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I started a new job three weeks ago at a university and am currently sharing an office with a coworker. We are getting a dividing wall after the first of the year, but, given her recent behavior, I don’t think it’s going to help things too much. I usually sit at my desk with my headphones on and focus on the tasks I’m assigned, but when I skip a song on Spotify and have a brief moment of silence, I will hear her making extended personal phone calls or singing to herself with her music blaring. I have to call students and it’s very hard to hear them over all the noise…

My husband and I have been married for nearly a year, together around six. We have a very healthy and happy relationship in all areas, but lately have been struggling with one basically minor issue – his weed smoking. We had extensive conversations about both of our expectations and wants relating to this subject before getting married, and we had come to a mutual, “meet-in-the-middle” agreement. I essentially wanted him to not buy or smoke weed ever again after our wedding, while he wanted to continue smoking every day. We agreed on once or twice a week, at most, would be okay post-wedding. Since the wedding early last year, he has not…

There’s this man — let’s call him “Handsome” — whom I’ve been intimate with, on and off, for four years. He is going on 38, never had a girlfriend, yet claims to be “lonely” and self identifies as having “issues” when it comes to relationships. Whether this means he’s just a player, or actually desires more intimacy and vulnerability with a woman, remains a mystery. Since I’ve known Handsome, I had a child with another man (whom I love deeply and dearly, but that’s another topic for another day). When my son was about 20 months, Handsome and I reconnected and it felt redemptive, like the reset we had both been seeking. Our…