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@nookie I met this one on Tinder. I use Tinder, Bumble and Match. So far the two free ones seem to find me the most dates unfortunately lol. And this guy was respectful and nice from the word go, made it clear he wasn’t looking for a hookup, etc. It was actually pretty charming how nervous he was about the date. Whereas I had a shit day at work and was ready to cancel the thing all together and that would have probably put him over the edge lol. After a beer he chilled out and we had a nice time and talked for about 2.5 hours. Possible second date this week.

@copa haha! I just didn’t know if there was a different word for it now!

@anonymousse I love hugs and cuddles too! I just typically save that for someone I’m romantic with 🙂

@nookie I know this sounds stupid but I guess I just don’t want to hurt his feelings. Which brings me to my response to @Copa

We met online last fall and were matched on all three sites I had been using. We started talking and then he disappeared and his profiles went down. He popped back up in January or February and sent me a message apologizing for disappearing and said that he had started dating someone in the fall and it hadn’t worked out and that’s why he disappeared for a while. No harm, no foul, I had been dating someone else too.

He explained that he might just be looking for friends at that time. I took him at his word because he seemed really cool and it doesn’t hurt to have more friends and we hit it off right away. The more we hang out the more comfortable it is to be around him – and I find myself maybe having a crush? Can you have a crush on someone in your 30s? That’s the best word I can think of to describe it. And so the touching and hugging and affection just kind of blurs the lines for me if he wants to remain just friends. Like I said, I’d be open to dating him because I like him, but I haven’t sat around waiting for him (hence, the dates I’ve been going on this spring and summer with other guys.)

Thanks for asking kmtthat! I’m glad you had a nice date!

My date was nice. We went to a locally famous pizza place and shared some pizza and then to a local microbrewery for a drink. He’s nice. I’m not sure how I feel about him. I’m not feeling butterflies or too much excitement. I don’t know if it’s general anxiety or I’m just not into him. He offered to come to my town for another date but I may wait a week or so before I take him up on it. It’s been a trying week since last Thursday and I’m just a little overwhelmed.

After the painting night with the firefighter next week I might take some space from him too. I was okay with being friends for a while but now I don’t know if I am. He kissed me on the cheek last week after we met up for dinner and drinks and I was like wtf? I don’t know if that’s a thing he does with all his female friends or if that was him making some sort of move? I don’t know. He’s gotten increasingly more physical over the months we’ve known each other (more hugs, spontaneous hugs or leaning his head on my shoulder during the play we went to, the cheek kiss, etc. But I’m not usually this “touchy” with my male friends) I like him, I’d date him if he wanted to. But I’m not a mind reader and I’ve been told on here before that if I have to ask then I already know the answer. If he wants to date me, I guess he’ll step up. But for now he hasn’t and I just probably need some space.

@kmtthat that book is scarily accurate isn’t it? I hope your date goes well! I’ve gotten to the point that I view things as just meeting new people and hoping for the best. Like, I went on a date with guy in February and it hasn’t turned romantic, but we’ve become pretty good friends! We get together about once a month or more for dinner and drinks and he’s just fun to hang out with. I probably would have been super disappointed about that before, but now it’s like “hey, I have another friend to hang out with, that’s cool.”

On another note, I was supposed to have a date this weekend and that got postponed due to the death in my family and rescheduled for last night. And it was really nice. We originally were just meeting for ice cream. And that turned into drinks and that turned into a late dinner and long story short the date lasted almost five hours. It was a nice experience and he’s already asked me out again for this week and I said yes and we are going to figure out a plan tonight.

Thank you @ale and @ktfran 🙂