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Recently, I found out that my boyfriend, “Nick,” whom I’ve been living with for four months now, still keeps in touch with his ex-girlfriend, “Karen,” to find out how her two-year-old daughter, “Amy,” is doing. Nick and Karen had been dating for a while when Karen got pregnant. Nick believed the baby was his and was with Karen though her pregnancy and for a few months after Amy was born, until Nick’s sister became suspicious of Karen’s relationship with her ex and convinced Nick to have a paternity test done. It turned out that Amy wasn’t Nick’s biological daughter and that Karen had cheated on him with her ex. Nick tried to…

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I was at a function a week ago where a much younger man was flirting with me — he waved and said hi, and I waved back. Then he leaned in to say hello, but I gave him no response and continued to talk with family. My boyfriend, who is very insecure after bad past relationships, can’t get over this. I have promised that, if this should happen again, I will kindly say, “I am flattered by your interest, but I have a boyfriend whom I love, so kindly stop.” I’m sorry I didn’t say that a week ago because I’m paying for it now. What can I do to move forward…

I’ve been with my boyfriend four years now. Since meeting him, I always saw red flags but thought we could get past them. He keeps in contact with his exes via Facebook, phone, and text msgs. He told one ex that he’s only using me to get a motorcycle, that he sleeps in his clothes or robe so that his thing won’t touch me, that we don’t have sex, and that I’m ugly. When I approached him, he said he only said those things to see if it would get back to him. I don’t know why I have feelings for him — he’s unemployed, and, though he does watch my kids…

From a recent Savage Love column: I’m a 27-year-old male engaged to a 26-year-old female. We have been together 6 years. We met at college. We’ve lived together for almost three years. We have been saving to buy a house together. Well, I have been. She makes less than me and has a lot more debt than me. We got pre approved. We found a house, loved it, got the offer in. Offer accepted. Home inspection went well. Now we are at the stage where the bank needs us to sign 60 documents in order to actually get the house. Last night I found out that she has $90k more debt than…