Your Turn: “Should I Warn His New Girlfriend?”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: At the beginning of this past winter semester, “Jay” and I started hooking up. He initially asked me out and seemed really into me (he once loudly and clearly moaned “I love you” while we were having sex). I made it pretty clear that it was just sex and that I was not his girl if he was looking for a relationship, but he kept coming back. Eventually, he started to pull away, and we went through periods where he would be super close and friendly…

“I’m Worried About How My Boyfriend Expresses Anger”

I love to cook and have been doing it a lot more often now that I’ve moved in with my boyfriend (I cook and he agrees to do all the dishes). Recently, I was cooking dinner and he started eating candy, which irritates me to no end, and I said something about not doing that right before dinner and he got mad and sulked off to go shower while I finished dinner. As I walked into the bathroom he angrily sprayed me in the face with the shower head and said I was being really mean, before I had the chance to say anything. He then stormed off. I started wondering about…

Quickies: “My In-Laws are Crashing Our Christmas”

My mother-in-law just told my husband that she and my father-in-law are coming to town December 23 and staying until Christmas. Now, it’s a short visit, and since we’re having some other out-of-town guests that week, she doesn’t intend to stay with us, but it got me to thinking about when it’s appropriate/considerate to let someone know you’re coming to town. I feel like she kind of sprung this on us last minute; the holidays are usually so packed and planning can start months in advance. Shouldn’t you let people know you’re coming to town earlier than you might otherwise during the holidays? — The Inn is Full   Sure, but life happens…

“My Fiancée is Threatening to Move Out”

I met my now fianceé shortly after I had my home built. She moved in a few months later and all was well. A friend of mine who I had roomed with before was being kicked out of his rental home and I asked my fianceé what she thought about him moving in. She said it was fine and felt bad that he was being kicked out on such short notice. Within three months of him moving in with us, he got laid off. He found another job making significantly less money, but enough to still pay rent. Fast forward a few months to earlier this year and he and my fiancée…

“My Relationship is Like a Rollercoaster”

I am 29 and my boyfriend is 27 we are both educated professionals. We have been dating a year and a half and I feel like we are two fools in love who have no idea how to deal with it. I’ve been divorced for four years from my husband of eight years. My boyfriend had an eight year relationship that ended four years ago as well. We met a dating app and started out slowly, but I am now ready for a lifetime commitment from him. I’m ready to jump into an engagement, but he’s been backing away. Five months ago he was feeling me out for what I would say…

“He Refuses to Label Our Relationship”

I’ve been dating a guy for going on five months. He owns his own business (inherited from the family) and works about 80+ hours a week. It works out because I am living in a town about two hours away until May, and am only able to come home every other weekend. We talk on the phone every day, have met each other’s families and friends, tell each other we care about one other, talk about personal and painful issues, are monogamous, etc. However, when I attempted to have the ‘relationship’ conversation with him, he came back with the typical guy response of “Why do we need a label?” He has said…

Your Turn: “My Best Friend is Making a Huge Mistake”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have a little “situation” with my best friend, who is 27 and is thinking of investing a $100,000+ loan into a franchise specialty restaurant in the town where her boyfriend lives (we live in a smaller town nearby). Now, while I am totally supportive of her moving ahead in life and starting her own business, this one seems to have come out of nowhere. She never mentioned being at all interested in starting or owning her own business until a week and a half ago….

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