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I’ve reached some trouble in my three-year relationship with my boyfriend. We can’t seem to agree on the topic of going out and drinking. We do love each other and want to work something out but can’t seem to make it work. He likes to go out and he says it helps him blow off steam and feel good to take a break from everyday life stressors. His mom used to and still does go out clubbing with her friends somewhat frequently, so he thinks this is normal and acceptable. I feel feel abanndoned when he goes out. He usually drinks too much and has in the past gotten into some trouble…

My girlfriend’s cousin is getting married this November. We’ve had the date to their wedding for months now. My girlfriend is extremely close to her cousin and their family and that side of her family does not come together often. Furthermore, many of her closest family members, whom she hasn’t seen in years because they live on the other side of the country, will be there. Also, her cousin comes from money so this will probably be the nicest/classiest event she will be able to attend for, what she believes, the rest of her life. This would also be one of her only chances to introduce me to everyone. To complicate matters,…

Three years ago I sought out-of-state treatment for alcoholism. While my family supported my recovery, they didn’t want much to do with me afterward, and, with no money after treatment, I couldn’t afford rent in my hometown. But their lives improved so greatly without me around, not to mention their relationships with each other, that I was happy being alone. So I threw myself into my work and began making a decent living through self-employment. After two years, I was finally making enough to move back to my home state. Then everything fell apart. See, while my brother has always been the responsible one, he’s arguably been as entitled as I. When…

My girlfriend and I have split up after three years. We have a 1-1/2 year old son. We split up because I am emotionally detached and she is an extremely emotional person. The breakup was 75% my fault and I accept that. I know what’s wrong with me and I have been seeking help. It’s been about two months since we split, and she is seeing someone new who has been in and out of the court system and is a known alcoholic and drug user and uses women and chucks them, so to speak. She hasn’t let him around my son or my stepdaughter yet, which is good, but after two…

My fiancé has an ex whom he met after she had just given birth to her second born. They dated for two years, broke up, and then she got into another relationship and gave birth to her third-born son (all her kids are from different men and she is currently a single mom). My fiancé has continued taking care of the kids to date. The mother of the kids has, on various occasions, asked my fiancé to cut off the relationship between him and the kids, but he is reluctant to do that. He says the kids call him “Dad,” because he has been in their lives since they were young and…

I’ve met a really great woman online, and, before meeting face-to-face, she had sent me pictures of herself — both taken a few years ago as well as recent ones. I am VERY attracted to how she looked when she was younger. She did tell me that she gained about 40 lbs. when she caring for her ill mother and wishes she was skinny like she used to be. We have amazing conversation, spending hours on the phone talking, and I really like who she is as a person. She seems to possess qualities of exactly what I would want in a partner; however, I am not sure if I can get…