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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend has introduced me to all his friends and family as his girlfriend, but we’re taking things slow as not to make mistakes (i.e. we’re not moving in together or sleeping together too quickly). We both have grown children — the youngest being my 17-year-old daughter — who, for the most part, get along. The problem is his ex-wife. She cheated on him which is why the marriage ended in divorce. A week after the divorce was final, she moved the children to another country…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Still Hurting” who wondered whether she should tell her boyfriend who got her pregnant that she lied about having a miscarriage and, in fact, had an abortion. Keep reading to see what she decided to do.

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

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I’m 27 years old and single. At times, I have no problem with this; I’d rather be alone than with the wrong person. Plus, only having to consider myself when making decisions is kind of a huge perk. But, obviously, at other times, it really bums me out and I think I’ll be alone and unloved forever, which is one of my biggest fears. It doesn’t help that I don’t have the greatest track record with maintaining relationships with friends and family. Honestly, I’ve only had one relationship, not counting the boyfriend in preschool who gave me A Little Mermaid necklace and a bloody nose. It wasn’t until I was 24 that…

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Scared of the Unknown” whose new boyfriend was expecting a baby with a friend he got pregnant shortly before they met. She really liked the guy and wondered whether this was a situation they could work through. It’s been a few months now and the baby has been born. Keep reading to see whether the LW is still with the boyfriend and how they’re doing now.

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend. In fact, I am in another country. We have only been together for three months, and just last week his mother of cancer. Of course, he was prepared for it but he is still in the denial phase. He told me that he needs some time to accept the loss and he even asked me for forgiveness because he is somewhat distant right now. But while he “takes time,” he continues his usual activities like nothing happened…

I have been dating my boyfriend for three years. When we first started dating he didn’t allow me to come to his daughter’s engagement party. When it was time for her shower, I had to plan it because her mother couldn’t be bothered. My boyfriend allowed me to go to that. At the shower, his ex-wife was nasty and disrespectful but always being a lady and taking the high road, I ignored the rude comments. Since the shower, my boyfriend had asked me to marry him. At the wedding his ex-wife was again rude and nasty and said I wasn’t wanted at the wedding. When it came time to go to our…

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, and just before Christmas we both moved out of our parents’ homes and into a one-bedroom flat in the same town. However, I’m just not happy anymore. I find myself crying all the time, and my heart is aching to be back home with my family. I love my boyfriend, but I’m only 20 and feel maybe I wasn’t ready. I know that, if I moved back home, my boyfriend wouldn’t understand and would see it as me not loving him. Is it normal to be this home sick? — Moved in Too Soon