It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Warning: the following column contains rape themes that may be a sensitive topic for some readers. I found out a month ago that my sister and her husband were getting separated. This surprised me since they seemed mostly happy, and had only been married a couple of years. I live a few hours away so I didn’t get a chance to really talk to her about what was going on until I went home for a weekend a couple weeks ago. What I heard from her filled in a lot of the back story but was heart-breaking to hear. The really short version is that she was at a party with her…
A couple years ago I had a serious problem with using some hard drugs (cocaine and MDMA mainly). It spiraled out of control, and I nearly died. I was a missing person for six weeks and was physically and mentally abused and ruined. I then met my boyfriend who helped me in ways I will always be grateful for. He picked me up, and fed me back to a healthy size. I now work in the same company as he does as a manager and we couldn’t be happier. He has always told me he’d be done with me if I ever touched any drug again, and he has never ever had…
I’ve been in an long-distance relationship for two months. It’s the first LDR for both of us. Our relationship is not only complicated by distance, but there is also another element. Let’s just say our families are close and we don’t know how they would feel about us getting together. He’s 46 and I’m 43. Neither of us has ever been married. We live four states away. We’re secret lovers and I’m not cool with that, but I don’t see any other way. We’ve flirted with each other in years past and have come close to getting together, but I hesitated to go there. Two months ago I called him to check…
“I am 28 and work and live in a city I am not so fond of. I got a job offer here that I couldn’t pass up and I hated it from the get-go.”
It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
“I want him back and to put this right. How can I do that?”
I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months but have known him for many years since we attended the same school. He and his sister-in-law are too close for comfort for my liking. They share many secrets which her husband does not know about and they seem to confide in each other a lot and he can’t say a bad word about her. In fact, he can’t shut up about how amazing she is at everything. I have, for some time, had a strong gut feeling that there is more to this than meets the eye. I believe she’s jealous of me, even though we always used to get along. She’s…
“I’m in my mid-20s and met my long distance boyfriend a few years ago in his home country in Europe when I was studying abroad as a college student.”
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Ex Effect” who wondered if she really was as stupid as her friends, family and Google said she was for dating her ex again. Keep reading to see whether they’re still together and if she’s made peace with her decision.
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