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@Copa – Wait wait wait, you get to throw axes? Man I wish Mid Missouri had stuff like that lol.

Also, I hope you get a good pupper soon. I spent $200 at the vet last week (I know that’s so little compared to what others have shelled out, I’ve been lucky to have such healthy animals), got my senior dog on a daily prescription and also learned that dog diapers are about as expensive as children’s diapers! Fun fact. He’s worth it though.

I’m sorry Copa. That happens quite frequently with some rescues and shelters. Just keep trying, you’ll find the perfect dog for you. And I’m sorry you’re so frustrated. Hugs.

@Copa I haven’t had quite that reaction but I did go on about 4 dates with a guy last year that just couldn’t fathom how I could own my own home and not live with roommates and not be super poor all the time(at the time I lived alone, I have a roommate now since I got laid off and freaked out and found a friend to move in and she’s more of a benefit rather than a necessity at this point). He was a retail store manager (and some of those around this area make more than me working a “normal” 8-5 job). Any time he said anything about it I just said that I’d worked really hard and got a house I could afford but it wasn’t spectacular by any means. Ultimately he said I was too “aggressive and intimidating”. And maybe I was, but he was kind of underwhelming. So there’s that.

@Copa – I hope you get a new pup! Clearly I have too many, so other people need to adopt them so I dont 😉

@Copa and @Ale – I have those same thoughts sometimes. I was the photographer for a wedding this weekend and I kept having those creeping thoughts of “Will I ever get to do this? Will I have a man look at me the way this groom looks at his bride?” It’s a tough feeling. My therapist told me that basically I just have to be positive or I’ll be a self fulfilling prophecy. Like, I HAVE TO BELEIVE (she’s very perky and upbeat). But I’ve also had people tell me I HAVE TO BE OKAY will being single forever

Some days are great being single! I decorate my house how i want, spend my money how I want, I still get to meet interesting people and go on dates. Last night I had three girlfriends over for wine and time in the pool and it was great! On a Monday! If I was married with kids that might not be a thing I was able to do. So I do try to embrace the fun parts of being single. But hey, no shame here, it get’s lonely as hell. It’s hard not to be lonely when I see things like you mentioned Ale. My bff had her daughters birthday party and just seeing her little family and how they interact stings a little – but I’m still incredibly happy for her. It’s a weird feeling.

@Cleo – sorry to hear this, I hope your date goes well.

Have fun on your dates Copa!

You guys remember a month or two back I told you about the guy I went out on two dates with last summer, he resurfaced, apologized and we went out again? Yeah well he did the same thing again. Haven’t heard from him since Saturday of Memorial Day weekend. Haven’t reached out to him because I wanted to see how long it would take for him to reach back out. So I’ll probably here from him in another six months lol. I don’t know that it was a love connection but he might have made a good friend, guess we’ll never know now!

I deleted Bumble – no good had come from it since January. That was my only active profile for a long time so I’ve toyed with the idea of reactivating Match. Just still so discouraged by all the time wasters out there. My town is FINALLY starting to get more meetup groups so I might try one of those. I know a long time ago someone told me I should start a group but I just don’t have time to organize something like that. I think hopefully I can find a good one around here to try. Happy Monday everyone.

Okay so single life looks better and better! Late last night i matched with a guy on Bumble, didn’t send a message because i was getting ready for bed. Waited till i had some time at lunch today and sent him a message and he came back asking “why 90% of the women on the site wait 24 hours to message guys and why do they do that”. I explained that i like to write a message when I know I’ll have time to chat rather than starting a convo and then going to bed or going to work, etc. He said he “didn’t want to be someone’s afterthought” and blocked me. He’s 40 years old. And clearly very butthurt. But here’s my question – Was it rude of me to match and then not immediately send a message? Because if so, I counter that almost every guy I match with on Tinder is equally as rude.