It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
How has dating buff, tall guys worked out for you so far? I’m thinking maybe not so great? But, sure, by all means, throw away an opportunity with a guy you say you feel like you “love” because he’s only two inches taller than you and doesn’t have as many muscles as guys you’ve dated in the past. Something tells me that you might be doing the guy a favor.
Forbidding your husband to talk to half of humanity because they have vaginas is bonkers. If there’s a legit reason you don’t trust your husband, deal with it together. If there’s not a legit reason, then find a way to get over your insecurity and your jealousy and your lack of trust — Therapy! Making friends and getting out! Pursuing hobbies and interests! Boosting your self-esteem through regular exercise, a healthy diet, flattering personal styling, and setting and accomplishing professional and personal goals! — before your new husband becomes your ex-husband.
It’s a good indication that he is not available to you for a relationship, whether because he’s not interested, he’s involved with someone else, or he lacks the self-confidence to develop anything further than an online friendship. MOA.
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