veritek33
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@Lianne maybe I’m reading too much into what you wrote but do you think I’m looking for a guy to “fix me or hold me up”? Just curious?
@wendy agree, I had two “meltdowns/emotional moments” with TT and part of that was because it was a really challenging period with my mom/buying and selling a house/ etc. Completely agree that might have been what turned him off/sent him running the other direction. I wasn’t asking to be coddled or anything, it was probably just a bad time for me to be dating honestly, in retrospect. Lesson learned.
As for dates, talked with GI Ginger on Friday but haven’t heard anything since so he must have been looking for a one night thing. Whatev. Army guy still texts every other day or so and we talk about lighthearted stuff, still plan on getting together in February to hang out/have dinner. Whatever happens, I enjoy having him as a friend, so not a total wash there.
I have a coffee date tonight with a grad student who seems pretty cool, so we’ll see what happens. I had crossfit, cleaned my house, had lunch with my parents and had a deep tissue massage and some ice cream last night so all is right with my world right now 🙂
Here’s the thing, and I’m sure you’ll disagree with me JimmyJamm because that’s the online relationship we’ve established so far – but shouldn’t the BEST advice be to just be yourself?
Meltdowns happen. Life happens. SHIT HAPPENS. And if you’re constantly worrying about not showing your ass before that magical 6 month mark, are you really being yourself? (Spoken as the person who has had meltdowns partially because I’m dealing with a mom with dementia who is verbally abusive to me and dammit, sometimes my eyes just start leaking when life is overwhelming and whoever is in the way gets to deal with it!)
I think ktfran is doing okay. Things seem to be working out and life is happening. I’m not sure what my point is other than I think you’re doing just fine kt, and sometimes shit happens and you have to have a meltdown. Now, all the time would be a bit different…
@ktfran it sounds like he was really receptive to what you were saying. And what does everyone say here, communication is like what, 75% of a relationship? So if you were able to effectively communicate that (after your meltdown) and he was able to take it and parse out what needed to be done, I think you’ve made great progress!
Oh also, since Army Guy title was already taken – we shall call him GI Ginger.
Mostly because it cracks me up. And you know, ginger.
Does not seem douchey. There was middle of the night sex, break of dawn sex, and beat the alarm clock sex. Then he found my kuerig and made me coffee and let the dogs out while I showered this morning. Already asked me out for a second date.
A good time was had by all.
I have an update on last night’s date.
I, Veritek33, for the first time in my adult life, took a man home on the first date. And it was FABULOUS.
I’m running on about 2 hours of sleep right now. NO RAGRETS.
(Please tell me you get the “We’re the Millers” reference??)
I would have punched him in the balls Dre. Maybe that’s just me.
Happy birthday @ktfran! Doing anything fun to celebrate?
@Stonegypsy that sounds like so much fun!!!
And @Kare I love dressing up and going out, just not all the time. Are you guys planning anything specific or winging it?
Update: I have a date tonight with (funny enough) another army guy from OkCupid. We just started talking yesterday, funny, good sense of humor and of course – a ginger. (I try to stray from my type, but what can I say?) We are meeting at a sports bar tonight for a drink and to play fooseball. I think it should be fun!
I understand Stone. I hope it works out and he gets off the struggle bus soon!
Thanks guys.
And @stone that sounds really exhausting. Like, really tiring. Are you happy with this arrangement?
