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It’s Donation Drive time again! We have an immediate — like very immediate — need for a new server. It won’t be cheap (best quote so far: $4200 for six months). Your donation will help purchase a new server that will accommodate DW’s growing traffic. Your donation will help ensure the continuation of this site. If you have ever considered donating, this is the time to do it (donate here). Goal is $7500 by next week. As of early this morning, we’re over $3695 — almost 50% to the goal! I’ve been overwhelmed by the response! Thank you so much. And now to our regularly-scheduled programming: It’s time again for Shortcuts. For…

I am a 27-year-old who’s “dating” a 32-year-old who lives 20 minutes away. I started talking to him 2-3 years ago on Facebook, but I didn’t meet him for the first time until this past October (he was in and out of relationships in between that time). After I saw him it was all sparks! We had a really great time. I couldn’t stop thinking about him and he felt the same way. This is the part where I’m confused: I didn’t see him for three months after we met. I finally saw him again a few weeks ago. I know you’re probably thinking I’m crazy, but I’m just trying to figure…

My boyfriend of 8 months is still friends with his ex, whom he was with for five years. I understand that he has love and respect for her as a person and that I should be respectful of his past and their relationship. However, their current relationship upsets me. In the beginning of our relationship he spoke with her almost every day by phone (she lives three hours away). I was open with him about how I was uneasy with that and I didn’t understand why they needed to communicate so often. I guess I should mention that they were together for five years and had only been broken up for a…

I’m 25, studying full time and working part time, and I’ve been dating a guy for two weeks. He’s 40, is working freelance part-time, and has never been married, or so he says. We got together — if you can call it that — quite fast. He never actually asked me out, but he bought me drinks and things escalated from there. A few days later he proposed to take me away for a day to a city close-by. I was quite shocked but also flattered at how spontaneous and romantic it seemed, so I thought, “Why not?” I thought it was a bit crazy but also that he must really like me,…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.