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I’m so behind!
@ktfran your honeymoon ideas sound so fun!MissDre I’m insanely jealous of your Italian wedding date! Please have so much fun and drink a glass of wine or eat something deliciously Italian for me!
@Copa congrats on the new job and moving on from that environment! I was also working in a toxic environment for five months after my brief funemployment (I even consulted an attorney at one point over some things that happened) and 3 weeks into my new job I’m so much happier!
As for dating, it’s like old home week around here. After new guy moved away we still talk and he tells me about his adventures in his new town, but there’s pretty much no chance he’ll get a job near me any time soon so we’re moving on. In the last two weeks I’ve had dudes from the past pop up out of nowhere.
Ex boyfriend of 10 months from 2014 sends me a text congratulating me on my new job. I thought we weren’t friends on any social media but apparently we are still connected on Linked in. So we had a nice chat and it was kind of him to send a message, but we don’t really hang anymore and I haven’t seen him in forever.Veterinarian I went on three dates with last summer before he disappeared starts texting me out of nowhere apologizing for ghosting me and disappearing, saying how busy he is, asking what I’ve been up to, blah blah blah. He’s bored. I’ll chat with him but he’s off the dating table if he’s so busy he can go from July to March without contacting me.
One night stand guy (turned into 2 nights actually) from last January matched with me on bumble (I swiped right just to see if he had swiped too). I asked what he wanted and I got this whole long story about being out of the country for a year (he’s military). Long story short he asked me out again, and I haven’t responded. He’s good for fun but has zero relationship potential.
Lastly, the guy I just started talking to that grew up with my friend from college asked me out for Saturday night and I found an old message from him on Facebook from 2010. I guess he tried to contact me because he was trying to make new friends in the area when he moved up here back then because our mutual friend suggested me and I never saw the message until I was going through and archiving old messages. I sent him a screenshot of the Facebook message and he said I should have replied 7 years ago and we could have met up sooner! So I’m looking forward to having drinks with him Saturday night!
@kare lol. Luckily that boyfriend thought my method was hilarious too, because the other ex told me I was crazy (which might be true but don’t tell me that lol). And I might be thinking exactly that, but I’d totally word it differently to spare their feelings 😉
@MissDre I say as long as things feel good and your eyes are open to the realities, keep doing what you’re doing 🙂
MissDre, this will probably sound crazy but it’s how I explained it to a past boyfriend. (I’m very slow to say the words even if I feel it). It’s so macabre and dark so please don’t take me too seriously, but I wonder how I would feel if something happened to them. Like, if this person were seriously injured or died tomorrow, would I be devastated? Would I be wrecked and inconsolable? Or would it hurt for a bit and then I’d get over it pretty quickly? I KNOW THAT SOUNDS CRAZY. But I’ve only said I love you twice and actually loved two (mayyyybe 3) guys, so I don’t throw that around very easily.
I do remember with the second boyfriend I felt it when we were having dinner with two of my friends and he was so attentive to them and to me and everything just felt so comfortable and it was just an overwhelming feeling of “I gotta tell this guy I love him because I do.” And so as soon as they left, I told him.
So it kinda sounds like you’re getting there, or at least your feelings are getting there.
@MissDre – happy for you. Sounds like you’re pretty happy.
I started my new job last Monday and it’s going well!The people are really nice and the work is fun so far.
As for dating – not much to report. New guy moved two weeks ago yesterday and we still talk but it’s just friendly stuff. He had a phone interview in my state but is convinced he bombed it. Started talking to a new guy on bumble who seemed familiar (at least his name seemed familiar to me) and it turns out, a friend of mine from college grew up with him and had a crush on him but hasn’t seen him in years. He asked me out for next week so I’ll give it a shot since he seems cool.
Happy Monday everyone!
MissDre – my guy moved yesterday as well. I’m glad you have a trip to look forward to.
kmtthat – i hope the meeting the parents went well!
I’m wrapping up my last two days at my job and did my exit interview today which was…interesting. And my dad was sick over the weekend. So I’m looking forward to the rest of this week being a chance to regroup and recharge and prepare for the next adventure!
Good luck on your interview Copa!
There’s a woman that goes to my gym and is always in full make up – and she can outlift half the women in the gym AND some of the men. I bet she’d go hiking too.
@missdre – I’m the same size, so….ditto.
K and Copa – I find it pretty ridiculous because A.) Is he going to pull out a scale and weigh you on the first date? and B.) I’m in the best shape I’ve been in years, eat super healthy and workout 4-5 times a week and there’s no way I’d meet those weight requirements. Muscle is heavy, and weight training makes muscle. Also, weight training means “I’m taking care of myself.”
So much facepalm.
ktfran – I saw a profile on bumble a while back where the dude had height and weight requirements. i.e “I like a woman who takes care of herself, for example 5’1″ = 105, 5’2″ = 110, 5’3″ = 115, 5’4″ = 120. 5’5″ = 125…” and so on.
Clearly the reason I’m single is because I can’t make the weight requirement. (Heavy sarcasm font on that one)
@Copa that does suck. I’m sorry you’re having a crappy time lately. I’ll try to send some good vibes your way.
@saneinca – I can’t speak for MissDre’s guy, but what my guy told me is that he’d been searching for jobs and applying for jobs in my state for months and was confident he was going to find one and then things just didn’t work out. He made the decision to move in with his dad because his grad school stipend ran out, and his lease will as well. He’s still job searching in my state but also in other states. He has said to me that he probably had no business being on Bumble, but that he doesn’t regret meeting me and he’s glad we met. And I agree. If for no other reason than it was nice to be reminded that I could still be excited about someone and know there are good guys out there. And if his end game was a hookup, he certainly worked hard for that considering we lived 2 hours apart and only spent the night with each other twice in the 6 weeks we’ve been communicating with each other.
I spent Friday night and all day Saturday with him. He even got me a valentine’s day gift, which took me by surprise. (Nothing over the top, but it was a baseball cap with my favorite team on it and a t-shirt from his t-shirt company because I’d said that one was really cool, so he found one in my size to give to me.) We went out for dinner Friday night and then watched movies together. Saturday we went for a walk and then went to a local competition that a few of my friends had traveled for and cheered them on, and then we went out for a nice sushi lunch. I had to be back Saturday night for a previous commitment so I had to leave after the late lunch. We talked about staying in touch and he will be in my state again for a competition this spring and again this summer and we want to see each other again. I won’t sit around waiting for him, but like MissDre, I don’t see the harm in keeping him in my life in this capacity. He has taken down his dating profile since his life is up in the air right now but mine is still up. I may take it down while I adjust to a new job and I’m going to compete in the crossfit open this year, so that will keep me distracted. Either way, I’m glad I met him and that he became a part of my life, even if it was for a very brief period of time.
@copa I thought so too! But he’s right, he has to take this opportunity for free housing while he has it and is looking for a career jobs. He’s looking all over the country including my state, so I can just hope he finds a decent job and it would be a benefit if it were in this state!
Just sad at the lost potential. It could have been a good pairing.
I hate to highjack the thread away from foster dogs, because ugh God Copa I don’t know how you do it.
But i’m coming off the high of this new job offer and quitting this job that I don’t like, and I spent most of last weekend with the new guy and was just on such a high. And now….he’s definitely moving. States away. To live with his dad until he can find a job. His field is pretty specialized and he’s running out of money since he graduated with his masters in December, so his dad said move in with him while looking. And he can’t turn that down.
We talked and long distance from multiple states away just seems so hard. Especially when he has no extra money right now and I’m just going to be starting a new job and making more money, but starting over with vacation time. So we are going to spend this weekend together and spend as much time as we can together until he moves. But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a little crushed by this. We mesh so well together and have SO MUCH FUN together. I’m sad. But he has to do what he has to do.
So I’m trying very hard right now to just let it go and whatever is meant to be is meant to be. But I’m a little sad. Timing sucks.
