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I am 19 years old and in college. I have been with my boyfriend, on and off, since my first weekend here when I met him, two years ago. We broke up last year for a couple months and then got back together and have been together ever since. My boyfriend was my first and only until we went on the break and I played the field. I love my boyfriend very much, but recently — and this sounds so bad — I’ve been wondering if I’ve been in a relationship for too long and I could possibly be missing other things out there. I don’t know how I feel about having…

I’ve been with my fiancé, “Jim,” for seven years and we have been engaged for a little over one year. When I first met him, I knew how much of a family man he was — it’s one of the reasons I fell in love with him. His family is all located within the same area in the state where we went to college, twenty minutes from our university. I am from a nearby state and moved home after graduation. Jim had never left his hometown and had told me he wants to be close to his family when we finally settle down into a house. His mom died years ago when…

“My husband and I have been together almost ten years, and have just purchased our first home. His mother, who lives a few miles away, is driving me NUTS.”

I met my ex-boyfriend two months after his mother was tragically killed and one month after he broke up with his girlfriend of three years. He didn’t tell me about either of these until two months into the relationship. We had an awesome honeymoon stage in the relationship and I was sure he was very much into me. I loved him completely and I felt the same from him. Then, six to seven months into the relationship, we started to have arguments and fights. We would go into apathy mood and I couldn’t understand why he started acting out. He would compare me to his sisters and cousins, and I started to…

My boyfriend of nine months, Mark (26), has a sister, “Rachel” (30), and one evening while we were all at at their parents’ place she went on and on and on about how sexy she thinks her brother is, which was weird. We — my boyfriend, his sister, her boyfriend of four years, and I — left the parents’ place and went to the grandmother’s place, and, while we were there, I noticed Mark rubbing Rachel’s thigh for a bit and then pull her legs onto his lap, slide his hand up her pant leg, and rub her calf. I was TOTALLY freaked out. I’ve seen him slap her butt a few…

I’m the middle sister between two brothers whom I love dearly and with whom I have complicated but cherished relationships. Last year, our father died tragically and unexpectedly. My mother, brothers, husband and I are still grappling with the pain and shock of his death and have been trying as hard as we can to rebuild our family unit around his absence. My older brother, “John,” is what you might call a late bloomer when it comes to relationships, career path, and adult independence — he has just begun to come into his own as he approaches his thirtieth year, and, as a result, I tend to feel (and be treated) like…