A LOT about babies and husband and seemed really happy and like a perfect family, told me that she wished she had never married. So, obviously people are going to show the good stuff about their lives. But what if they actually have it worst? I prefered at the moment to be going through a breakup than to be trapped in a marriage wanting to get out. I don’t know if this helps, I’m just rambling, but I’m actually trying to send you lots of good vibes.I hope you feel better soon.

@Copa, how’s eveything with the guy from Ok Cupid?

@lucia_la always has the best trips.
I am hangin in there. Ex boyfriend has not respected my space, we text every now and then but don’t see each other. Which is weird, but I try to keep myself busy and distracted. I like my new gym, parking sucks but it’s ok, it’s actually better than the other one. I’m feeling good actually, although weekends have been awful. So I’m dreading this coming weekend but I gotta toughen up.

@Copa, OMG. I’m also sad to see what’s out there really. I downloaded Tinder a couple days ago just to see what’s there and got a couple matches. But then I got a little discouraged (I mean, there’s people there that even have pics with their SO’s, because like, why bother?). So I uninstalled it.

@kmentthat so glad to hear all about this. It sounds super romantic and also, relaxing.

As for me, they say time heals everything, but I am feeling worse with each day that passes. I’ve been crying all day at work (no one has seen me, I do it in hiding). And I just feel like crap and I also keep blaming myself. I need to find the anger again actually, I feel so guilty.
I already found a new gym however I am dreading going there. I am really anxious and I hate new things (like new jobs, new gyms, new whatevers). I want to work out and feel like I should, but I just hate the fact that I abandoned the one I knew and it’s all changes.

@anonymousse I wasn’t offended.

Anyways, well people at the gym told me my exbf was seeing this girl a few times a week to train and that they were seen on saturday at a movie theater and people were pretty sure they were affectionate. I couldn’t believe it and I obviously overreacted and sent him a text saying that I needed to talk to him and posted it here. He shows up at my house half an hour later, I ask him about it and denies it, he says they have never been out together but that they trained a couple of times, however, not as a planned thing but more like they were there at the same time and decided to train together. I am insecure like that. I had already noticed she liked him so I told him when we were together. He said he didn’t care. But eventually they became friends. He totally denied the movie thing and that he was seeing her which made me feel like a fool, and also, messed up my whole “moving on” plan because we ended up talking for a couple of hours and it felt so normal. I was an idiot for believing this and then believing him instead of just avoiding the whole drama altogether from the first time. I’ve followed every advice that people give me, that I have to avoid him (which I have), change my routine (I also did that) and stop talking to him, also telling people to stop telling me about him. But I couldn’t avoid it yesterday, I allowed it when people started talking and I just fell into the trap. I talked to my therapist today and he said that we all make mistakes in a process like this. To move on from the whole drama and just try to be calm. I am waaaaay too anxious now.