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@Copa I was very annoyed and disappointed. I do think he is very overwhelmed. He said he’d been searching for jobs for months with nothing and then two calls for interviews in one day. He’s freaking out and I know it’s not because of me so at least it’s not something I said or did.
Long term – I know that he isn’t tied to one location in particular – he just wants a better job. And he’s looked in this state and several surrounding states. And I told him I’m increasingly becoming more disillusioned with my profession/home state and since my parents are doing so much better health wise, I’d be more open to moving some day. Obviously discussions that are EXTREMELY premature but he brought it up since we’d be long distance anyway. I just wanted him to know that even though I own my home it doesn’t mean I want to live here forever.
Just a quick update: things changed rapidly on Friday. New guy went back and forth all day about going out on Saturday for our planned date. He’s so worried about getting attached to me and then moving to another state. So he said we should put everything on hold because everything was moving and changing so quickly.
I was very disappointed, and since he kept changing his mind about Saturday I finally just made other plans and said I can’t just sit around waiting for him to make up his mind (He apologized and said he felt awful). We agreed to check in this week after his interviews. I really like him so I’m disappointed and have a feeling this is pretty much over after two dates, but I guess we’ll see what happens after his interviews. The whole reaction on his part sort of seems like an overreaction.
You’re right @Copa, it just wasn’t news I expected to hear! And he said he was about to quit job searching for a while because he hadn’t had an interview in months and now he has two in one week. Things change quickly I suppose!
@kare it’s so good to hear from you again! It sounds like your FWB is just a really decent guy and a good person to have in your life. And congrats on your new kitty! (Southern Donald Trump sounds awful and I hope you never have to deal with him again)
As for me, another update but this one isn’t as fun. New guy got asked to interview for two jobs yesterday that he’d applied for a while back. One is in a neighboring state and the other is across the country. He told me about it immediately but it sort of puts a cloud over this date we have planned for tomorrow. I don’t want to get attached and have him move away but I also don’t want to cancel the date. So that sucks. I know it’s only two dates in but he seems to have some real potential and it’s just a disappointing wrench in things.
@copa Yes I live sort of in the middle of the state and he lives in the southwest corner so it’s a roughly two hour drive, but on pretty decent four lane highways (as opposed to crappy two lane roads that we have tons of in the rural areas).
The only LDR I did would be a stretch to call it an LDR but it was a 3.5 hour drive and I don’t think we wanted the same things and it only lasted a few months with more effort on my part than his.
My date last night and I discussed what we were looking for, and we both want something more serious and less casual and agree that we both feel really comfortable with one another and feel like we’ve connected really well so far. My job becomes more flexible during the summer and fall and I could easily take a day off in the middle of the week or make a three day weekend happen due to all the time I’ll have banked up. I think for now trying to see each other once a week is pretty reasonable considering there’s a nice town exactly halfway between us with lots of things to do, or going to one or the other’s town on a weekend since we don’t work weekends. I don’t know, I want to explore it and see how it goes. Cautious optimism 🙂
Unrelated to the cocaine discussion, my second date last night went very well. Super fun and relaxing and just really enjoy spending time with him. The hours flew by and it felt like a blink. We did have a discussion about the distance (he lives 2 hours away) and our concerns with that. I’ve done long distance that didn’t work out and he’s never done long distance more than about 45 minutes away, so it could be challenging but we both agreed that 2 hours isn’t that bad and to take it one date at a time and see what happens.
He has some potential so I’m very cautiously excited. Date #3 is Saturday and I’m looking forward to it.
@kmtthat have you tried putting toothpaste on the acne spot? I sometimes do that and it will reduce the swelling and dry it up fast. I’ll just put a drop of it on before bed – definitely helps with redness too..
I skew more to the wholesome side, so the only person I know that’s done cocaine is my ex boyfriend, and he would do any drug you put in front of him, so that didn’t come as a shock. By the time I was dating him it was just pot and pills. So I can’t say I’ve ever tried it or had any desire to try it. Wouldn’t want to date anyone that was using it either.
@Copa – It was a first date! We met on Bumble and our second date is tomorrow night! (And we also made plans for Saturday so assuming the second date goes well, third date on Saturday!) Also, no you’re not weird for not wanting to do cocaine. And that is a totally reasonable deal breaker IMO.
Kmtthat – HURRICANE MACHINE! It’s like a phone booth type thing and you put in a token and go inside and it simulates hurricane winds. The girl giving us the tour said it was great if you’ve been jumping on the trampolines and get really sweaty lol.
I also saw that yesterday was International Pie Day, so I guess there are two Pie/Pi days a year. Never too much pie.
@kmtthat – girl I melted too. It was a very sweet thing to say and I’m glad he wants to see me again before Sat. because the feeling is mutual. And we did get a tour of the trampoline park (I think they were trying really hard to keep our business after disappointing us by being closed!) and it looked epic. Even if this guy didn’t want to go back with me, my butt is going back to that place because it looked like so much fun! They even had a hurricane machine to try out (like a big tube with hurricane wind simulators). I think it’s going to be fun to be a big kid for a day again.
Yay for exclusivity Lucia!
I had a wonderful time Friday on my date. Spent 8 hours together getting coffe and then dinner and then drinks and it flew by! Even got some great kisses at the end. One of the best first dates I’ve had. The trampoline park ended up being closed for private event so they gave us free passes to come back next weekend. So we’ve already planned another date for next weekend and he is also going to come to my town sometime this week because he said he “doesn’t want to wait until Saturday to see me again.” It’s a good feeling to be excited about dating again 🙂
OMG Portia, I didn’t even think of that! Hopefully I’m not too clumsy haha!
Thanks Dre! I’m glad things are going well for you and glad you’re keeping an open mind to meeting new people as well 🙂
Yay nickel I’m glad you had a good date! And Copa I hope your date goes really well!
I have a date tonight that I’m excited about too! It’s a first date with a guy I started talking with last week. We are meeting for a coffee and we agreed if that goes well we should go to the trampoline park lol. So two 30 somethings going to jump on trampolines should be interesting. I’m hopeful the coffee will go well and based on our conversation this week, I think it will. Fingers crossed for a good date. And everyone else going on dates this weekend – good luck!
I wasn’t looking forward to today due to, well, Washington, but at least I have a date to look forward to.
