It’s Wedding Week on Dear Wendy! This week will be chock-full of wedding columns, gift guides, listicles, dollar dances and an open bar. If you love wedding content, this is your lucky week. If you hate wedding content, this is your lucky week because–open bar! But just kidding about the open bar.
So my question is: should I just shake it off and act like nothing happened? I feel they are being inconsiderate and selfish, and I have no desire in talking to them or including them in any future plans in my family. I am being immature?! — Bride’s Destiny
Destination weddings can be very, very expensive for guests to attend. When you decide to go the destination wedding route, you have to accept that even people who love you may not be able to afford it or may decide to spend their limited vacation budget and vacation time from work … on a real vacation rather than someone else’s wedding. So, yes, you’re being a little immature–although in your defense it IS rude to RSVP yes to a wedding and then change your mind two weeks later. But as I said, with a destination wedding you have to accept that cost is going to be prohibitive for many of the people you’d love to have attend. I certainly wouldn’t let this be the cause for never talking to a family member again — especially one who introduced you to your husband!
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