His Take: “How Do I Put the Moves on a Woman?”

I am a happy, well-adjusted bisexual woman in my mid-twenties. Since I began dating in my early teens, I’ve been in a mostly steady stream of long-term, monogamous relationships with men. I’ve always been attracted to women too, but my experience with the fairer sex is limited to a few random (mostly drunken) sexual encounters — no actual dating. My amazing boyfriend of three years told me early on that he would not consider it cheating if I wanted to see women too. I recently decided to take him up on that, and with his blessing, I set up an account on a dating website. Overall, this has been a good experience….

His Take: “What Do These Relationship Red Flags Mean?”

For the last five months, I have been exclusively dating a guy friend. We were acquaintances for two years before we reconnected at a friend’s party in October and started going on dates immediately after. We’re both in our mid-twenties and I’d like to move things forward a bit, but I see two possible red flags. First, every month or two, he will just drop off the grid (he’s not online, doesn’t answer his phone, doesn’t answer his friends) for half a week, even if we had plans. Generally, I’m okay with him needing so much alone time, but I’m not fond of occasionally being stood up. The second red flag: although…

His Take: “Why Does My Best Guy Friend Have Feelings For Someone Else?”

I have really strong feelings for my best guy friend. We’ve been really close for about five years and over time my feelings for him just get stronger and stronger. He is truly an amazing man: strong, understanding, and deeply loves his friends and family. He knows I have feelings for him; we’ve discussed them several times before. He’s never said he doesn’t have feelings for me. When he describes what he most values in a woman, they are the same qualities he’s said he loves in me (often word for word). But over the last year, he’s professed to be interested in a mutual good friend of ours. They are also…

His Take: “Why Won’t He Label Our Relationship?”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. I’ve been seeing this guy for almost nine months now and I would like to put a label on the relationship we have. We’ve spoken about this a few times and both agree that we’re exclusive, not interested in anyone else, and that we basically are in a relationship, but he says he’s not ready to put the title on it. He says we’re moving toward a relationship, but…

His Take: “Will He Ever Quit Drinking So Much And Settle Down?”

I love my boyfriend very much, but he’s a restless soul and loves to go out at night as much as possible. I totally trust him and what’s going on, but it happens so frequently during the week (3-4 days a week, while he holds down a demanding job), and he ends up drinking what I think is way too much (4-5 beers per night). If we were in our 20s, I would care much less. But we are both in our 30s, and this is the phase of my life that I’m looking for a life partner and potential father of my children. Granted, he spends a good amount of quality…

His Take: “Is He Ready For Our Future or Not??”

My boyfriend of a year seems leery of taking the next step in our relationship. I have tried to talk to him about moving in together when I buy a house in a few months, but he has been resistant to the idea. (FYI: I don’t plan to buy the house with him, just for him to live there with me and pay rent.) After dealing with him avoiding conversations about future plans while still constantly saying how he wants to be with me and loves me so much, I’ve decided to not bring it up again until I’m closer to house-shopping time. Then last night, out of the blue, he says…

His Take: “Should I Dump My FWB?”

I recently engaged in a long-distance, friends-with-benefits relationship with an acquaintance. After contacting him regarding a business question, he poured his heart out about ending his relationship, and I consciously decided to support him in his time of need (he was also dealing with frustrations and stress at work). He eventually proposed visiting me and we decided to take it to the next level (physically) but agreed to stay casual and friends only. From that first day, we were in contact daily for six months. We traveled across the country to visit each other multiple times and we talked about everything in our lives. And then it just stopped. I tried to…

His Take: “My Boyfriend Gives Other Women Gifts”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about seven months now. He has always bought women he works with little gifts (a little slinky for a lady who likes slinkies, a bear at a basketball game for a girl that got us free tickets, candy for his boss). The…

His Take: “He’s Choosing Porn Over Me”

I’m 26 and I live with my 29 year-old boyfriend of over a year. We have a wonderful relationship and he is very, very good to me. However, my laptop broke recently and when I started using his, I quickly discovered that, like most men, he is a fan of pornography. It’s nothing serious — he just visits certain websites maybe 4-5 times a week. While I understand it’s normal for guys, I can’t help but feel taken for granted of on the nights when I get home from work and he doesn’t initiate sex. We used to have sex twice a day, but now it’s just 4-5 times a week, which…

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