veritek33

Whew, okay, where to start? Thank you @Wendy for your perspective. Just to clear one thing up, you mentioned planning holidays together? I think there might be some confusion. We had a date on Easter. It worked out that way because I was in town because My dad had been in the hospital and the guy called me that afternoon and asked if I was available for dinner. Dad told me to get out of the hospital and have fun for him, so that’s when we had the Hooters dinner date (maybe Hooters should have been a flag? 😉 )

As for the bottle of Jack, I bought it because he said that was his drink of choice and when we talked about having a date for his birthday (which was cancelled) I had offered to cook dinner because it was my “turn” to treat and finances are a little tight because of the furnace crapping out and the pre planned vacation. It was meant to be enjoyed with me and not really a gift I was giving him to keep and take home if that makes sense? Maybe I am giving off a red flag here. (Maybe I am one big giant red flag) Tinder Teacher and I had a date the weekend of my birthday and he had a bottle of my favorite wine waiting for me at his house so I guess I considered it to be a similar gesture?

All that said, yes, I admittedly am the worst at red flags. And no matter how frustrated with me you guys are, I promise I’m ten times more frustrated in myself. I honestly didn’t’ see the star as a red flag. Maybe a yellow flag, so maybe the flag color is in the eye of the beholder here? The multiple cancellations were definitely a red flag. I’ll definitely agree to that and agree that I give way too many chances.

My therapist and I talked a lot about this yesterday and I won’t go into everything we talked about but she basically surmised that I’m two things, Hopeful and Optimistic. And my hope and optimism gets in the way of spotting flags sometimes. And I would hate to not be a hopeful and optimistic person, so I have to figure out how to be better about spotting.

@jlyfsh yup! It’s a super target so they have a grocery section! I buy a lot of my wine there. Nothing refrigerated but two aisles of wine and alcohol.

lol @ladyinpurple sure! It’s really crazy.

Yesterday he sent me a (now I know he was drunk) text asking how many random dudes I talk to on the internet and how slutty I am. I’m like, WTF are you talking about and where is this coming from? He proceeded to tell me that this wasn’t worth salvaging and that he needed to focus on work and keeping his head in the game and I was a distraction. Then shit got REAL weird.

He said we had no real relationship and that no one knew about him and that I have no mention of him on my social media (um yeah because we’ve gone on TWO dates and also because I don’t air that shit on my social media) and that I didn’t profess my love for him. Because if it was meant to be I would have fallen in love with him immediately.

I responded that that’s not how this works. That’s not how any of this works…..

And he told me yes, that is how this works. And I’m not right for him and that I should have closed my dating accounts and put myself as in a relationship on facebook. IT. WAS. CRAZY. He couldn’t find time to go on a date with me but I’m the slut that won’t get off okcupid? WTF

I told him he was nuts and to go find his woman that falls immediately in love with him and to never contact me again. Then I blocked his number because he was pissing me off calling me slutty and such and I didn’t want to be tempted to write back and rant on him.

So I took the bottle of Jack Daniels I had bought for his birthday (when we had planned on spending it together) returned it to Target and bought stuff for my vacation! If I drank Jack I would have kept it, but SPF 70 seemed a better investment.

Yay for everyone’s awesome dates! I got…..nothing lol. Except the new guy really showed his ass and went all crazy train yesterday via text and OMG BULLET DODGED.

Happy hour guy wants to take me to a play when I get back from my vacation so I’ll do that and I’m sure we’ll have fun. Glad everyone is having a good time!

In my experience using Tinder, Match, Bumble and OkCupid – they’re all the same. You could get a guy looking for a hookup on match and a guy looking for something serious on Tinder. You just have to weed through them. I’ve made my fair share of mistakes figuring that out.

@abbytoo it did feel nice to finally say “this is not enough for me, when you’re done you can call and if I’m still available I’ll consider it.” I agree with @Lianne I probably took too long to get to that point…..but I can’t change that now.

My hometown is actually a town called Mexico, which is very confusing for people not from the area when I say “Oh I’m going to Mexico for the weekend.” So I plan on messing with some people around here and implying I’m going home and then coming back with sunburn and a hangover instead 😉 I took French and Spanish in high school and if nothing else, I know Gracias!