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I’ve been very close friends with both “Molly” and “Sarah” for over fifteen years. Sarah is married to Molly’s brother, so they are both friends and sisters-in-law. We are very close to each other and with each others’ families. About two years ago, Molly moved away to a major city and became extremely liberal, which is fine. I was happy that she was growing as a person and finding her own way in life. However, our friendship began to be strained around the 2016 election. We have very different political views, which I am totally OK with but Molly is not. She stopped speaking to me the day of President Trump’s inauguration,…

I’m looking for advice for some ugly behavior of mine that is yet again rearing its head. It’s the classic comparison syndrome that especially is prevalent with social media. This time it’s related to my co-worker. I’m jealous of her. I think she’s prettier, taller (well, that’s a fact), fitter, smarter, and better at the job than I am. Oh, and of course she’s really nice. Sometimes I find myself saying passive-aggressive snide remarks to her accidentally, that I don’t really mean. Usually I am friendly/professional though. She started dating someone a month before I did, and we’ve been chit-chatting about that over the course of our relationships since we kind of…

From the forums: I have a 3-year-old daughter and have been married to my husband for two years (he adopted my daughter after we got married). I am five months pregnant with our second child and we couldn’t be happier. Before I met my husband, I lived with my parents, who live in the same town as we do. I moved back home because I thought it would be hard raising my daughter without support. It had nothing to do with my financial situation, as I have my masters and make good money. When my daughter was four months old, my youngest brother, 23 at the time, also lived at home and…

My husband and I have been married for eight months now. We are crazy in love with each other. My husband is a widower, and he and his late wife were married for twenty-nine years. For the last five years of their marriage he lived out of state and she stayed “home.” This was due to his losing his job and needing to support the family. She stayed home because she didn’t want to leave when he got a new job. The kids were almost out of college. Unfortunately, she passed away, and we found each other pretty soon — six months — after her passing. We fell in love, and two…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

Today’s letters are in honor of all the young women 25 and under who are struggling in love, throwing themselves at guys who give them barely a hint of recognition, hanging the whole value of themselves on whether or not their feelings for some guy are reciprocated, imagining their lives as essentially over if their future does not include the guy who only calls at night when he’s a little drunk and kind of horny. Ladies, I see you, I hear you, I was you once. Consider me the ghost of Christmas Future here with a message for you: It gets better. Your feelings for the guy who only calls at night…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. I wrote before (letter #2 here) and you told me to leave the guy because he wasn’t ready and that I should move on. So I did, and once I started dating someone else seriously he came out of the woodwork and said he is in love with me and…